Going to the Extreme Effect

Going to the Extreme Effect

Not all red colors have the same intensity. They range from light red to dark red. Our emotions have their colors that go from very light emotions to heavy ones. Our trust in ourselves and others, our authenticity, our engagement at work, our happiness, and many aspects of human behaviors range from one light color to the extreme opposite end. Confidence in self, our thinking positively or negatively, our jealousy from others is other examples of having two opposite extremes. Is it good to go to the extreme in few cases at least? Or, do we experience what I coined "Going to the Extreme Effect"? And after all what is this effect?

I have noticed unfailingly that whenever go to the extreme we lose. There is always a dark side to extremes. You may love somebody to the extreme and then this beloved one turns out into an enemy. When this happens and our expectations fail us we go to the other extreme and even to think of revenge.

I shall share few other examples. I am careful not to praise beBee quite often. However; I noticed recently that many buzzes were written in praise of beBee. This is fine, but when many buzzes are published on same topic by many authors the reader shall stop reading them. If I do care about beBee I shall not publish frequently on why beBee is the best platform. Being on one extreme puts us on the tension climax.Β 

Extremes feedback negative thoughts and actionsΒ 
Ali Anani, PhD

Going to the extreme shall always lead to the generation of opposite feelings. Take jealousy for example, we notice that extreme jealousy gives birth to the feelings of possession, of isolation, of ownership and these illusions soon reach their extremes. The beloved one soon feels frustrated from attempts to control him/her, of being confined to a small world, of feeling isolated and these negative feelings mount up leading to the feelings of the need to Part Company, to flee, to regain freedom and the relationship breaks down.

Too much praising is another example of going to extremes. Studies have shown that praising students overly leads to same students getting lower grades and loss of self-confidence. They feel the load of reaching the high expectations from them and the fear not to meet them. Soon, the tension of being fearful not to meet expectations leads to negative effects and the emergence of negative behaviors. I may call this "The Negative Emergence".

Studies have shown that people who over-exercise end up in having heart problems, the breakdown of tissues, the weakening of the immune system and other health problems. Take my word if you wish. Whenever you reach an extreme think of the negative results that shall appear with time. We end up as losers when we tend to do that.


Behaviors on the edge of extremes can be dangerous.
Ali Anani, PhD
We don't need to go to the extremes to disrupt our lives and so new selves and new behaviors may emerge. Mostly, I tend to say shall be negative emergence.

We may still be in the balanced state and enjoy the positive emergence. When birds fly together following simple rules they don't go the extreme. They don't go to the extreme of imposing these rules. Yet; the v-flying pattern emerges. Spiral growth in trees is not different. Trees follow the simple Fibonacci rules to grow and form their spiral shape. It is the notion that we need to go to the extremes so that disruption may occur and new life begins. The burning of a forest and its destruction causes the emergence of new forest life. However; we don't need to go to the extreme of destruction. We may still grow our lives if we only would follow simple rules. This is the way to create positive emergence.

I greatly welcome your comments.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#56
Where are you hiding dear Tricia Mitchell?

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#54
Now, I am laughing dear Tricia

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#52
I smell your napkin perfume my friend

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#50
Your napkin is filled is perfumed dear Tricia Mitchell

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#48
It is a ripe equation go and write about it dear Tricia Mitchell. What a wonderful insight this is!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#46
This happens to me all the time dear Tricia Mitchell. I have drafts of few buzzes, but I keep postponing them because others fruits become ripe and call for my immediate attention.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#42
I need to write a buzz to in response of your two great comments and soon I shall do my dear Tricia Mitchell

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#41
Dear Tricia Mitchell- I agree fully and you said it better "acts as an amplifier of opposing beliefs already in existence...". This is really the case.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#38
I like your idea that reflexes and senses have a role to play. I wonder if you add add intuition as well siraj shaik?

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #31

#20
Yes

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#35
Read the article and how love ended in killing. A sad story and is a case worthy of what extreme love can end up as a murder.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#35
Thanks and I shall inspect this link dear siraj shaik

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#33
The line you quoted from the buzz are exactly what I wished to communicate in this buzz Savvy Raj. You and Sara extracted what I wanted to say. I am very grateful to both of you.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
My friend siraj shaik- you are one of the commenters who pleases my heart with your comments. I shall tag you on my next buzz related to "ideas wastes". I need your wisdom.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#29
Dear Sara Jacobovici- it is responses like yours that lift up my heart. I am looking forward to reading your forthcoming buzz with enthusiasm.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #25

#23
"Why then go to the extreme when we could create possibilities while staying in balance?" Thank you for rephrasing this core question Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. I am on my way to putting together a possible response.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
I say loudly that I agree with your comment . It is so clear that I need add nothing to it except expressing my approval and full support.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
Thank you dear Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich because it reinforces your comment as well.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
I agree fully with you Joanne Gardocki in saying "the connection with mind/logic and heart/emotion is lost". Being in the extreme for prolonged time and/or frequently will lead to this separation. I couldn't express it in better words than you did.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#16
Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic- the scientific engineer I agree with you. The way you praised beBee is more influential than direct praising. Yes, your approach "The post was not just about praising this platform, but it deals with the purpose of being on social media in general" is very sound. In quality control we determine an upper and lower limits for processes. In other words we allow for some deviations. Sometimes whether intentionally or not we find ourselves in the extreme. That is fine as long as w don't swing to the opposite side frequently because this can be stressing.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
Jerry Fletcher- you said it all in one line "That is why I'm an ambassador. I'm not here to praise beBee but rather to take enjoyment from it". I love the way you put it. Too much praising shall fire back. We are enjoying the exchange of ideas and we are all learning in a friendly environment. The joy of learning and advancement is unparalleled by any other joy, for me at least. I thank you so much for your encouraging words. Genuine appreciation is a source of joy.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
I concur again with you that trusting extremes sometimes will lead to new possibilities, life and opportunities. One question though which I tried to highlight in this buzz. There are emerging new lives when we are in balance. I give the example of flying birds and fish schooling. They keep nearby by following simple rules. For birds they end up flying in V-shapes with so many advantages like reducing the flying effort by as much as 78%. Why then go to the extreme when we could create possibilities while staying in balance? This is my core question. Thank you for providing me with the opportunity to explain my main point again.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
"but still in isolation of feelings, thoughts or experiences related to these...". This is a remarkable point Sara Jacobovici. The emotional stress in going between extremes can be huge. The swinging of feelings is similar to the swinging of any other object. I fully concur with your subtle comment. Feelings are like some materials that we expose to high temperatures then we quench them immediately in ice. They shatter.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#12
"Culturally though boundaries are merely the other side's view of the extreme". This is an extremely viable point Harvey Lloyd. You bring up a huge issue on the boundaries that are invisible or can't be marked. Human complexity means that we only have fuzzy boundaries. I feel these boundaries are fractal like the English coast. The more we look into, the more the boundaries look endless. In these cases may be we need to identify simple rules of agreement. This also brings the issue of even defining these terms. What is culture? Consciousness? and many other terms. If we don't agree on their definition how could we define their boundaries?

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#10
And worse is if the swing between two opposites is fast.

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

4 years ago #15

Dear Ali, this is another comment-provoking read. :-) I agree that many buzzes were written to promote beBee. But we can promote something in many ways and without excessive praise. Your post is also a kind of promoting beBee, although the post title doesn’t imply that topic. I’ve recently written the post about the purpose of being on beBee. The post was not just about praising this platform, but it deals with the purpose of being on social media in general. About the balancing state, I think we don't have to balance everything in our life. I let some things in my life to deviate within the given range, as in construction. 😊

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

4 years ago #14

Ali, Your comments are like seeds falling on fertile ground. Notice how the comments spiral from individual reactions to observations on nature that do not mention the Mandelbrot equations but pay them homage. That is why I'm an ambassador. I'm not here to praise beBee but rather to take enjoyment from it. I tell people about beBee because it is the first social media platform that I have ever been able to engage with on a personal and professional basis and draw joy from the engagement. It is the first that beckons me from across the room late in the evening to see what Ali, Jim, Phil, Gerald and Donna among many others are flinging into the mix. It is because I hear the voices from Bali, South Africa, The Middle East, Down Under, The Dakotas, Canada and the Caribbean. And with each post I read here, I grow. I tell others because I want them to know the same joy.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #13

Part Two: The example of the destruction of the forest is a great one Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee from the point of view of witnessing how nature responds to an extreme situation; from the ashes of loss, nature provides fertile ground for new growth. For us humans to allow this process, we need to trust. If we are in an extreme situation, in isolation of the other elements of the experience, trust is hard to find; internally or externally. My gut says that the difference between a forest and an individual is that the physical destruction of a forest is part of a cyclical process of cause and effect, while an individual who finds him or herself in an extreme situation is experiencing an emotional "state" of being and is detached from a process that can be trusted. Thank you Dr. Ali for another very thought provoking piece.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #12

Part One: Great discussion Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Aintegrator, a discussion such as this is very welcome. Placing ourselves in any extreme produces loss; we place ourselves in a position where something; experience, feeling, thought, is lost to us. By "swinging" in another direction towards another extreme, we may be engaged in "other" feelings, thoughts or experiences but still in isolation of feelings, thoughts or experiences related to these. We experience things in a fragmented way and are unable to make the connections; to make "real" sense of it. In this way, we often feel things in an artificial manner. You write, "There is always a dark side to extremes". I would like to suggest that maybe we can say that extremes are the dark side of any experience, thought or feeling.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

4 years ago #11

When we experience extremes as the "other" party then our first inclination is "boundries". Extreme emotional displays exacted on someone else are a value system that exists and justification is drawn. Do we measure the extreme act from a value's, legal or health perspective? We vacillate between these three domains in explaining the emotional extremes. I believe the foremost value we share as a species is boundries. Culturally though boundaries are merely the other side's view of the extreme. Being from the South my personal space is much larger than those who live in the North. Here we have two distinct boundaries that instigate an extreme. I worked in the north for many years and grew accustomed to their boundaries of space. I appeared stand-offish while they seemed aggressive towards everyone. What happened to the day we blew the horn as a courtesy. I am sorry you have crossed a boundary of mine and would like for you to know. A simple statement, but allows the "other" to know where these boundaries exist. Boundaries have altered their signage from a line of understanding to a demarcation of right and wrong. If i don't know the boundary how will i know that i have entered the kill zone of extremes?

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #10

EXTREME BEHAVIOUR Another example of extremes that are dangerous is evident in the swings in Bipolar Disorder if unmedicated with no therapy . The extreme high end manifests impaired thinking, high risk taking, spending lots of $, drinking and taking drugs to excess, very fast driving and impulsive relationships. Sometimes psychosis. Then the extreme low end manifests a zombie kind of state where the person can't get out of bed, shower, talk to friends on the phone, eat or go out of the house. There is a high risk of self harm and suicide between 10 - 20% more than the general population. The middle section is somewhere in between but more likely on the low side. The change can be both at the same time or quick over weeks or months apart. Needless to say most unmedicated ,unsupported clients I have met are miserable and confused. It's a lifelong condition with periods of partial or full recovery in between recurrent episodes of relapse as more than 75% of individuals inconsistently take their medication. A FEW RULES And part of successful recovery and ongoing management is to follow a few simple rules - take medication - go to therapy - have a daily routine - exercise, eat healthy, socialise - know how to relax - have support people, family and friends - know which activities to do when symptoms appear again - seek help in a timely manner

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #9

Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I love the main picture the colour is amazing ! I agree whenever we go to the extreme we often lose. It's what happens when a person gets extremely angry. Their body reacts and their mind stops thinking. They are vulnerable esp if the other party is calm.

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #8

Flip a coin in Australia we play Two Up with 2 pennies and bet You have a 50 - 50 chance If one side is LOVE the other side is HATE.

Louise Smith

Louise Smith

4 years ago #7

#5
That's really nice and really true !

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
You just inspired me with an idea for my next buzz. THANK YOU SO MUCH Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #5

Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee your best "promotion" is keeping on writing on beBee. THANK YOU SO MUCH !!!

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #4

Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Moderation is always great. Feel free to do what you want, no problem at all :-) Anybody should be free :-) We never ask for promoting, we just suggest. I am now concentrated on building the next great platform that is coming during the next weeks ! Enjoy beBee ! Enjoy the hive ! CC John White, MBA

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee- I explained in this buzz why I don' promote beBee and why an overdose of doing this shall have negative effects. You try smartly to alleviate these effects by asking bees to be patient. I find it of great importance not to over-promote beBee. I wonder what you think.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Yes, and this is the main message of this post

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

4 years ago #1

Perhaps, moderation is the best trait to turn life simple, with balanced emotions and tactical work.

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