Dealing with Tension

Dealing with Tension

Dave Snowden is the father of the Cynefin Framework designed to compare simple, complicated, complex and chaotic systems. I suggest the idea that we may also compare these systems by their tension content. Simple systems have low tension that grows predictably and linearly with time. This is contrasting with complex systems in which tension develops patterns and in chaotic systems where tension is chaotic. See the image below.

Tension is a fact of life and accepting it is the first step to deal with it and generate creative ideas such as those used in tension marketing.

The sources of tension vary as we move from simple systems to complex and chaotic systems. The sources of tension vary. They have been highlighted ably in this reference β€œSTRESS SOURCES IN YOUR LIFE | Global Organization for Stress” . I have pooled the sources of tension in the image below:

Social tension deserves deep thoughts as the more human get connected, the more social tension gets complex. The complexity of tension is well-expressed in this reference. Often what is perceived as a tension can be revealed to be only a symptom of another tension, the forces at play merely being symptoms or consequences of other forces.

The complexity of tension in complex systems has been reviewed in this great post. In this review the complexity of the effect of online connections on social platforms has resulted in inconclusive agreements among researchers. Some prime points are:

Β· The more people use many social platforms, the more likely they are to get tense. Social networking leads to social anxiety with some proofs.

Β· Social networking tends to increase sleeping disturbances and the resulting tension accordingly.

Β· Self-esteem is negatively affected because people feel inadequate. This results from what I call social comparisons. People compare themselves with others and develop the feelings of jealousy, inadequacy, envy and other degrading feelings.

Β· Social envy and social jealousy. One example is envy spiral people react to envy by adding to their profiles more of the same sort of content that made them jealous in the first place.

Β· More is the feelings developed that other people live happier lives leading those envious people to self-isolate. This is an example of negative negativity that makes tension grow exponentially.

Tension results from tensionΒ between what the people want and what is occurring in their lives. Organizations face same tensions for an organization is any group of people organized for a particular purpose and around a shared goal.

Relationships are crucial to happiness. Quality relationships provide support and help build self-worth – which both lead to feelings of happiness. It is being able to make the best of the forces creating the tensions in our lives. The more tension spirals, the more we need to accept it. This is the challenge we are facing today.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
This buzz dear Tausif Mundrawala. Thank you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
Thank you dear Tausif Mundrawala. It is the previous buzz.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#28
Thank you dear Tausif Mundrawala. You nailed the issue on its head with your line " We have allowed our ruining feelings to rule ourselves rather than us ruling on them". This is the challenge because it is at these times we need to be creative to find new solutions. What happens mostly is that people get over-stressed and their creativity muscles become too rigid to think creatively. I am sorry for the late response as I have just realized that you commented.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
Oh dear Clau Valerio- you are in the medical profession and surely your comment tells that you know well what you right about. If I combine your comment with the previous one by our friend Harvey Lloyd #23 we get a better picture of the situation and we improve our understanding of it. The anxiety or bad stress results sometimes from our lack of readiness to accept that we work mostly with the unknowns and complex problems. This may eventually lead to anxiety that stifles us. As Harvey put it, the problem is not completely known to us. This problem is not limited to business, but extends to all forms of life. There are very few soft problems left and accordingly very few associated low levels of anxiety. The more we move towards complex and chaotic systems, the more anxiety is. It is our mindsets that should accept the fact that complex issue require trial and error and that we may fail repeatedly, or have to change direction. I believe your comment combined with that of Harvey may lead to the drastic improvement of our mindsets.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
I don't know dear Harvey Lloyd if you studied complexity science, but your comment reflects your deep understanding and implementing this science. You wrote that I cant know everything so misunderstanding is a part of success. This is true because the more we know, the less we know as we discover more emerging realities. The only way to approach a problem within our limited knowledge is keeping evolving our understanding through trial and error. This is reflected deeply in your comment "Beyond that we seek understanding of each event". A thought-provoking comment

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #18

Looking at the picture and the surrounding perspectives there appears to be a common theme emerging. Each of the conditions described in the balloons are always overcome through understanding. Once we know then we can act. What i find quite challenging is that many enterprises start in the belief that all understanding is present. This must be true, as the balloons you placed around the picture demonstrate that something has gone wrong. I cant know everything so misunderstanding is a part of success. My team knows what they know and apply it aptly, but we all cant know how it will fit together, misunderstanding. What we do know is that each endeavor has its challenges and they will be met with creation, serving and humility. Beyond that we seek understanding of each event. I kept coming back to the fluidity of all situations that more than one person is engaged. The situations arise and it is us that must meet them, who are we in meeting the challenges? Very thought provoking as we enter events with full understanding and then find out we didn't know everything, subsequently we experience tension. Is it real tension or merely tension between what we expected and what really happened? Interesting.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#20
Harvey Lloyd- absolutely correct "Can we see tension as a normal process of growth". I believe your comment is in alignment with previous comment addressed to you. In my buss "opposites on the edge" I voiced similar thoughts to what you suggested here "he creations of man that survived could not have happened without competing ideas and thoughts that didn't exert their existence.". This is the challenge. In considering differences as milk and fat we keep them separated. How about finding a coupling idea that may bridge the opposites. This is where creativity is needed most.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
Thank you Harvey Lloyd. You encourage me to write Part 2 of this buzz. Norming (I am borrowing this words from team norming) has two faces- a good one and a less needed one. When we conform we follow routines and established norms. If we differ for a good reason creative ideas may float. Hierarchies shall always be there. In complex systems when a system grows it occupies a higher hierarchy (fitness peak). We need to unstable the current situation to move out of it. If we differ for a purpose, like you said, and not just to differ we may progress as long as we respect differences. If not, the result shall be issuing conflicts that waste our energies. We tend to fall back on our our habits , assumptions and beliefs. This has limited our capacities to grow. Even forming nested hierarchies is acceptable because of their natural "birth". The prevalence of what you described as "Me seeking to secure my vanity may in fact take from yours" reflects ego thinking. That could be riskier than what we have ever imagined.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #15

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee i have often thought through how media shapes our perception of the world, "ought". We engage with humans from a perceptive how the situation ought to be. We don't always look at the ought picture we use to compare or judge our setting. Tension of all kinds is spawned when one ought meets another that are dichotomies. At least seen this way by the two ideas meeting within the humans. We have one of two choices. 1.) Take up the gauntlet and compete and may the best human win. 2.) Focus on the outcome desired (create, serve, grow others and seeking wisdom of the human condition.) and sort from both ideas. Media suggests their are winners and losers within each creative session we experience. History tells us another story. The creations of man that survived could not have happened without competing ideas and thoughts that didn't exert their existence. All of this to make the point you have already made. Tension exists and that as humans we have to be able to work within tension in a healthy way. Can we see tension as a normal process of growth or is it the Roman Colosseum that the media seems to always point out?

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #14

This post and also CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit parallel post brought forward the thought that tension is a result of something. The result of competing ideas within a creative process or maybe crisis management by a team that is broadsided by either natural events/unintended consequences. The result that i mused over were undefined results that are most likely scaled around a "feeling" of expectation. I agree with City that we are wired a certain way and find ourselves outside of the cave with natural fears and anxieties. Where i part is the reality is the brain will always be wired this way. We need others in both personal (intimacy), social and professional settings. Animals hundreds of thousands of years old and still with us live with hierarchies and communities. Even as i write this i know that i am fulfilling the need to be heard and be a part of a group. We will remain tribal in that definition. If one could write a paragraph that states the intentions and purpose of why i am engaging (Personal/Prof/Social), how would it read. IMHO it should include words such as, create, serve, grow others and seeking wisdom of the human condition. If we approached media with such words it changes what we expect to receive from the engagement. I believe that if we were honest with ourselves the paragraph would include words of vanity that we forget each has their own language. Me seeking to secure my vanity may in fact take from yours. How does this get interpreted through routine engagement? Stimulating thoughts here Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
I love your term "I feel when we conform to the pattern of this world, this is what causes tension". You inspire the term Pattern Tension. On LI, I was also inspired by coining the term "Psychological Rigidity". I shall study in a greater depth soon.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Dear Jerry- I agree with you that humans shall eventually deal with tension in a positive way. The tension this time is more challenging because no way that people have imagined 5hat it shall be possible to reach anybody in the world with just having six contacts. The connections open doors of opportunity as much as they may cause the building up of tension exponentially. This is the new challenge that we are facing humans should have the flexibility to deal with it.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
I have just noticed that you have published your inspired buzz and shall read in few minutes. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for being so considerate CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

2 years ago #10

My Paradox Wisdom buzz is here https://www.bebee.com/producer/@cityvp/adaptive-tension It is called "Adaptive Tension".

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

2 years ago #9

Dr. Ali, I agree that the type and severity of tension has grown in our connected world but I see that as only the next revelation of how our primitive brains react to new and uncontrolled inputs. I think we should step back and look at the impact of writing on the race and how that has been absorbed into the zeitgeist as have radio, TV and the thousands of bits of code that rain down on us each day. Reactions to the internet are similar to those recorded in earlier times. The human race is resilient. We take a little time and then we shrug off these tensions. No, not all of us do, but in each generation those that ascend to lead demonstrate the skill. And so it goes.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

2 years ago #8

This is large but very pertinent subject and my is worthy of another buzz which I will write in parallel to this one. I look forward to putting that together sometime later tonight and will let you know where the link for it is, when it has been completed. As always the starting point to my paradox wisdom pieces is the perspective most relevant to my own existence, so I will speak to that.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
Your shared example of tension is vivid and is worthy. "A child says "I am hungry" who hear him recognize the truth of what he expresses, however they question the origin of because he is hungry, and without internalizing his deep feeling apply the greatest unconscious acts of human behavior, they make Prejudice, Prejudice , Judgment. These are the human dispositions that describe the true example of tensions, from the Social to the human in its most irrational and unconscious sense".

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
Dear Oswaldo Enrique Diaz Delgado- thank you for sharing your mind. I liked the extension of explanation you offered mainly in your second point. You wrote "Second in context; Happiness, social relationships, the support that builds the relationships, the spiral effect, the lies conditioned to insert them into the dialogue box that fits the above as (negative purposes from envy) and which in turn provides for synchronizing the events that would characterize the reasons for the unhappy behavior." You then proceeded to sat "Obtaining the desired source is to find oneself from the light that radiates the nature of one's existence, more deeply without removing the light of oneself from others, from the wonderful event that humankind offers to its environment of life:. That is the challenge we need to meet with courage.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
You are right Roberto De la Cruz Utria and you highlight a very important type of tension- expectation tension. When we a compare where we are and were we hope to be we create tension, the magnitude of which depends on the gap between the two states. The higher the gap, the greater the tension is. Instead of making tension work for us it turns into a degrading force that send some of us into despair. I agree fully with your comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#2
Image two of the buzz shows many different faces of tension. Tension in our complex world os complex and we need system thinking to deal with tension. In complexity thinking we need to study how the different parts of tension may lead to the emergence of another tension. I would add that tension becomes nested and the reveal of on pension may lead to the discovery of another tension rather than the root cause of tension.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#
Thank you dear Debasish Majumder for "tensing my mind" positively. Yes, our attitudes and mindsets may consider tension as predator and we are the preys. This attitude fills us with fear and we try to flight tension. A good attitude is that tension is an energizing force that propel us to create and find new solutions. Tension is a basic fact of life and accepting it is a sign of maturity. Thank you also my friend for sharing the buzz.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

2 years ago #2

de-tention, ex-tension, hyper tension, there are so many dimensions to human inventions that blaming only the device or tool for the inflammation is an attempt at making a diversion.... in the end this is resulting in giving ammunition to those who lack traction and intention

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

2 years ago #1

absolutely stunning buzz sirAli \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! social surface will plenty of frictions obviously generate tensions and relationship too experience the external social design which spirally appear with upward as well downward trend too. we usually confront with tensions perhaps when our memory may fail to recognize its trait. therefore, sometimes we unprecedentedly experience a product with bitter taste, despite we are familiar with its traditional taste as sweet. thus, tensions itself a conundrum to us and we helplessly fall into its prey! tension too design our aspiration and sometimes it may appear as boon, sometimes when we are just mere victim to it, surely on that occasion it is a bane. however, wonderful buzz indeed sir. enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.

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