Differences that Bond People

Differences that Bond People

People look somewhat the same, but their finger prints, eye prints and even breath prints are different. Electrons which have opposite spins bond together. This way they satisfy their needs and create new realities. Electrons with the same spin direction fail to bond. It is differences that make bonding possible.

Look at leaves of plants and how they differ. They do so they may have the structure to serve the needs of the whole plant. Likewise; stems of plants vary in shape and this way they may vary in functionality.

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These different types of stems and leaves work together to serve the whole plant. Differences that have reason and purpose. Likewise, the cells in the human body. They are all called cells, but they have different shapes so that they may serve their functionality. The parts serve the whole. There are hundreds of different types of cells in the body and the structure of a cell is perfectly suited for the role it performs. No matter the differences, cells of the body depend on each another, either directly or indirectly, to keep the body functioning as one unit.

We human have different thoughts, learning styles, change resilience and so many other differences that could end in conflict, or be a source of unifying people to reach a grand goal. Humans have tendency to follow. For example, group think is a form of following and not exploring the potential of our differences. Instead of enjoying the β€œdifference potential” we shy off it and pass up great possibilities.

Consider light and darkness They are opposites. The challenge is how to grasp the potential of these differences by giving them the shape and structure that serves a purposeful goal. In a private message Harvey Lloyd wrote to me β€œThe interesting concept is that neither light nor dark can exist without the other. It is a distinctly human condition. No other creature is bound to this chaos. Amazingly so many feels that the world can have light without darkness”. Harvey then wrote β€œWe should embrace the darkness and live in the light. Know the darkness we are capable while straining to find the light. Once we let go of the darkness life will eat us alive. The light we seek will become the vary darkness that we thought we had enlightened ourselves past”.

The question is how can we couple our differences to serve humanity? I addressed this question to Harvey, and he responded β€œYou and I bond at this level, outcome. Most importantly, spiritually, we can bond within the outcome and serving others, even if we disagree on whether solar powered cars were better than combustion engine. nature provides us with fascinating science opportunities, but we have forgotten that in the end nature serves humanity”.

I wished to share these private messages with the readers for I believe they serve humanity and it serves no purpose to keep them close to my chest.

How do you realize the potential of differences to serve humanity? I would love to read your thoughts on this issue.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#86
Dee Poku Spalding- I appreciate your feedback. Thank you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#84
Tangela Serls- I believe this is the first comment on my buzzes from you and what a great comment this is!. Yes, the you said it right "the brilliance of differences" are there if we have the right attitude and mindsets to deal with them.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Spot on Savvy Raj. You express so well the fact: The potential lies in our knowing the value of strength in the differences for that is what gives birth to new possibilities. As much as differences lead toconflicts and hostility; at least equally they great potential for creative approaches and processes. Very-well said Savvy.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

What do you think make us leave the human condition behind? Complexity may lead to stress resulting from unknowing the future with almost any degree of certainty Fear, anxiety and then depression adds fuel to the fire. There is a very interesting part of your comment. It is "People who have developed skills beyond my own understanding are complex but really show they were disciplined enough to expand into something i did not.". This is a hugely interesting thought as you set the standard on how people may collectively more creative than individuals. Group think deprives us of working as many in one and the result is that collectively we produce less than our potential.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #69

#78
The complexity paradigm is one i leaned on for sometime. It seemed as though the world was leaving me behind. In reality it was and is, but not in complexity, rather it is leaving the human condition behind. Skills are merely things we go and get. People who have developed skills beyond my own understanding are complex but really show they were disciplined enough to expand into something i did not. Although this is true, what i see as complex, we both share humanity regardless of status, position and skill. Interdependency exposes this concept but relegates each of us to a shared existance, i am not special, but rather am made special by those in my company. How we serve one another is really what makes each special. Complexity is brought on when members of the team defend independence. Once the defensive walls are set the gauntlet to success has been laid down. Complexity in my view has been brought on through the fears of interdependency and the rise of the personal brand. We can do anything, i can only run the gauntlet towards success.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#76
What a great thought here that is worthy of a workshop to discuss it. I refer to your writing " When we cling so tightly to something as means of comfort, we do it a great disservice by inhibiting it's progress...as well as our own".

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#75
I responded to your previous comment before reading this one. I am so glad your statement "It goes against all instinct to travel along that path". Visually, you expressed this so elegantly later on "In the beginning it was a paper ship in an angry sea but with perseverance i was able to gain confidence in the whole of interdependence". I wish managers would grasp the full meaning of your wisdom. Our world s increasing in complexity and moving more towards rigidity than resilience. This is for a good reason. You stated this reason so beautifully/ By the way I wonder if you have tried writing scripts because your imagination is beyond limits.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#74
Thank you Harvey for sharing your personal experience with such clarity. If I may add anything to your comment I say it show how the interdependence of the three words fashion your approach in an integrated manner. Do you equate pride with self-esteem? I shall be referring soon to your comment shortly in a dedicated buzz. Even we think we can separate the three words, we know well thy have their interdependence in the back stage and it is far better to go with them rather than going against them.

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #65

#66
I would not say the world looks more fluid to me so much as it 'feels' more fluid in that I do not feel the the weight of it's gravity so profoundly anymore. I have found that greater healing comes when we are able to let go of the person we thought we were supposed to be for the person we are to become in service to 'The Greater Good.' For me this exchange came in the form of surrendering something I loved very dearly for the opportunity to be released into an environment more suited to it's nature. Picture a big fish forced to live in a tiny fishbowl...It's a beautiful fish and you love it's presence in your life, but it doesn't take long for you to see the increasing anxiety of this beautiful creature as a result of being 'trapped' in this small space. As painful as it is, you know you have to let it go...and brace yourself for the flood of emotions associated with every loss you have ever felt. #70 Our health and survival depends on our being able to release that which we have outgrown, or in turn, has outgrown us. When we cling so tightly to something as means of comfort, we do it a great disservice by inhibiting it's progress...as well as our own. It is in the letting go that we create the space for new growth and the opportunity to connect with something far greater than our individual 'selves.'

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #64

#72
This would take way more pages than one is willing to read. But i can say that independent mindsets at the edge of chaos tend to develop us towards existential views of failures. Interdependence is what we are suppose to learn at this edge. Chaos should teach us how and why we need others within our sphere of success. It goes against all instinct to travel along that path. For me, at this edge, i needed something larger than life, other than the "ego" i had created, to set me towards an interdependent mindset. A set of values and beliefs that i did not create on my own, tested within time and showed major historical success. In the beginning it was a paper ship in an angry sea but with perseverance i was able to gain confidence in the whole of interdependence. Habits form around beliefs. These habits are carried into our world and either accepted or rejected. I could be lured into a dream world where i get dumped later, or totally rejected. How do we respond to this first round of wisdom gathering. I chose independence. Only to learn i had taken a wrong turn. We have all used the term "control freak" or some spin off of this thought. This is the ultimate in independence. Once we notice this we are probably experiencing that persons frustration and irritation of mediocrity. They cant make the jump to interdependence. Skill is often seen as the deficit. The reality is that the person is having difficulty in making the jump from independent -interdependence. I have watched young managers train and train and train on skills only to get the same results. They were missing the inability of their team to make the jump. Between independence and interdependence lies many of your posts. Also emotional intelligence, Myers-Briggs, DiSC and many other same styled materials help us bridge the gap between the two. But again, we look at this as a skill, when the reality is that our mindset needs to change.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #63

#71
The three words carry our identity along with other words. They are not bad but really represent our way of coping with the environment we find ourselves. The three words return different definitions when we consider the two main environments we operate within, independent and interdependent. In my first start up a feeble attempt at interdependence was tested by my customers and competitors. It failed so i returned to independence. The three words, in my own mind set, set me apart from everyone and i could have an identity above my environment. This stabilized my perspective for some time but relegated me to mediocre success. Of course it took time for me to recognize that although advancing there was an impending fence i would not be able to cross. Hard studying and speaking to mentors gave me the language, perspective and perceptions needed to recognize that independence will always leave you operating at half voltage. This is where the self awareness kicked me in the face. I realized that independent Harvey was always swimming up stream in order to maintain his identity. I was not only setting others aside with the three words, but they were setting me aside also. Within interdependence the three words were taken off me and placed on the team, group or customer. Pride became pride of all in a job well done. Arrogance became passion for success within diversity, self reliance became a shared part of everyone's expertise applied to make a whole. A few successes and failures with this approach secured a life journey. Even in failure interdependence, is a success of learning and wisdom. When i recognize this it was inevitable that relationships grown and past experiences are now seen differently. Causing tension within these as our interdependence grew. Relationships based on independence are now seen as drags towards an interdependence mindset. I lost many friends during this transition.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

7 Roberto De la Cruz Utria- absolutely and I agree fully with you "I think, with transparency, we can unite our thoughts, and accepting the positive of each part, our differences could be complemented by greater achievements". In my previous buzz on Opposites on the Edge I explained why I am in agreement with you.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#66
I wish you would share your experiences here in a buzz Harvey Lloyd. The edge of chaos provided the greatest challenges; yet the greatest opportunities. Your experience is relevant to almost all of us who got sunk on this edge. There are zone within chaos where we observe the existence of self-organizing. That is the challenge- to step in a new self-organizing human or get lost with the chaos.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#65
Great comment Harvey Lloyd/ I just wish to know more what pride means to you in your line "Pride, arrogance and self reliance were the tools of success". Sometimes, self-pride keep us away from accepting new findings for fear of proven wrong, Self-ego can be devastating.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#64
Cyndi wilkins- very=well said we need to break our of the loop " These trapped memories carry with them the emotional impact of the experience, where they evolve into 'chronic conditions' of the body and the mental chaos of the mind".

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
Cyndi wilkins- I agree with you that we lost our senses and the art of listening in particular. If we tend to lose one sense most likely we tend to lose our other senses.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#63
Thank you for your confirmation of the loop John Rylance. It is a feedback loop and I guess that the starting point isn't important because self-awareness feedback to self-reflection. The idea is how to break out of the loop to a higher level with new ideas and thoughts. O agree with your conclusion.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #56

#64
Cyndi wilkins What a journey and statement of success. You are one of the few who will venture within this style journey. Bravo. I have to question though, Does the world look more fluid and you can see your part of it now? I found when i stepped out of that chaotic period the world seemed different and i new how i fit. It was a bit much to take in as i was trading old habits for new understandings, developing new habits that didn't hold judgement of the dynamics. Great stuff and i am inspired by your journey.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #55

#62
Yes there is a causal loop between the two. Its cause was announced by President Truman many years ago. The knowledge/perception that leads us into chaos will not lead us out, we need new knowledge/perception. The question and the loop emerge when we look in our historical closet to find answers to perplexing futures. This closet of beliefs is what lead us into chaos. Why would we believe that the answer is inside the same closet? The question now is where do we reach outside of our own closet to find new beliefs, fundamentals/absolutes to lean on in my new perspective. Contrary to popular belief the answer lies in the absolutes we have followed within our belief system. Self awareness is where we uncover these beliefs that were hiding under habits passed down from experience and parents. #64 describes this view quite well. For me in my own self awareness journey it was the Bible that brought me forward from the chaos. I found in my closet that i was the one truth and the only truth. Pride, arrogance and self reliance were the tools of success. When these tools carried as far as my own head could perceive them i was in chaos. The knowledge of the Bible brought new tools, higher self awareness and room for everyone else in my life. I needed something bigger than me that could expand my world view. There are many other secular things that one can grasp as absolutes but it lacks "reason" in the end of why i should hold onto such values if it is causing me pain right now. Very interesting discussion and findings as we meander around the edge of chaos and order. It is truly the spot in which we all made or broken.

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #54

#58
Yes, I can vouch for that first step being a 'doozy'...I have spent the greater part of the last year recovering from the fall...Literally and figuratively. I can also tell you it is a necessary step if we ever hope to evolve from where we are now. Whether we like it or not, we will all be required to face our own reflections...ugly as they can be. Sometimes the memories that emerge can come from an existence we have absolutely no conscious memory of...but our bodies do remember...EVERYTHING. These trapped memories carry with them the emotional impact of the experience, where they evolve into 'chronic conditions' of the body and the mental chaos of the mind. The encounter experienced by your medical professional (student) is a wonderful gift...Ugly as it may have been...for him to share with the world of medicine...It is an evolving practice that holds great promise for the future in eradicating disease...The doctors of the future will be utilizing the energies of the mind for healing instead of medicine. #63 The 'how and when' of your question John, is that it is best to let the body/mind decide when and if we are truly ready to move forward...and that goes for any life altering decisions. The most accurate way of doing this is asking permission of the sub-conscious through muscle testing the body...an art form in and of itself...and a very effective way to developing trust in one's self...

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #53

#62
There is a definite loop which contains both self-awareness and self reflection. One leads to the other. What is less clear to me is how, why and when we should move from one to another. Also is one the primary trigger, or can either be the starting point. I would it can be either. We can be aware of a problem which we reflect on, or during reflection we become aware of a problem. Whichever the most important part is how we solve the problem. 

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#61
I don't know if I am right or wrong, but your comment brings the idea of causal feedback loops in my mind. Self-awareness is not a constant and changes with feedback through self-reflection. Harvey, do you consider there exists feedback between self-awareness and self-reflection?

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #51

#60
Thought i would share a encounter last evening in our class with a new member. Our class has been focusing on faith as we delve within new circumstances with old habits. Giving language to assist in defining these old habits while bracing for the reflection one might find. The new member shared their story of self awareness and how it unfolded. He was very gracious and quite well defined in his language of the journey. (He is a medical professional) Once he began the journey he realized that past experiences were now looked at quite differently and the reflection of self within them was quite ugly. This is the challenge as we look at ourselves moving forward. One of his comments, typically the right thing usually happened but it altered his and others character through the experience (Their bond.). Not always in a good way.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#58
We discussed at length self-awareness in the discussion of my recent buzz "Is Self-Awareness a Remote Dream"? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/is-self-awareness-a-remote-dream I like your thought that motives emerge from the froth of dialogue. When we interact something shall emerge without planning for it

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#58
We discussed at length self-awareness in the discussion of my recent buzz "Is Self-Awareness a Remote Deeam"? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/is-self-awareness-a-remote-dream I like your thought that motives emerge from the froth of dialogue. When we interact something shall emerge without planning for it.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #48

#57
Your first question is the torture of self awareness, can we truly see ourselves without "recoil". I agree faith is the belief that after we self evaluate the beliefs we hold that we will emerge better than when we started. But that first step is usually a twelve story drop from where we view the beginning. #56 Motives is where we witness the fundamentals of another. It may take a few rounds but eventually motives emerge from the froth of dialogue. From this we can see at each turn the beliefs will be the motivator and we will eventually be glad we shared the ride or know that we are merely a stepping stone to something else.

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #47

#54
In answer to the first question about fundamentals, I would say the 'language' has been lost in the lack of listening Harvey Lloyd...to ourselves...to others...and quite frankly, to our own bodies. Our bodies hold the keys to the truth. The real question then becomes..."Can we face the truth without recoil?" That is where faith comes in. Having deep faith in oneself requires trust...and the absence of FEAR. Only then can we draw in the love that lights up the world;-)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#54
Harvey Lloyd-nthere is a line in your comment that merits to expand into a buzz. I mean "I am amazed that this fundamental understanding of the human existence is found through out history". This issue has been repeating with humans forgetting basic rules. Amazing how humans tend to forget the basics.

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #45

#54
I really like the idea of talking things into existence.  I think of faith as being an extension of belief in something. That is to have faith in something you have to believe in it. Faith doesn't  have to be just about religion. 

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #44

#49
Cyndi wilkins your words ring true yet are elusive to many. We speak things into existance. And in order for us to contact our own emotions we must first speak a langauge that can be shared with others. In this we serve to enhance one another as we grasp at the light. Without this spoken out loud langauge and an ear to hear, then the darkness will enshroud us for long periods. I am amazed that this fundamental understanding of the human existance is found through out history, yet we seem to be floating above these fundamentals today without knowing the langauge. It is bringing darkness. This post along with comments has my inner thoughts working on assumptions and faith. It seems that my little brain cant grasp that faith isn’t a part of every assumption. The real question is where do we draw faith from? I enjoyed your comment.

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

#52
thank you Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee you are wonderful in knowing people. It is a fact that people trust me with their personal issues. I appreciate that and I love to make a difference in their lives. Thank you:

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#50
What I love about you dear bis that I trust what you say. To gain others' trust seems to be easy for you because you express yourself with clarity leaving no space for "double explanations". This is evident in your buzzes. I wonder how many people trust you only with their personal secrets and problems.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#49
I am humbled by your comment Cyndi wilkins. I liked this so much "Our 'trapped' emotions create all illness or chaos within...". We tend to release the trapped emotions at the wrong times and for the wrong reasons. This creates chaos in our lives. Building the 'integrated" individual so that (s)he may bond with another "integrated" individual is an idea that is worthy exploration. I hope to read a buzz written by you soon. It is great to see you engaged again.

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador
Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

2 years ago #39

I have been absent from class for quite some time lately...But it seems your ever thought provoking posts have called my attention back to this platform...Most markedly a comment by Harvey Lloyd that seems to have inspired this... β€œThe interesting concept is that neither light nor dark can exist without the other. It is a distinctly human condition. No other creature is bound to this chaos." It is our emotions that create this distinction...Some may call it our very human 'flaw'. However, it is the secret to unlocking the cellular memory that binds us to the chaos. Our 'trapped' emotions create all illness or chaos within...To identify and release them, either consciously or subconsciously, is the golden ticket to wholeness. How best to serve humanity? In these difficult times my heartfelt opinion is that when we serve ourselves with the intention of creating a 'whole' and healthy being...mind/body/spirit, we serve to create that same oneness with others of like mind/body/spirit...In that way we all serve to ground the light in a very dark world.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
You are a very wise friend . Your comment also provoked the little grey cells in my mind and I thought of reactants and how they bond. You mentioned "I believe we must first establish a rapport". You are correct. No two chemicals shall react until they are close enough to do so. To keep close, we must have something in common such as the sharing of information. We we reach a climax of shared feelings we then are ready to bond and for a strong one too. Some bonds break because they are weak and the heat of difference shall soon break them up. Great thoughts indeed my friend.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#45
It is people of your exceptional quality dear Tausif Mundrawala that turn the temporary pain of writing to a lasting joy and motivation. I do appreciate your great support and very motivating words.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#42
I concur as the real value is in who we are rather than how we appear to the others.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#41
You do have a great philosophy about life dear Oswaldo Enrique Diaz Delgado/ Yes, the bitterness of knowing is far better the sweetness of not knowing.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

2 years ago #34

#38
Indeed you are right John the caveat is that people are emotionally equipped to deal with it to make it happen I think

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#38
One example is mixed marriages from different cultures. Some marriages falter, while others stand the test of time. Similar thinking reinforces an idea, but doesn't lead to the generation of new ones. Different ideas may do. There is more creativity and possibilities in differences.

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #32

#36
Pascal, you seem to be intimating that opposite attraction is a negative thing. It can equally a positive bond. I can think of many married couples etc. who are opposites in many ways were and remain happy well bonded people. 

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#36
Agreed, but the challenge is how to surmount our binary status.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

2 years ago #30

The old saying about opposite attraction is not about to fade anytime soon Stockholm syndrome wars tribes feuds family disputes etc. have always rythmned human lives is it a good thing ? We don’t seem to know any better we are pretty binary as a living species

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#28
Very-well said and deep thoughts here.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
Dear Clau (not Claudia)- the feelings are mutual. Thank you for stirring my heart and mind with your feelings and probing comments.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
Dear Clau Valerio- you raise great points. One outstanding issue is your writing "To people, evolutionarily, we have a hard time accepting everything that is different from us: we consider it a "threat". Later, you offered an explanation "However, when something breaks that balance, the first thing we feel is the fear of those obvious differences. After the fear, comes the distrust and the subsequent rejection:. I don't disagree in anyway with you and you are in highlighting the cause and its reasons. I ask myself "why do I trust Clau even though she comes from a different land that is far away"? How did I build trust with you in spite of our differences? One reason is that I seek a grand purpose- to learn and you helped me learn. When we have a grand purpose that is bigger than our initial fears and mistrust we build bridges to bond us. The USA is the strongest powerhouse in the world in military and economic terms. This country is a blend of so many cultures and ethnics. The feeling that remaining as the leading global power make people share a common purpose. Ants and bees work in great numbers together as many in one to find a good food source. Each individual benefits from this source. So, they have a shared purpose that is bigger than their differences.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
This is a great comment dear friend Edward Lewellen. Very interestingly, on LinkedIn @CK Sharma commented on this buzz and he touched upon some of the issues you raise in your comment. My response to him is in line with your comment here. I lovel simple statements. As simple as they are; equally, they are impacting. I mean "To deny the changes that have already taken place and will yet, is to slowly condemn oneself to living in the past. A very lonely place to be". Again, this is of a great relevance on habits and assumptions that blind us and we need to get rid of them if we are to see the world with new eyes.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#22
Thank you dear Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador as much as it resonated with me. I thank you for your appreciation and sharing the buzz.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#21
"The scientific community within its differences has agreed to make world knowledge the following: "CLIMATE CHANGE PATTERNS OF HEATING"" True, but only when governmental support because in many countries the environment issue isn't a big concern yet

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#20
There are two great points in your comment Oswaldo Enrique Diaz Delgado. First- From this point the differences that unite the people or people who unite the differences. This is a form of reversal thinking and I love the question. You answered later by writing "It is the ego of power to justify the means within its own point of tension, the deeper are the capacities to create conflicts of interest in the name of the material world". Yes, you are right. When the ego for self-interest is greater than the interest by working with others this happens. You are a deep philosopher my friend.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

2 years ago #22

In embracing our difference we find our greatest similarity and in that similarity is born the human that awaits birth within our inner humanity.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

2 years ago #21

In embracing our difference do we find our greatest similarity and in that similarity is born the human that awaits birth within our inner humanity.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

2 years ago #20

Only by embracing our difference do we find our greatest similarity and in that similarity is born the human that awaits birth within our inner humanity.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

Excellent and timely post Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. What comes to mind - β€œDon't do unto others what you don't want done unto you.” ― Confucius

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
This comment is among the comments that cherished my heart dear Tausif Mundrawala. It is wise, and powerful in its expression. Yes, those who didn't know how to find their way within it shall get blurred by the lights of reality. Great and mature comment my friend.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
Thank you for sharing the buzz, Liesbeth.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Dear - I love your poetic comment. Poetic yes; sound is the least to describe it. Thank you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Dear - I love your poetic acomment. Poetic yes; sound is the least to describe it. Thank you

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

Thumbs up for this gem

Liesbeth Leysen, MSc. beBee Global Brand Ambassador

What a beautiful article Ali, we can make a difference by respecting our nature with its assets and lessons learned, our growth counts and how we help others to do the same. Your article helps us to see the wealth of nature.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
You served the discussions here so well and provided ample proof that servant leaders take us on a path of gold. You bring a hugely-important thought that has been neglected or underrated. That is "The hats are representative not only the hat of the leader but which hat the leader is serving". This is a core idea and we need not only consider the hat the leader is wearing, but also the hat the follower is wearing. This is worthy a buzz on its own. With all honesty, I expected you to mention Myers-Briggs personality types in one of your comments. You never disappoint me.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #11

#9
Amazingly we have come full circle, we are right back at the Myers-Briggs personality types. The hats are representative not only the hat of the leader but which hat the leader is serving. These types styled profiles assist us in our assumptions in serving each other as initial bonds. Bonds that carry the relationship into the next level of success. We have all met those personality styles that seem to think everyone is like them. They speak from their assumptions that β€œi” wear the same styled hat. Think back to this encounter and would suspect that you were quite put back by the assumptions offered. Assumptions and faith are all part of success, the question is what are your assumptions riding on within the belief system. Serving others as a path to walk upon will always serve success better than a path of gold.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
This is what I intended to say in my previous response to you, but you said it more wisely.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#6
" they are all assumptions until you succeed, you are using faith in your beliefs of style". Well-said dear Harvey. Yes, there are many different leadership styles such as visionary leadership, commanding leadership, affiliation leadership, democratic leadership, commanding leadership and others. They remind me of the six hats that Edward de Bono introduced. The red hat (the intuition hat), the white hat (representing facts), the black hat (representing judgment), the green hat (creativity hat), the yellow hat (optimistic hat) and the blue hat (representing thinking processes). A leader will have to explore all possibilities by wearing all hats so that he may not fall victim to his/her own desires.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #8

#7
One of the most challenging questions, can we serve within a competitive environment. My answer has always been yes. With many diverse team members it is difficult to manage the group to a servant style, but it is not impossible. Keeping the win-win dogma front and center, letting the staff know that owners, administration, employees and customers all must win, brings the diversity into the servant arena. When you see that a member of the group is pulling away it is typically not because they want to but because they have never experienced servant styled leadership. Some time and coaching can go a long way in bringing them on board. Some personalities gravitate much easier than others. These also need coaching as they make what is diffiluclt for others look easy. Your analogy of the seperate parts createing a whole is appropriate, but all those parts compete for resources, they just do it according to laws. Groups are no different when beliefs, coupled with faith are confident in outcomes. They too are competing but for different reasons than other styles of leadership that dont include servant style fundamentals.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Thank you my friend Harvey Lloyd. I loved your thought "The closer we resemble nature within our service the stronger the group becomes". Yes, it is going wit nature and not against it. Nature also teaches us that with variety we get resilience. Having opposing ideas is a variety and adds to our resilience. Without an agreed purpose our efforts shall go astray. We need first to diverge and then converge. This way we explore many possibilities and not the possibilities that satisfy our ego. Sometimes our interest may not be in conformity with the group's interest, but for the sake of the whole, the individual may lose temporarily, but eventually shall emerge as a winner. Your inspiration just keeps refueling me and your comments are exemplary of what true bonding between people should be.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #6

Based on my previous comment i would like to link the conversations of your previous post. Faith was a question that seems to rattle some peoples cages and leads to assumptions in many arenas. My previous comment and some messages between Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee described some beliefs, serving others is one of the main concepts. Servant leadership describes a belief that through leading while serving others success can be found. This belief has to turn to faith in outcome as it is what you will subscribe to at each turn. This can be an assumption from any one’s perspective. I would agree. Alternatively though what assumption do you use in leading others to sucess? From command, knowledgeable, to logical styles they are all assumptions until you succeed, you are useing faith in your beliefs of style. Have you ever compared them? Each situation is unique and each style of leadership has its pros and cons. Servant leadership though is a deeper understanding of humanity that supports all styles. Regardless of your style you launch in faith from a known position to an unknown position, with many assumptions. Servant leadership is merely the pathway that all styles tread upon towards sustainable success.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#2
I agree with you and have deep respect for your thoughts in your valuable comment John Rylance.Yes, just going with the tide doesn't guarantee variety of thoughts and may lead to rigid thinking.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Your request is an order my dear David. I shall abide by your request and write Part 2 of this buzz. Your examples of binds are also captivating and enhance my wish to write the second part. I am moved by your kind and attending comment.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #3

I am humbled by your sharing of our discussions. In keeping with your analogies each part in nature performs its function with perfection. Never within judgment of other functions it serves. Humans are different in we can change our function within a group. Also different is we can hold different values within each function and judge/compare values. This is where science drops off and the spiritual or values begin. With this unique gift humans have we can choose whether we serve the group our extract from the group our own needs. The closer we resemble nature within our service the stronger the group becomes. The more we move away from serving the outcomes are predictable, but unwanted. Even if we succeed within the non serving environment our future chances of success deminish. The opposite is true when we naturally serve within the group. Each opportunity becomes an easier success. From my own experience this is easier than it sounds to execute. It only takes one person who can see the non service to begin to add a servant leadership mindset. Groups will naturally follow this leadership. Great post as always.

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #2

Opposites attract but only if those who oppose each other respect each other, that is how people with opposing ideas can bond. I submit that bond can be greater than one with kindred spirits. It can be more satisfying to bond with someone who challenges your views than with someone who you always agrees with your viewpoint.

David Navarro LΓ³pez

David Navarro LΓ³pez

2 years ago #1

Excellent post, my dear Ali. I am most captivated by the concept of the bond you have exposed here. Hopefully, you will come back with a complementary part to this buzz, speaking a little more about it. Some very strong bonds are invisible to the naked eye in every area. Magnetism in physics, chemical reactions, or even friendship in the emotional area. Some bonds are so strong, they produce a third "product"

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