Crying over Spilled Ideas

Crying over Spilled Ideas

If you receive a negative and hugely critical comment on your buzz- how would you react?

If you are in a meeting and somebody proposes an idea or expresses a provocative one leading to hating up the meeting room with negative responses and sometimes throwing glass cups what would you do? I experienced this many times during my life and I want to share some bold ideas with you.

I am sure most of you experienced the same. We have seen fighting and exchange of harsh words during meetings. I believe these conducts are immature and reflect defending ideas that are not worthy. Yes, those people fight over issues that have little value, if any. Let me explain.
Your idea is worthy and is of high value- It is honey-like. If it were, then you would not expose it to extended heating. Honey loses it nutritional value if heated. Worse, if we allow the water in honey to evaporate. Not only honey shall become
darker and less translucent, but also destroy its enzymes. In doing that, honey loses its health value and becomes vulnerable to mold and bacterial growth. What started as a honey-like idea becomes a harmful one and threatening to our common understanding.

Remember that discussions are like the glass cup in front of you when you throw this cup at someone because of anger resulting from differing thinking or beliefs that you don't only break the cup, but also spill your ideas Β over the floor. We can't cry over spilled ideas. Glass expands on heating and shrinks upon cooling. Glass has low thermal conductivity meaning that the surface shall be hot while the inner core is still cold. Glass is also hard and brittle. It is the combinations of this triad of properties that make glass behave uniquely. These three facts are why glass can crack when suddenly cooled. And ironically, the same principles allow us to make tempered glass extremely strong.Β This is an example of how we are the process and the process is in us, as Sara Jacobovici wrote in one of her comments. We need to temper glass-like moods and behaviors so that we may get a better glass container for our ideas instead of fragile glass and ending with losing the idea, the glass container and our connections by turning them into hostile ones.

Crying over Spilled Ideas

"We can't cry over spilled ideas"- on the contrary as creative thinking may turn them into useful products.

The story doesn't end here. We need more positive thinking to turn broken glass to a useful product. Yes, we don't need to cry over spilled ideas. Almost everyone viewed broken glass as problematic one. It was only recently that broken glass was mixed with a material that upon heating releases gas. The glass melt becomes foamy this way. The result is a foam glass property with unique insulation value.

You have broken relationships?

You have a broken heart?

You have a broken faith?

You have broken confidence?

We all have. The challenge is to convert those broken bodies into a product that insulates us from fear and doubt.

One last point is to remember that the froth on honey even though is not appealing; still it has a great nutritional value. If some people discard off it it doesn't mean your idea isn't worthy. In the froth bubbles lies your wisdom.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#60
Dear Fatima Williams- you wrote "This often happens in corporate offices where the new is simply looked at as a tsunami and they would rather lose an entire project than implement a worthy new ideas. I salute you for writing this. Luckily, and as you later highlighted, we bees here welcome new ideas and we are enjoying he fruits of our exchanges of them. I believe this beBee is a platform for doing the unconventional. This is further assisted by the presence of great souls such as Fatima Williams

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#59
I hope your faith remains after publishing my buzz of today on the hidden fractal power. I am not sure if the crowded ideas in my mind on how to thank you are colliding or forming a fern-like pattern. No matter what million thanks to you dear DILMA BALBI

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
Lisa Lisa Gallagher- only if I could to find the words to thank you enough

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#56
I added a new buzz today and I dared to mention or spill a new idea if there is a fractal power? Your comments here encouraged me to do that dear namita sinha. You don't know how grateful I am to all of you

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #37

I read this buzz yesterday and today I read the comments and I enjoyed each comment thoroughly. I love the idea of insulating of our ideas from fear and doubt. Kind of an insurance for our ideas to keep them from being swept away by the wind. When Ideas are spilled we should not let the idea to be swept away rather we insulate it from the fear and doubt created, ensure that it survives to become a stronger idea such as the tempered glass. As the insulation process nurtures the idea and makes it stronger. If we were told that our ideas are not worthy it's simply because it is unique and noone has tried/heard it before on fear to implement or elaborate on the same. This often happens in corporate offices where the new is simply looked at as a tsunami and they would rather lose an entire project than implement a worthy new idea. Pushing that new idea up the bucket is like the crab story the only difference is that one crab had the idea and other's feared that idea not releasing it's value if they simply chose not to understand. " I want to teach you to live the truth, to reveal the light within your own soul - said Swami Vivekanda " The truth is that it is your idea and that it can reveal light that can be spread within your own soul and to those around us as well. Similar to what Ali Anani , Sara Jacobovici and CityVP Manjit and many great bees do on beBee. As the different streams having their sources in different paths which men take through different tendencies; various though they appear, crooked or straight, all lead to Thee. ( A verse from a song learned by Vivekanda during his childhood :) The highlight for me in this would be the various tendencies that are crooked or straight. As ideas are like the streams. Thank you for this frothy buzz dear Ali Anani.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #36

I just scheduled this buzz to auto tweet for 10 days if I did it correctly Ali Anani's app!

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #35

#51
Flattered and open to the opportunity.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#52
I am sharing your success and you bring me along with you on your journey dear Franci Eugenia Hoffman

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

Sharing in Ideas Metamorphosis

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

We can't cry over spilled ideas is a powerful and empowering statement. It says to me get up and move forward and let sleeping dogs lie. Be all you can be and bring someone along with you on your journey to success.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #31

#48
So glad to hear about your upcoming Buzz Aurorasa Sima. Can't wait to read it. In response to your comment, I invite you to read my post in the following link. Thanks, I would welcome your feedback. https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/another-f-word-sara-jacobovici?trk=mp-reader-card

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #30

#41
Agreed Aurorasa Sima, fear is a primal instinct. From my perspective fear can only can hinder our spiritual growth when we have given the fear a different meaning than it had in its original form. In its original form, fear is an important form of communication; it alerts us, it makes us attend to something. When fear stops communicating and becomes "something", that is what hinders our spiritual growth. Yes, primal instincts can influence our ability to think rationally but again, it is up to us to understand the influence and what to make of it. If we allow the primal instinct to be in control, than of course we can't access our rational thinking. +2

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#44
I find sometimes that if the internet is slow tagging doesn't work. Otherwise; I have no idea Aurorasa Sima.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #28

#42
Grateful and appreciative Ali Anani for your generous and kind words. The question of nature's consciousness is both interesting and important. There is no doubt in my mind that every life form has the means to direct their "behaviours" towards the optimum conditions. From that point of view, choices are being formed. I eagerly look forward to your next discussion, Dr. Ali.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

As if I didn't 'throw" enough questions at you dear Sara Jacobovici

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#40
Dear Sara Jacobovici- your comment reads my mind and intentions. I am baffles, as always, for your comments anticipate my next buzzes. No question as this has been happening repeatedly. You wrote "Human nature involves experience, meaning and choice when it comes to the shape and outcome of any process discussed". You know what I am working on now> The shape of leaves and thy some leaves tear themselves when they emerge? This is not only an emergence, but is also a functional one. Do leaves have the conscious to do that? If not, then why they do it in different places? Trees break (tear) their leaves for a purpose. There are more questions. But the question I fail to understand is this thinking bonding between us. What you say about me is exactly what I say about you. I feel at loss? Happily so. Do you feel dear Sara that the process is also in the leaves. You leave me bewildered

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #25

Dear Ali Anani, it has taken me longer to respond and comment to this Buzz more than any other time. And I tried to understand why, beside the usual challenges; your buzzes are always informative, inspirational and thought provoking. You make connections between processes found in nature and human dynamics in business. You show us how life forms, anything from molecules to the various formations of bubbles, parallel the processes of ideas. And I am always grateful and flattered for being mentioned in any way with your work. So what is it about this one Buzz. Well I think I finally figured it out. You quote me as having said, "we are the process and the process is in us". Your discussion expanded this concept and struck a "chord" in me (a chord being a minimum of 3 notes - triadic in nature). Human nature involves experience, meaning and choice when it comes to the shape and outcome of any process discussed. I will use your words for the example of what I mean: "The challenge is to convert those broken bodies into a product that insulates us from fear and doubt." So although we can follow the conditions of broken glass, in order to successfully convert those broken bodies, we need to go beyond the properties of nature and tap into our consciousness. As always, Dr. Ali, thank you for the opportunity to learn.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#38
Sarah (Sally) McCabe -What a nice surprise dear Sara! I am very happy to know that you still remember me. I shall be happier to welcome you to beBee. You are a "writing aaet" if I may use this term.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #23

#30
I experience what you write Aurorasa Sima as "poetic justice". When you write, "...irrational maybe, as it can lead to undesired results and more hurt for the hurt.", and then state, "Defense is yet another primal instinct.", you are bringing up a very important distinction that is not often made; between rational thinking and instinctive responses. From my perspective, irrational thinking has nothing to do with primal instincts, these are two different operational modes and sources. Irrational thinking is the thinking devoid of the rational. In other words, we may respond or react emotionally or instinctively but we either think rationally or not. I don't think we should blame our emotions or primal instincts, which are important and useful mechanisms, for poor thinking. The influences and impact of all of this the "more hurt for the hurt", is a whole Buzz onto itself.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #22

#11
I appreciate you comment namita sinha. You write, "...grappling with over reactionism and confusion between what to retain and what to let go." So true. When we posses the idea instead of experiencing it within a communal context, letting go is definitely a factor that distracts from the idea itself. I also appreciate your description of the swan; what we see versus what enables what we see. The effort in making something appear effortless. I wonder what the swan feels?

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
All I can say that you Aurorasa Sima is pearly both in mind and heart

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
ALl what I can say to cope with your gorgeous comment Aurorasa Sima is that you are pearly.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
Aurorasa Sima- you know how to condense your thoughts beautifully such as your writing "and more hurt for the hurt:. This is very eloquent. As for the paradox and challenge- it is intriguing. I hope Sara Sara Jacobovici would read it and I am sure she has something to say. For me, I am pondering on its depth right now. Thank you Aurorasa for writing such a beauty.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#28
I downloaded your 16-pages chapter Michele Williams and has just finished reading the first two pages. I see we have many common interests. Your work on trust is amazing. I am surely going to digest your material. I have a special interest on this topic. My presentation on Rust without Trust is the proof : http://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/rust-without-trust Soon, I plan to write a buzz on trust and refer to your work in it.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Thank you for your assuring comment Michele Williams. I am going now to read your research. I am sure it shall enlighten me.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
Creative, stunningly beautiful and thoughtful comment this is dear Mohammed Sultan. I love your comment and love your metaphor. No doubt all readers shall thrive on it. The proof is in your comment my thoughts lined up with the magnetism of your brilliant comment. This is a great example of great comments.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #15

#22
Well said Ali Anani! In agreement :))

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#21
Lisa Gallagher- again- ideas collision in action. So, kids don't only inherit our wealth (if any), but also our feelings such as fear. If we care for them then we should consider this fact. Yes, the daring ones who expose their experiences in fact they expose their life experiences. Who shall win? All of us.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #13

#20
Ah, I will have to dig deeper than I'm used to Ali Anani, but it may be helpful to others as well. It will mean I have to expose again, my far from perfect side. Then again, who's perfect, right? Fear is epidemic, that's a great way to put it. Thanks for pushing me. Just remind me if I don't get to it by Sunday at the latest! I actually look forward to this. Thanks Ali, my friend!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
I will remind you dear Lisa Gallagher. I hope that your mother rests in peace. She has good reason as her memory is kept alive with a grand daughter by the name of Lisa. I know your forthcoming buzz shall be a great one. I hope also that you would expand more on what you wrote "I've learned that many times our fears pass on to our children". Fear is epidemic and this deserves great attention. Your experience shall be treasured.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #11

#15
Hi again Ali Anani, well at least people can't say I'm not transparent ;-) If you remind me I would be willing to try and write a buzz on that subject. I will be away Friday-Sat for my mom's burial. Yes, 6 months later my stepfather decided it was time. I think he needs more closure. Mom is being buried on her birthday, which is also my son's birthday. Like my son said, he will always share that special day with Grandma!! I thought of my mom (and it's all good) when you asked about my granddaughter. Ah, well... I probably would be trying to help my daughter to see it's ok to loosen the 'ropes' a bit but I would never do it in front of my granddaughter. I've learned that many times our fears pass on to our children. I'm just glad my kids speak openly with me and I am able to admit that yes, you did get trait from me, and I'm so sorry. Through these conversations, I've also learned that my children chose to do things a bit differently. They are both strong individuals and I'm so proud of them. Although my daughter already said, "Evelyn is not allowed to date until after she turns 18." She laughed when she said it, but wow- to think about that now LOL!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
Thank you again dear namita sinha is a great thinker and reading his buzzes is truly rewarding.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Yes, dear namita sinha prompted me to write this buzz. David is a hugely respected man and we share many stories. He even published a buzz titled Catalyst and that buzz again triggered/reinforced the idea of this buzz. But mind you, you wrote a comment and it has triggered my mind too. Soon I shall reveal how dear namita.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
There is always sweetness in your comments dear Lisa Gallagher and with a special flavor. I could guess who wrote a comment if it was you. This is because you share your personal experiences and so your comments are authentic and trustful. I love this comment so much. If I may, I would hope you write a dedicated buzz on this segment of your comment "We both also realized some rules were made to be broken because many times our fears got in the way of saying yes to certain things our children wanted to do or a place they wanted to go". I am sure your personal experiences would make the buzz a treasure. I have a question for you, Lisa. Would you be able to treat your grandchildren the same way you treated your daughter? I love your comment and its human sense.

Lisa Gallagher

Lisa Gallagher

4 years ago #7

I love how you worded this buzz Ali Anani. Yes, we have all had differing views on one occasion or another, it's how we choose to deal with the differences that count. I remember when my husband and I were raising our children, we did not always see eye to eye. We would usually talk behind closed doors if we were on opposite sides of the playing field so our children didn't see this. On occasion there were slips and it was usually with my daughter, she knew how to manipulate my husband and it was easier to say yes to her than to hear her cry or to keep begging for quite some time. I had to bite my tongue if he gave her permission to do something I was saying no to before she asked him. Those were trying times but we both learned a lot from them. We both also realized some rules were made to be broken because many times our fears got in the way of saying yes to certain things our children wanted to do or a place they wanted to go. Other times, rules were in place for a good reason and as hard as it was, we had to be on the same page. Being a parent, well I guess you never stop learning. I'm still learning.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
Thank you my dear namita sinha in which he mentioned my calm in responding to negative comments. If we believe in something or imagine it and we get only rejection it could be our idea is in the ultrasonic range so that few would hear it. Even shattered ideas can be a great source of even better ideas if we think positively and have enough determination not to fail to failing voices. Thank you again Namita for your lovely comment

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

This is an example of how we are the process and the process is in us, as Sara Jacobovici wrote in one of her comments. The depth of this comment is proven with an example as is explained in the buzz

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
Spot on comment dear DILMA BALBI. One thing though- you broke few tears and I am truly happy to read your comment. I am truly happy

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Thank you dear debasish majumder. I greatly appreciate your comment and its strong relevance to the buzz

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Thank you so much Ben Pinto

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Beautiful example and terrific as well Donna-Luisa Eversley. This quote from you is a gem " Recycling, repurposing, remaking. Ideas can be adapted, as well as opinions". Yes, very relevant example to the post and life.

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