Ali Anani

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I Confess My Contradictions

I Confess My Contradictions

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A good friend of mine who is a subtle writer sent me a challenging message. In it he asked me if I have ever corrected or contradicted myself in my posts. He explained if I ever gave contradicting views on same issues.

One issue that jumped to my mind is opposites. Do they exist together? Or, are they at two different poles? Sara Jacobovici repeatedly mentioned that opposites don't exist; it is we who create them.

I look for scientific reasoning for whatever I write. I might be right or wrong, but at least I try to disclose my opinions with sound reasoning. If I fail then at least I learn. What I find in writing this buzz is that we have creative possibilities to meet challenges in life and business. I am sharing my perspective with you.

The zebras and Ostriches provide a good starting point. The zebras have excellent eyesight, but poor sense of smell. On the contrast are Ostriches as they have rich sense to sound, but poor eye sight. No wonder the two animals stay together. They cancel out their weaknesses by being together. The Strength and weakness unite and not separate these animals. They co-exist together.


This is a natural thing to do. When we make opposites co-exist we become more powerful and self-confident.
Ali Anani, PhD

Strength from making opposites co-exist is again manifested in shrimps and goby fish. The two species make their opposites co-exist. In this case the opposites are vision and ability to dig tunnels in sand. The shrimps have low vision, but are able to dig tunnels for itself and the goby fish. The goby fish in return returns the favor by watching for predators and brushing the antenna of the shrimps with their tails.

I want to say even if opposites seem to us at two opposite ends; it is making the opposites co-exist that we may create strength from weakness.
Ali Anani, PhD

It is interesting that if we feel too superior to others and discard them as weak and distant ourselves from them that our weakness emerges. When we become so gripped with our strengths we ignore our weaknesses and allow them to grow discretely till they surface out as the emerging power on us. A friend of mine delayed his marriage for fear he would be cruel to his kids as his father was so cruel on him. When finally he got married he turned out to be a very passionate father and ended up spoiling his kids.

There is nobody who is strong on all attributes. It is the low vision of our inferiorities that make us lose our paths in life. We are the zebras, but still we need the ostriches to smell our weaknesses. It is in realizing that strengths and weaknesses co-exist that we become stronger. If we see them as two-in-one then we have great assurances that we shall survive.

I love the quote in the below. When a person creates opposite feelings in us we reach balance.

She scares the hell out of me and calms my soul at the same time. Maybe that’s what love is—a total contradiction that somehow balances out. 
Tammara Webber

I dedicate this buzz to my good friend Edward Lewellen who is about to publish his new book. Edward shall realize why I chose to publish this buzz now.


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Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #26

#34
For fairness, I need to tag Sara Jacobovici. These two comments form a basis of very sensible discussions

Sara Jacobovici

منذ 6 سنوات #25

#29
I appreciate Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. Your mention of me in your comment is very generous. Thank you.

Sara Jacobovici

منذ 6 سنوات #24

#26
As Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, I raise my hat in appreciation of what you say! Agreed!

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #23

#29
Just to Tag Sara Jacobovici for she is mentioned in the comment.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #22

#29
"Basically there is no such thing as 'contradiction' since the way that will work for you, in all uniqueness, doesn't have to work for some one else". Simple fact; yet quite often ignored or not oobserved. You are wise and correct Numo Quest

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #21

#26
Absolutely my dear friend Laurent Boscherini would read your comment she shall raise her hat in appreciation for what you wrote. If you would read the buzz by Sara Which way is up? https://www.bebee.com/producer/@sara-jacobovici/which-way-is-up You shall find also that you explained of of Sara's ideas also so beautifully. I truly enjoyed the elegance of thinking shown in your comment my friend.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #20

#25
You are a great resource of ideas my dear Lisa Vanderburg. Yes, we wish to fly like seagulls to explore the world above and below us, but this doesn't mean we want to be alone. Yes, I agree that "Contradiction is what levels us out". It is like positive and negative feedback in our bodies that stabilize our body's temperature. One takes us on a flight and the other help us land safely.

Laurent Boscherini

منذ 6 سنوات #19

Thank you my dear friend Ali for sharing your excellent post. Human beings seem to be unique in the need to balance two opposing drives. For me, maybe I am wrong, The first drive is to be autonomous (able to decide our own thoughts, feelings, and behavior...) must compete with an equally strong drive to connect to others.The second one is to want to be free and independent, without feeling controlled. At the same time, we want to rely on significant others (and have them rely on us) for support and cooperation, before to turn that contradiction into collaborative human learnings, as you has so well enlightened.Congrats !

Lisa Vanderburg

منذ 6 سنوات #18

We are contrary because one of our greatest assets (I've said this before) is the ability to 'change our minds'! Without flexibility, we become rigid, then frigid; set in stone. Furthermore, we are attracted to opposites - think: Marriage! I may long to fly as I watch the seabirds above, but that doesn't mean I want to be one. Contradiction is what levels us out :) Beautiful buzz, dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #17

#23
Yes, this is correct Jerry Fletcher. The "story" of the zebras and ostriches is well-documented in the domain of science. Yes, I am too amazed with what they do.

Jerry Fletcher

منذ 6 سنوات #16

In all things the strongest lies at the heart of Yin and Yang. Your Ostrich/Zebra example is one I have never seen before. Thank you.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #15

#21
Well-appreciated your comment is Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt. Thank you

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

منذ 6 سنوات #14

Everything co exists. Contradictions arise in certain situations, we gain an understanding of each and all through the contrast. Something i enjoy in your writing. Thanks.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #13

#19
SO I wish you happiness as much as your comment (particularly in Arabic) did dear Edward Lewellen

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #12

#15
I have my weakness too dear Sara Jacobovici and you know very well that integrating our weaknesses and strengths have taken both of us "a step beyond an artificial boundary of limitations". You are spot on when you say repeatedly that opposites coexist. You implanted in me this belief. I can't say with enough honesty how profoundly you moved me forward.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #11

#14
I have just commented and shared your wonderful buzz dear Savvy Raj. You truly care Time to Care https://www.bebee.com/producer/@savvy-raj/time-to-care

Sara Jacobovici

منذ 6 سنوات #10

Honoured @Ali to be mentioned in your buzz and to be mentioned in the same buzz as Edward Lewellen. I wish Edward all the success with the publishing of his new book! What you have done for me in this buzz Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee is that you have literally reframed the concept of opposites. You write beautifully and insightfully about how we can compliment and support each other by connecting with others who posses attributes or qualities that we do not. Internally, we strive for balance by holding what seems to be contradictions but in reality play an important part of the whole. Thank Dr. Ali for always taking me a step beyond an artificial boundary of limitations.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #9

#12
Yes, I meant it and your company must be very enriching. Glad I made you laugh. Have a bright day

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #8

Lovely words come from lovely hearts dear Savvy Raj. You are a lovely person and thank you for caring to share the buzz

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #7

#8
Enjoy your day Pascal Derrien. Tomorrow is a weekend

Pascal Derrien

منذ 6 سنوات #6

I have learned as much about birds and horses in PJs as coexistence not bad for a Friday morning :-)

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #5

#6
I wish I were your dog dear Tricia Mitchell

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #4

#3
Very true drear Debasish Majumder as your comment reflects reality. I dare say that every wise person who sees strength in one area should realize he/she has weaknesses in another so that they may see their co-existence. Thank you for your kind words and sharing of the buzz.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #3

#2
You are so kind dearest Tricia Mitchell

Debasish Majumder

منذ 6 سنوات #2

wonderful buzz sirAli \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! lovely insight and intriguing too sir. i guess, opposite itself is a relative design and it co-exist as well it exist outside the realm of our observation. for example, electron exist in a matter and opposite of electron that is positively charged ion reveal as anti-matter. most importantly we can perceive electron in our brain only. we cannot see electron in naked eyes. however, Great post sir. enjoyed read and shared thank you very much for the share.

Ali Anani

منذ 6 سنوات #1

Dears Sara Jacobovici- you are both mentioned in this buzz.

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