Going to the Extreme Effect
Not all red colors have the same intensity. They range from light red to dark red. Our emotions have their colors that go from very light emotions to heavy ones. Our trust in ourselves and others, our authenticity, our engagement at work, our happiness, and many aspects of human behaviors range from one light color to the extreme opposite end. Confidence in self, our thinking positively or negatively, our jealousy from others is other examples of having two opposite extremes. Is it good to go to the extreme in few cases at least? Or, do we experience what I coined "Going to the Extreme Effect"? And after all what is this effect?
I have noticed unfailingly that whenever go to the extreme we lose. There is always a dark side to extremes. You may love somebody to the extreme and then this beloved one turns out into an enemy. When this happens and our expectations fail us we go to the other extreme and even to think of revenge.
I shall share few other examples. I am careful not to praise beBee quite often. However; I noticed recently that many buzzes were written in praise of beBee. This is fine, but when many buzzes are published on same topic by many authors the reader shall stop reading them. If I do care about beBee I shall not publish frequently on why beBee is the best platform. Being on one extreme puts us on the tension climax.Extremes feedback negative thoughts and actions
Ali Anani, PhD
Going to the extreme shall always lead to the generation of opposite feelings. Take jealousy for example, we notice that extreme jealousy gives birth to the feelings of possession, of isolation, of ownership and these illusions soon reach their extremes. The beloved one soon feels frustrated from attempts to control him/her, of being confined to a small world, of feeling isolated and these negative feelings mount up leading to the feelings of the need to Part Company, to flee, to regain freedom and the relationship breaks down.
Too much praising is another example of going to extremes. Studies have shown that praising students overly leads to same students getting lower grades and loss of self-confidence. They feel the load of reaching the high expectations from them and the fear not to meet them. Soon, the tension of being fearful not to meet expectations leads to negative effects and the emergence of negative behaviors. I may call this "The Negative Emergence".
Studies have shown that people who over-exercise end up in having heart problems, the breakdown of tissues, the weakening of the immune system and other health problems. Take my word if you wish. Whenever you reach an extreme think of the negative results that shall appear with time. We end up as losers when we tend to do that.
Behaviors on the edge of extremes can be dangerous.We don't need to go to the extremes to disrupt our lives and so new selves and new behaviors may emerge. Mostly, I tend to say shall be negative emergence.
Ali Anani, PhD
We may still be in the balanced state and enjoy the positive emergence. When birds fly together following simple rules they don't go the extreme. They don't go to the extreme of imposing these rules. Yet; the v-flying pattern emerges. Spiral growth in trees is not different. Trees follow the simple Fibonacci rules to grow and form their spiral shape. It is the notion that we need to go to the extremes so that disruption may occur and new life begins. The burning of a forest and its destruction causes the emergence of new forest life. However; we don't need to go to the extreme of destruction. We may still grow our lives if we only would follow simple rules. This is the way to create positive emergence.
I greatly welcome your comments.
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Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #40
Where are you hiding dear Tricia Mitchell?
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #39
Now, I am laughing dear Tricia
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #38
I smell your napkin perfume my friend
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #37
Your napkin is filled is perfumed dear Tricia Mitchell
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #36
It is a ripe equation go and write about it dear Tricia Mitchell. What a wonderful insight this is!
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #35
This happens to me all the time dear Tricia Mitchell. I have drafts of few buzzes, but I keep postponing them because others fruits become ripe and call for my immediate attention.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #34
I need to write a buzz to in response of your two great comments and soon I shall do my dear Tricia Mitchell
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #33
Dear Tricia Mitchell- I agree fully and you said it better "acts as an amplifier of opposing beliefs already in existence...". This is really the case.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #32
I like your idea that reflexes and senses have a role to play. I wonder if you add add intuition as well siraj shaik?
Louise Smith
منذ 6 سنوات #31
Yes
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #30
Read the article and how love ended in killing. A sad story and is a case worthy of what extreme love can end up as a murder.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #29
Thanks and I shall inspect this link dear siraj shaik
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #28
The line you quoted from the buzz are exactly what I wished to communicate in this buzz Savvy Raj. You and Sara extracted what I wanted to say. I am very grateful to both of you.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #27
My friend siraj shaik- you are one of the commenters who pleases my heart with your comments. I shall tag you on my next buzz related to "ideas wastes". I need your wisdom.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #26
Dear Sara Jacobovici- it is responses like yours that lift up my heart. I am looking forward to reading your forthcoming buzz with enthusiasm.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #25
"Why then go to the extreme when we could create possibilities while staying in balance?" Thank you for rephrasing this core question Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I am on my way to putting together a possible response.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #24
I say loudly that I agree with your comment . It is so clear that I need add nothing to it except expressing my approval and full support.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #23
Thank you dear Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich because it reinforces your comment as well.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #22
I agree fully with you Joanne Gardocki in saying "the connection with mind/logic and heart/emotion is lost". Being in the extreme for prolonged time and/or frequently will lead to this separation. I couldn't express it in better words than you did.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #21
Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic- the scientific engineer I agree with you. The way you praised beBee is more influential than direct praising. Yes, your approach "The post was not just about praising this platform, but it deals with the purpose of being on social media in general" is very sound. In quality control we determine an upper and lower limits for processes. In other words we allow for some deviations. Sometimes whether intentionally or not we find ourselves in the extreme. That is fine as long as w don't swing to the opposite side frequently because this can be stressing.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #20
Jerry Fletcher- you said it all in one line "That is why I'm an ambassador. I'm not here to praise beBee but rather to take enjoyment from it". I love the way you put it. Too much praising shall fire back. We are enjoying the exchange of ideas and we are all learning in a friendly environment. The joy of learning and advancement is unparalleled by any other joy, for me at least. I thank you so much for your encouraging words. Genuine appreciation is a source of joy.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #19
I concur again with you that trusting extremes sometimes will lead to new possibilities, life and opportunities. One question though which I tried to highlight in this buzz. There are emerging new lives when we are in balance. I give the example of flying birds and fish schooling. They keep nearby by following simple rules. For birds they end up flying in V-shapes with so many advantages like reducing the flying effort by as much as 78%. Why then go to the extreme when we could create possibilities while staying in balance? This is my core question. Thank you for providing me with the opportunity to explain my main point again.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #18
"but still in isolation of feelings, thoughts or experiences related to these...". This is a remarkable point Sara Jacobovici. The emotional stress in going between extremes can be huge. The swinging of feelings is similar to the swinging of any other object. I fully concur with your subtle comment. Feelings are like some materials that we expose to high temperatures then we quench them immediately in ice. They shatter.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #17
"Culturally though boundaries are merely the other side's view of the extreme". This is an extremely viable point Harvey Lloyd. You bring up a huge issue on the boundaries that are invisible or can't be marked. Human complexity means that we only have fuzzy boundaries. I feel these boundaries are fractal like the English coast. The more we look into, the more the boundaries look endless. In these cases may be we need to identify simple rules of agreement. This also brings the issue of even defining these terms. What is culture? Consciousness? and many other terms. If we don't agree on their definition how could we define their boundaries?
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #16
And worse is if the swing between two opposites is fast.
Lada 🏡 Prkic
منذ 6 سنوات #15
Jerry Fletcher
منذ 6 سنوات #14
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #13
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #12
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #11
Louise Smith
منذ 6 سنوات #10
Louise Smith
منذ 6 سنوات #9
Louise Smith
منذ 6 سنوات #8
Louise Smith
منذ 6 سنوات #7
That's really nice and really true !
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #6
You just inspired me with an idea for my next buzz. THANK YOU SO MUCH Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
منذ 6 سنوات #5
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
منذ 6 سنوات #4
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #3
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #2
Yes, and this is the main message of this post
Mohammed Abdul Jawad
منذ 6 سنوات #1