Adore Small Steps

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I want to share a personal story first. Upon completing my PhD, I attended a university as a lecturer. The university had great entertainment center, which included great swimming pools. That time I couldn’t swim. My peers invited me on one weekend to a lunch party by the swimming pool. A while after lunch everybody threw himself in the swimming pool while I was watching them. The kids of my peers made fun of me because I couldn’t swim.

That I couldn’t swim wasn’t my fault as I lived in a place where there were no swimming sites. I didn’t wish to be mocked at again. My initial thoughts were to stop going to the entertainment center. Those negative thoughts for a little while. And then I changed my thoughts to β€œif kids could swim, couldn’t I”? I was shy to learn swimming in front of others. So, I decided to go first to a shallow pool at night and float first. I needed to be light to float like cork. The first steps we difficult. However; I kept trying till finally I floated successfully. Synchronizing my body movement with my breath was my next step. Next week I went to the Olympic swimming pools to join my peers.

I remembered this story this morning and the great lessons it taught me unconsciously. It reminded me of what Gandhi said, which I depict in the image below.

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First is first. Only when we change our thoughts we may change our words. If our thoughts are negative, so shall be our words. When I changed my thoughts from being misfortunate not to have learnt swimming as a kid to if kids can swim, and so I can my paralysis to try changed to try and act. I acted only to form the habit of swimming every day. My value of myself increased and so my destiny did.

We can improve by changing our thoughts. This is a must. We don’t need to change in big steps. This is the fortunate thing because these changes are affordable and manageable. We might think they are tiny, unimportant and worthless. This is far from reality. A change in thoughts will lead eventually to changing our paths in life and our destiny accordingly. Never belittle small positive changes because they may have great impacts in the future. When I change today I am a better person tomorrow. When I change tomorrow I am a better person the day after tomorrow. At first results will be small and unnoticeable, but with time acceleration will happen naturally and all of a sudden, I shall find myself on a springboard to a better destiny.

Look at how small differences make huge changes from real life examples. Two chemicals with the same chemical structure how they differ in one form turning polarized light to the right and the other to the left. Small differences but could have great impact such as one form will safe and the other could be devastating to our health. Look at your right hand and left hand and even though they look similar; still we mostly use the right hand far more efficiently than we use the left hand. Same with us, two slightly different thoughts might have adverse effects with one being great for us and the other taking us astray.

It is the poverty of thoughts that separate people. One person with the thought I can and the other with the thought I can’t. Today they might be on equal footage, but in the distant future they shall be significantly different on their paths.
Ali Anani

Change your thoughts to change your destiny.


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Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

#52
thank you so much highly appreciated Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#51
Thank you Lyon Brave

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#49
One thought I wish to express here. This is is a great human and writer with a great sense.

Lyon Brave

Lyon Brave

3 years ago #37

NICE SHARE!

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

we are not our thoughts but they matter for sure!

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

let's say no to separation, and create the best thoughts that can be Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee adore this topic, well written article and very inspiring!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#46
I can say your comment is just great Jerry Fletcher. Absolutely, the attitude and mindset make huge differences. If there is will there is way. Your story says it loudly.

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

3 years ago #33

Ali, yesterday I was doing a workshop on marketing as part of a series put on by the local Chapter of the National Speakers Association. The workshop series is for people intent on becoming professional speakers. One attendee, a victim of childhood polio, was in one of those mobile chairs. I learned that she had just put on a successful event that brought in a crowd of hundreds and scheduled four of her colleagues from the class. Her way of telling people about what she does: she describes herself as the "Priestess of Can." She told me that she believes that if a person says, "I can" they will. Yes, it takes one step at a time but the first is to say, "I can."

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#44
I couldn't agree more with you Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven. I tell you I have three forthcoming posts ideas resulting from comments of readers. They engage my mind and keep me in the action mode as well.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#42
It is amazing how we learn from swimming and share same experience . I didn't live by even a river and so you were fortunate to have the inviting ocean nearby. Yes, small steps are small today, but they become important tomorrow. It is like saving a dollar per day in a bank and watching the saving reach an unexpected wealth. The real wealth for me is to to connect with people of your caliber my friend from whom I may learn a little, but will compound to spiritual wealth later on.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#39
In science we find that the maximum work we may get is through going into small steps. This is also the logical thinking behind integration. I agree with you Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador- going in small steps first is a better way and surely in the early stages is a better way. Sometimes the direction of steps may change from getting first help from others to helping ourselves. Hopefully, to later to start helping others.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#38
The real poetry is to reunion with a friend with whom I lost contact for years now. Lori Kane- so you joined beBee. @Javier beBee congrats on attracting this wonderful lady to the community if beBee. I intend to write a buzz soon to welcome Lori to beBee. All ladies here- you have a great force with great achievements and many stories to tell about her successes and temporary failures, which eventually turned into successes. .

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

Step by step is how we grow. Sometimes we get help and sometimes we have to help ourselves. It's true that we have to change our thoughts to change our destiny, which includes a willingness to learn. I learned to swim in elementary school, which in FL the age starts at 6 yrs old. Learning to swim was a requirement for several of the local schools. I'm grateful I learned at an early age.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Bettina Beecher- I guess you are new to beBee so I welcome you. Thank you for your encouraging comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
The negative social effect you experienced is the same one I did Debesh Choudhury. There is a way out as we both experienced to try away from the this negative effect of social mocking. I am glad you can swim now.

Debesh Choudhury

Debesh Choudhury

3 years ago #25

Great post Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, little steps are most important .. Learning to swim is a difficult yet enjoying experience. I remember that I learned swimming in my when I was in college. All my friends used to laugh at me during the school days. I had avoided them and water. Then, one day I decided to try it alone, everyday in the morning, and within a couple of weeks I could somehow swim.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
Thank you Zacharias \ud83d\udc1d Voulgaris. Your comment is timely. I am thinking and re-thinking this buzz pursuant to me reading the comment of @CityVP Manjit #30. The beauty of interactions is well-manifested in my case. I am asking myself mow- when we are in our comfort zones are we in actuality in a state where we put our minds in their comfort zones? If so, how good this is? If good, then for short or long times? I started to think about all cyclic processes and their rotation. When we say something turned the wheel of my mind on and it started rotating- what exactly does it mean? I shall share my ideas in ten days or so with the readers. The point I am trying to make here is that interesting comments make our mind rotate, but how fast? In which direction? Thank you all commenters for taking my mind out of its comfort zone.

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

That's good food for thought! :-)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
Thank you @CityVP Manjit. If you imagine each cup of the wheel is filled with water with a hole in the bottom cup. Now, the wheel rotates with and above which there is a running faucet that fills the cups as they rotate. The capacity of each cup is fixed; however the capacity of each cup to be fully filled is determined by the rates of filling and emptying. So, as we increase the rate at which determined by the the wheel rotates at one point the wheel shall show a strange behavior as it starts to rotate clockwise and anticlockwise and then with slightly increasing the rate of filling chaotic behavior will emerge running unpredictably from rotating in a virtuous direction and suddenly in the vicious direction. Sometimes we become chaotic when we try to not balance "our filling with our emptying".

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

3 years ago #21

The attribution here is as fascinating as the connection between thoughts-words-actions-habits-values-destiny-thoughts Quote investigator connects prior sources of this here https://quoteinvestigator.com/2013/01/10/watch-your-thoughts/ A question at Quora further dug a much deeper path to the source or roots of this https://www.quora.com/Who-said-this-quote-Gandhi-or-Margaret-Thatcher Either way, it is a very sound way of looking at how thoughts manifest themselves and thus can turn the wheel of life in a vicious direction or a virtuous one.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
Thank you for your unlimited support Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee. You wrote "a huge from Madrid". Now, I have to figure the missing word. I respond by saying a huge respect for you from Amman.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
Challenge as your expressed in your comment Deborah Levine "I'll show them" is truly a great motivator. Those who don't challenge even themselves shall stay in the valley of comfort. Yes, curiosity and wonderment are strong motivators, but rightly you self internal motivation is what counts. I agree with no question with your vivid comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
I am so glad to read your comments again my friend Joanne Gardocki. You touched briefly upon my next buzz which shall address thoughts from a different angle. You wrote that thoughts are the basis for our actions. That is what I shall be discussing. I immensely enjoyed reading your comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#22
I miss the beauty of your charming comments my dear Lisa Vanderburg. I hope you always land in the harbor of safety

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

3 years ago #16

Wonderful buzz, as usual. Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, a huge from Madrid !

Lisa Vanderburg

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #15

#17
Ah, dear friend Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I have so missed your fluid solidity (is that a contradiction?) - the beacon of safe harbor in a tumultuous sea, which is where I've been. I cannot tell you how much reading your thoughts brings such joy - thank you!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
Sure and confident through making few small steps. That is what you are my dear . No, my buzz on fear isn't ready yet and hope to publish late next week. That I shall dedicate to you. However; yes this buzz is related to your thoughts as you admirably explained.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#16
I love sharing and more with comments that make me want to dive on in...the water's fine" my dear Lisa Vanderburg

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
What you meant probably my dear friend Lisa Vanderburg is that it is so great to read your comments again. Whenever you comment on one of my buzzes I feel refreshed. Where have you been "hiding"? I truly miss your mind and sweet soul.

Lisa Vanderburg

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #11

Dive on in...the water's fine!

Lisa Vanderburg

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #10

You demonstrate the sheer beauty and simplicity of 'changing one's mind' - perhaps one of our greatest abilities..certainly the most freeing! So good to have read you again, dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
You describe mature behaviors very elegantly dear Debasish Majumder. I know you shall expand your comment and write a poem. I see the ripples of your poem and I am riding them gratefully.

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

3 years ago #8

once one may dip into the water, immediately the ripples he may produce may vary from one person with other. but the ripples in the water body is inevitable. now, the question how one may react to it, as it will produce a reflection to ones faculty. whether he may clouded with fear or overcome the situation he may confronting with, perhaps chiefly depends on his receptive capacity as well desire to accommodate with the confronting changes. however, adorable buzz indeed sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz sir.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
Correct dear Bill King. I shared this buzz on LI. A commenter made a great comment based on Aladdin's magic lamp. Your comment is also spot on and both stories remind us that we leave treasures of the past neglected. Sad indeed.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#9
#9 I have just responded to your other comment dear Tausif Mundrawala. You are a wise man my friend.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
You carry a bag of wisdom my dear Tausif Mundrawala. It is a great reminder that you carry with you optimism. That is why you act. You know that when we take small actions because our thoughts and words are aligned to prompt us to act we may experience success or failure. From failure wise people like you learn and advance. Keep carrying your bag and let it tell others why you are successful.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

#5
Yes dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Actions that stem from our hearts tend to stay longer with us and are strong as well. Thank you once again for the reflective read. :)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#4
In the turbulent sea of life we need to be able to float my dear . We shall float better and with more relaxation if we do it with thoughts that don't bypass our hearts. But, as you mentioned, sometimes we do what doesn't please our hearts to justify our actions. Like somebody enjoys smoking, but quits. However; I find that actions that stem from our hearts tend to stay longer wit us. I wonder if you would agree! I tell you one thing- the water that passes through your nose while swimming shall come out purer. You mind and heart are as clean as spring water in a spring day.l

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

A wonderful buzz dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Our thoughts become our words, our words lead to actions and our actions either drive value or vice versa. I agree with the fact that if we sit and crib about failure we aren't going to get anywhere. But if we actually start thinking about how to fix what's taking a toll on us, we will find many ways to resolve the same thing. Our thoughts need to bypass through our hearts sometimes. To justify our actions. To reason if these actions are good for the self and the ones around and if we can gain & give any value from that single act. Even though you went sly on learning how to float and swim, it only showed you the extent to which you actually believe in yourself, which is why you let go of the fear and floated you felt like you had your feet on the ground again. I am unable to float now though I can swim and used to float a few years ago, I am not scared of drowning but I am scared of the water going into my nose :) A thought-provoking article by our dear grand beBee ambassador :)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Thank you dear Savvy Raj for your encouraging comment and sharing the buzz. A question to you- where have you been lately? It is great to read your comments and hopefully your outstanding buzzes as well.

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