Creativity in Making the Incompatible Compatible
Harvey Lloyd made a splendid comment on my previous buzz. In his comment Harvey wrote "The word coexistence in itself tends to bring forward two independent thoughts that must survive within the same space. How we approach these independent thoughts will determine synergy or compromise. Interdependence removes the ceilings of coexistence".
I responded "The easy path is to think of the incompatible thoughts as two opposing ends. However; creative thinking looks for creative solutions. You open my eyes to a buzz that I should write- How to Make the Incompatible compatible"? This is how the idea of this buzz originated.
Many people start their lives very compatible to the extent you think of the two bodies as one. On the surface this is delightful; below the surface it could be a source of problems to appear. Plants may suffer from self-incompatibility meaning that plants fail to produce seeds when self-pollinated.
Sometimes we may need purposefully to induce incompatibility so that seeds of new ideas may form.
Ali Anani, PhD
Many compatible people or married couples start life very compatible. However; over the course of life they diverge in to different trajectories and find the gap between them growing till it can no longer be bridged. They become like milk and fat being inhomogeneous and separating in two layers. Should this happen what to do?
One way to deal with incompatibility is introducing a third party with two ends. One end is compatible with one party (say the husband) and the other end compatible with the second party (wife). This way the third party acts as a bridging agent between the otherwise incompatible partners.
The separation of interests over time between partners may turn their togetherness incompatible. This isn't time for blaming; it is time to understand each partner. It is like we understand the early need to deal with pebbles of problems as soon as they appear. If these pebbles stay they shall act as nucleating centers for other pebbles to aggregate to. People don't throw away these pebbles and keep them in their memories. Expressing concerns early on will help in dissolving those pebbles before they grow big and attract other pebbles to them.
There are two poles one with milk and one with no milk and in between there is a compromise- skimmed milk. If differences are so fatty then we need to remember that shall separate and float on the surface of milky relationships where they can be skimmed off. We need little patience to allow enough time for these problems to float. We need to skim off our differences.
Another possible approach is washing off the dirt of problems. Like dirt we remove by adding soap. Soap preferentially attracts the oily dirt and suspends it in water where it can be removed. A couple might be like oil and milk and are incompatible, but still they may find a way to suspend the dirt in their relationship by finding an idea or approach that attracts this dirt and suspend it.
If we can clean our clothes, then we shall be able to clean our differences.
Ali Anani, PhD
We tend sometimes to aggravate problems by doing incorrect actions. Like we need to avoid cold drinks after meals because they may cause digestive problems; equally we need to avoid cold discussions immediately after having a hot and fatty discussion. The timing of our discussions is so important so as not to turn even a "good meal together" into a bad one. We do frequent practices that harm us. We take banana after drinking milk which might produce toxins in the body. Or, we take citrus fruits after drinking milk si that we feel sour. Same way, two couples may sour their conversations. Milk is good, citrus fruits are good; their consumption together is harmful. We introduce incompatibility to our lives same way. We insist on discussing topics irrelevant of their sequence and if this sequence could make us feel sour.
We should be observant of what sours our compatibility and find ways to avoid them, reduce them as much as finding ways of being aware of what inflates incompatibility. More importantly is finding creative solutions that are acceptable for both parties.
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Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #23
Research has shown that in small, localized regions, glass behaves like a crystal, with atoms aligned in an orderly matrix. But at long-length scales, its disorder dictates its flexibility; Dears Sara Jacobovici- order on a small scale and disorder on a large scale coexisting. https://www.livescience.com/40326-glass-molecules-motion-captured.html Noticeable is that disorder dictates the flexibility of glass. I wonder what you think
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #22
I couldn't resist responding to your comment dera Vincenzo De Florio because of its robustness. You remind me of proteins folding and how they interact with the environment by changing their shapes, stretching and folding. The proteins ability to perceive incompatibility and their reaction teach us how to respond to environmental stresses. SO much t think about my friend.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #21
You are absolutely correct dear Sara Jacobovici. I fully agree with you "Perhaps it would help if we were more conscience of not just how compatibility or incompatibility happens or takes place, but when to be in that process in order to achieve the optimum benefits". You, being process oriented, provoked the highlighting of such an important point. I am sure this point should receive the merit it deserves.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #20
You always so that creativity comes first dear Sara Jacobovici. It is ignoring this fact that makes solutions expensive.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #19
I add my voice to yours dear Sara Jacobovici. Sara, I like this so much " fracture stimulating stronger bone structure in the healing process"?
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #18
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #17
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #16
#18 Very intriguing discussion gentlemen, Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. My bias leans toward a developmental model that sees the ability to be creative taking place first, then within that environment, we come up with great thoughts and the discovery of facts.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #15
Forgive me for my ignorance Vincenzo De Florio, but I am intrigued by the word "resilience", when you say, "...incompatibility is a necessary catalyst to a system's resilience." Is it the process of "reacting" to the incompatibility, to perhaps "resolve" it, that strengthens a system's resilience, such as a fracture stimulating stronger bone structure in the healing process? I appreciate your perspective of this being an important part of our systems, "It is another reason why diversity is a key asset in our systems and ecosystems."
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #14
What a lovely thought dear Laurent Boscherini. I am sleeping on it for I am sure a forthcoming buzz will expand on your comment. SUperb comment yours is my friend.
Laurent Boscherini
منذ 6 سنوات #13
dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, that reminds me The Great Hippocampus Question, which was a 19th-century scientific controversy about the anatomy of apes and human uniqueness. Facts vs Creativity, before to turn both side into a factual Creativity to enlighten scientific facts, as a paradigm of this paradox.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #12
This is the irony or paradox my dear friend Laurent Boscherini. Creativity is finding easy and cost-effective solutions, but we make the cost of self acceptance very high. Is this due to lack of creativity?
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #11
Then do I hope to read a buzz on your reflections my dear friend Vincenzo De Florio? I hope so
Laurent Boscherini
منذ 6 سنوات #10
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #9
- Acknowledging what we do is a sign of self awareness. You have this awareness dear Paul Walters. I wish you safe flights and that you land on the awakening realization that you know what to do to stop aggravating problems. You are so genuine with your support. It is enough to notice a comment by you to feel my heart flying with joy.
Paul Walters
منذ 6 سنوات #8
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #7
At least I have the will to say thank you with my deepest gratitude to your kind words and great wishes dear Simone Luise Hardt. Have a splendid and joyful day.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #6
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #5
Yes, we have come full circle Harvey Lloyd. Your mentioning of emotional needs within the context of your comment is spot on. The root causes of incompatibility are worthy of a study on their own. Your mentioning of self awareness maturity is indeed a source of incompatibility (self-incompatibility). This idea to look further of what causes it appeals to me strongly. I believe you put your finger on a hot issue- self awareness at home, at work and how it affects home and business relationships. Thank you Harvey for you unfailingly trigger my mind with new ideas and directions.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #4
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #3
debasish majumder- you are of diamond- a little "scratch" comment shall not break you.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #2
You experienced this dear debasish majumder. Didn't you encounter any incompatibility with somebody without even knowing why? What you thought of a s a homogeneous platform suddenly you find yourself facing an heterogeneous comment for no reason? SOmetimes we don't know where the seeds of incompatibility fell from. You know this better than I.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #1