Fake or Real

Fake or Real


One definite trend in our lives is the emergence of fake versus factual phenomenon. Examples include:

Β· Fake employees versus real employees

Β· Fake minerals versus real minerals

Β· Fake news versus real news

Β· Fake friends versus real friends

Β· Fake images versus real images

Β· Fake flowers versus real flowers

Β· Fake money versus real money

Β· Fake beauty versus real beauty

Β· Fake fear versus real fear

It is the last one (fake fear versus real fear) that prompted me to write this buzz.

In searching Google for fake fear, I ran across this terrific example. It is about inducing fake fear in employees to energize their minds and come up with creative solutions to possible future problems that they wouldn’t have thought about. It is the realization that it is the negative feelings such as fear that often lead us to be stronger and better-prepared than before facing them. It is self-trust and self-belief that become an integral part of solid people to continue with following their dreams no matter what disappointments and fear they face in life.

The story of success is like any other story has three acts: the beginning, the middle and the end.
Ali Anani

It is the battle between the predators (negative because we make them so and even more negative) with deepening conflicts till they are resolved by the hero. Read the history of people who failed, and you shall be surprised by the number of falls they experienced in their lives.

Great leaders can sort out real success from fake success and real workers from fake workers. They know that bubbly workers float, and gem-like performers sink. Real Amber shouldΒ floatΒ in water easily while majority of fakes willΒ sinkΒ fast. These leaders realize great achievers that are self-charged to pursue their dreams. They attract dirt when they are charged sufficiently. Because they collect dirt and become heavier and sink quicker doesn’t turn blind that the luster of the floating employees will not blind them to the real amber employees that even though they may have no luster from outside, they have it inside. Employees with luster might be like fake emeralds with very little value and high potential to deceive others.

Like we separate real gems from fake ones, so leaders need to distinguish between fake and real gem-like employees.
Ali Anani

Leaders, managers and directors alike need to realize that real gem (natural gems) are rarity and they always have their flaws. They aren’t cheated by workers who are like synthetic gems to the real thing because they are a fraction of the cost and are free of flaws. Great performers aren’t devoid of flaws and fake ones aren’t.

This is the paradox: the fakes look real and the reals look fake.
Ali Anani

So are friends- natural ones have their flaws. Accept friends with their flaws because they are real. Accept your wife with her flaws because this is the proof, she is the one worthy of joining you on your life voyage.

When workers seem to be perfect then be aware of the consequences because they may not be real.
Ali Anani



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John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #30

#33
No, but it doesn't stop us from trying.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

#32
My issue with #Metoo, is that there are real victims in the situation BUT the fakes jump on the bandwagon and ruin the initial intent. The entire movement loses credibility and the true victims get caught up in the chaos! Also, those that create fake GoFundMe platforms are right up there with the rest of the fakes that have no respect or sympathy for those that have a legitimate issue. My 4 cents! And, Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I doubt we can change human nature to rid ourselves of fakes. I feel there will always be those that practice deception, which it's unfortunate they don't use that energy to do something good. My 6 cents! :)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#31
John Rylance- Do you think this is a possible hope "Until we can change human nature there will always be fakes in some form"?

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #27

#29
True Franci. The word which springs to mind is gullible. Much of what you described prays on a person's gullibility, linked to a desire for a "bargain." To often if it's too good to be true it isn't.  Until we can change human nature there will always be fakes in some form.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#29
Thank you Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador for commenting and sharing the buzz. The mouse keeps evolving as we make better traps. Fakes are smart in evolving indeed.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

The fakes have become quite adept at being fake, and I am concerned. So many scams, fake goods, fake people, fake news that how does one determine what's real. What's more concerning is when the real thing presents itself, will we believe it to be true? All that energy spent being fake could be put to better use, indeed.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#27
Thank you dear Tausif Mundrawala

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
In science we say that the weakest point in a material determines its strength and not its strongest point. For example, as much as my muscles are strong an opponent will aim for the joint in my hand realizing it is the weakest point. So, dear Tausif Mundrawala in asking me what I think of your comment I say it is a wise one from a wise gentleman. This is reflected in your writing "but these poor fellows don't know that those are their flaws rather than their strength". You mentioned in another comment on another buzz that yoou attended a course on negotiation at Michigan University (or, over internet as I am not sure). Well, in negotiations it is advisable to aim at the weak traits of a prime negotiator. So, you are truly wise my friend.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#22
Very true and your introduction to fake values is most welcome. Fake values are detrimental and cause considerable harm for us in all aspects of our lives, including performance appraisals.

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

2 years ago #21

Performance reviews are fear driven for the most part it’s a cultural flaw in many industries companies sell hugs and kisses and stab employees in the back I suppose they have fake values πŸ€”

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#20
Dear Jerry- your comment reminds of of Train the Trainers. In this case and in view of your solid comment I say "Mentor the mentors". This is my response to your writing " If only there were enough sufficiently trained mentors to go around!"

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

2 years ago #19

Dr. Ali, It seems that one of the capabilities missing in a large part of the human population is the ability to discriminate. I don't believe it is inherent. Rather this is one of the skills that must be nurtured. If only there were enough sufficiently trained mentors to go around! And so it goes.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
Thank you my friend

Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador

Cool post

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
Again, two great examples that reflect well on the buzz

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
A great example of faked friendship. Thank you Nick Mlatchkov

Nick Mlatchkov

Nick Mlatchkov

2 years ago #14

#11
We have 'heroes', Kimmie & her sisters, and Miley ...

Nick Mlatchkov

Nick Mlatchkov

2 years ago #13

#11
#metoo is a bright example of a totally fake trend!

Nick Mlatchkov

Nick Mlatchkov

2 years ago #12

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Metoo is a bright example of a totally fake trend!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
In the buzz I wrote "The story of success is like any other story has three acts: the beginning, the middle and the end". Likewise; I add self-discovery is a story with three acts. Everyone can be the hero or chooses to be the antagonist. We all experience the same as babies depending on caregivers, but it is afterwards that we go into different trajectories. Some become a copy of their childhood, others learn to change their axioms and bring them to maturity. As you said, "right and wrong are part of the internal struggle for wisdom". To reach wisdom, some people opt for a journey that is almost free of riskiness; others take risky paths because risk bring more diverse experiences.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #10

The word fake for me, as seen on tv, doesn't leave a lot of room for learning and plenty of room for condemnation. What i find amazing is that all humans start out life totally dependent on care givers. Learning to feed ourselves, walk, ride a bike. Do we as caregivers consider this learning fake? Or do we see this as serving a human into the wisdom needed to find their own path in life? Right and wrong are part of the internal struggle for wisdom, this is not in question. But who is right or wrong is the source of dialogue that we must have with humility and searching for reality. The word fake shuts the latter process down. Why would this paradigm be different if a human chooses to expand beyond their capabilities into riskier success lines? Fresh out of school, full of ideals and plenty of energy. This describes the 5 year old motivated to ride a bike like their friends. All beginnings are based on what we currently know and understand. The success syndrome comes when we don't have a hero that shows us the wisdom needed to keep the hill we have conquered. When we serve the wrong axioms, we are not fake, but yet never been exposed to any different paradigms. We just don't know how to ride the bike. The word fake seems to be a bullet that is used to kill ones enemy's. Unfortunately it is becoming a tool used out of frustration to communicate to others about our own personal fears. This style of discussing axiomatic change is a journey killer. Once deployed the end user is/will be stuck within the success syndrome until "the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change needed" (Dave Ramsey quote, paraphrased).

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
This is again reinforcing your previous comment. I fully understand the depth of your writing "From very visual aspects to various stimulants that bring us pleasure and reassurance we are good mates. We soon learn that these premises are fake to our actual needs".We stimulate the fake and it grows bigger and so our beliefs in the fake grows. We need to have the courage to face reality and that what we have been experiencing and enjoying are mirage and not real water. This is the way so as not to sink in fake waters. When we learn our real axioms and reinforce them we shall be able to sort out the real from the fake. Great thoughts yours are Harvey Lloyd

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
Harvey Lloyd- your comment throws many questions in my mind. For example, your writing "In the beginning success is almost always intrinsically fake". Is this the reason for the "success syndrome" that dumps us to failure? If success wasn't fake would we suffer its syndrome? This is in accordance with what you wrote later "f the first part of success is always a personal battle of sorting our fears and then the second is the realization of serving a broader set of axioms, then is the first part really fake or simply the path to wisdom"? You point out the need to tell to sort out the fake from real. Failing to do so shall result only in building castles of success on fake sands. A castle that has no foundation and soon collapses. This is needed if we are to convert fake from real that is based on new and founded wisdom.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #7

Marriage is a great example of your commentary within the post. We date or otherwise become "engaged" with our spouse for many reasons. Typically in our youthful brain. From very visual aspects to various stimulants that bring us pleasure and reassurance we are good mates. We soon learn that these premises are fake to our actual needs. All things exciting, visual and stimulating follow the second law of thermal dynamics. Entropy. (In the psychological sense.) Within marriage after about the 4-5 year mark, entropy having set in, the question seems to always come up, is this all there is? A wise answer to the question would be no, it is however executing around this answer that gets us from fake to true love or reinforces fake. The question stems from our own paradigm or understanding of our personal needs. If we believe that the beginning values of engagement are still important we will suffer a cycle of fakes and failures. If we explore the our true axiomatic needs within ourselves and spouse the richness of relationship grows exponentially. The beginning was not fake but merely a youthful brain getting from point A to B. Again, a person stuck in the loop of A needs a hero to sort the youthful brain into a wise one.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

2 years ago #6

The word fake is yet another word that has taken on not just meaning but a character or paradigm when we engage its use. In any beginning the thoughts are always challenged by our own fears of being "fake". Extrinsically i cant know something to be fake as the presenter has done the research and i have not. Adding these two things up and we have entered the chaos of existence. In the beginning success is almost always intrinsically fake. We begin to venture into our on success (All of your bullet point areas.) with self gratification. It is the only measure we have in the beginning. Within the startup we experience feedback loops that register within our own fake/true paradigm. We are attempting to assuage our fears. Real success begins when we begin to gain the knowledge and wisdom of the broader scope beyond our own fears. We tend to retain a cycle of failure until we gain this wisdom. This is where the word fake has brought on a new paradigm. If the first part of success is always a personal battle of sorting our fears and then the second is the realization of serving a broader set of axioms, then is the first part really fake or simply the path to wisdom? Society seems very quick to point out fakes in many areas that are really only humans sorting out their own personal limiting beliefs, gaining wisdom. Your post points us in a direction we can serve others. When we observe folks serving their fears we can demonstrate that serving the broader axioms will return a greater chance of success. Serving ones limiting beliefs due to first time experiences is a difficult cycle to break without a "hero".

Bill Stankiewicz, 🐝 Brand Ambassador

#1
I AGREE

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Your comment explains what I started this buzz with John Rylance- the growing phenomenon of fake versus real. Your fur example is spot on and what comes next id difficult to predict because the next emerging fake could generate from the least expected. This is the dark side of the chaos we live in.

John Rylance

John Rylance

2 years ago #3

Fakes flatter to deceive. Whether it's a Rolex watch, a Gainsborough painting, or some other desirable item, people will be tempted to buy it at a knock down price even though their instincts tell them it's probably is a fake.  The other day I was listening to piece on fake fur. It has been discovered some fake fur on hats is in fact real fur. Fake fake fur whatever next?

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Dear Debasish Majumder- I think your comment is going to be your next buzz. I suggest the title "Blow and Grow" as derived from this part of your appreciative and elegant comment "and we may sometimes feel helpless to fake's emphatic blow, hardly can we resist its glow". The challenge of differentiating fake from real has led to great ideas on how to sort them out. This could be a future buzz.

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

2 years ago #1

in accordance with the available circumstances as long we cannot discriminate fake, it remains real to us and out of its detrimental impact we come to know the difference between fake and real. yet, we cannot rule out fake too relative one and we may sometimes feel helpless to fake's emphatic blow, hardly can we resist its glow. meanwhile we may burn into ashes and that too make a qualitative as well quantitative changes to us. however, great buzz indeed sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz sir.

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