Lopsided Thinking

Lopsided Thinking

We tend to see things from one side and label them as good or bad. We ask questions such as:

Β· Do you prefer to be introvert or extrovert?

Β· Is it better to take choices now or defer them for a later time?

Β· Is it better to marry at a younger age or better wait till you mature enough?

Β· Is it better to be tall or short?

Β· Is it better to grow slow or fast?

Β· Is it better to focus on your strong traits or weak ones?

Β· Is it better to have a logical mind versus a creative one?

In reality, this is a lopsided thinking. There are weaknesses and strengths in each one of the above. I call for performing SWOT analysis for each choice we take, every decision we make to identify the opportunities and threats of each. This is a logical thinking and if coupled by creative thinking we turn opportunities to reality and handle threats more efficiently.

I start with the SWOT analysis of being introvert. I highlighted the strengths and weaknesses of being introvert. This is not a comprehensive list.

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The same applies to decision and choices and their strengths and weaknesses as well the threats and opportunities they offer. Examples include deferred payments, deferred marriage, and deferred therapy, deferred revenue, deferred server actions and deferred prosecution. Every choice has a bright and dark side to it.

Creativity is to find ideas to turn the weakness into strength. I give the example of my poor handwriting that cost me a lot. Realizing that no matter what effort I made, my handwriting lacked beauty that obstructed my advancement. This weakness was the main factor for me to learn about computer skills when computers were still in their early developments. I gained tremendous advantage of being a proficient use of computers. I could present my work in attractive format.

Another example is considering scratches of paint in new cars. This is weakness and brings the threat of discounting the selling price. A car manufacturer turned this weakness to gain new customers who became loyal fast. The manufacturer advertised the scratches by offering discounts to customers who found the scratches.

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The deferred emotions of the customers resulted in great results for the car manufacturer (as shown in the image below)

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There is an opportunity in every weakness. It is our attitude that may allow us to see these opportunities. With creativity you can have the best ideas and profits from weakness that are discarded as useless.

Don’t say I am weak in this. Instead ask yourself what opportunity is hiding in it.
Ali Anani
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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#63
Fay Vietmeier Your four simple rules are your guide and I am sure many of the readers as well. Just before responding to this comment I read a comment by CityVP Manjit on my post "Creativity Sweet Zone". It is comment #40. This comment moved me and I am sure it shall move you as well. For me, this is one of the best comments that I had on my 300+ posts on beBee. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/creativity-sweet-zone#c40 I am sure it shall resonate with you and Manjit is talking to you as well. I wanted to respond immediately to is comment, but then decided to sleep on it because I am emotionally moved by it and I don't want to respond while under control of my emotions. Stick to your four rules. They are worthy of highlighting in a post my very good friend.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #58

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee My dear Professor that is one of the things I treasure about you. You ask insightful questions 1) Stay focused on my writing ... 2) Stop being a busy, distracted bee 3) Stop multi-thinking 4) Order my priorities and keep the order You also my "best of bees" friend ... have a "wonder-full" New Year with your beautiful family. May 2020 find both of us growing spiritually and personally ... "Sow what you want to harvest"

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#61
Fay Vietmeier Just read your comment on the post of Kevin Baker and I agree that everything is a process. When we change the process we may change the result. Now, you know your process of writing and completing your drafts. What changes would you make to finish few of your famous DRAFTS? Have a great and spiritual New Year my good friend.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #56

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Thank you my dear Professor for the "refrain" redirect ... I am working on one of my famous "draft" ... and it is a "valuable one ;~) ... I think you'll agree Distracted bee that is me :~) got side-tracked commenting at length on Brains & Intentions https://www.bebee.com/producer/@kevin-baker/one-brain-one-intention-one-instinct#c8 I have such a problem just clicking "like" ... TOO easy PLUS I'm neglecting work for Aletheia and the "LIST" of things to do ... which include my response to you ;~)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
My dear friend Fay Vietmeier You wrote "That's my problem too ... I start reading & commenting and my "DRAFTS" get neglected". This is what I do as I refrain from multi-tasking. When I write I switch my mind off responding to comments. It is just allocating proper time for each task.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
Laura Donnelly in his comment

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

1 year ago #53

#47
Laura are you referring to the Marianne Williams quote ? "Our Deepest Fear Is Not That We Are Inadequate. Our deepest Fear Is That We Are Powerful Beyond Measure" https://quoteinvestigator.com/2019/06/30/deepest/

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #52

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee May is be my dear Professor that those "DRAFTS" become well-written posts. I know that won't happen if they just "collapse" The challenge is that I find inspiration in so many places Many of the IDEAS criss-cross like those trees ... like tributaries ... and I go off course with a new thought I do not know how you stay on track writing when you write many posts & respond to so many comments thoughtfully That's my problem too ... I start reading & commenting and my "DRAFTS" get neglected PLUS I have my humble business Aletheia ... my house ... to which I am at times a slave ... 4 cats ... and a partridge in a pear tree ;~) I've said it before: I need a secretary, a maid, a handyman & a gardener

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#55
Dear my spiritual mentor Fay Vietmeier Your pile of the famous Drafts will not go on piling and suddenly it shall collapse and organize into well-written posts. I assure you this shall happen. wing and sing (the S&S Factor). Is this an addition to your pile of Drafts? It could be No wing and still may sing. I say this to employees who say they have no"wings" in the organization. I am sure you may even DRAFT a poem on this.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #50

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee You do always make this bee SMILE ;~) If you clip the wings of a bird … still it will sing ;~) … there is a lesson in that for wingless creatures My dearest professor I do so appreciate your attentive spirit The ability to see things worthy of thought - fostering is a gift … that I think we share This pondering girl loves fostering thoughts … that is why I have β€œT & T” nights (tossing & turning with those thoughts and how to find the right words to express them) "How often does a most unexpected hero arise from the most unexpected people". Yes, as the thought came to me when I was commenting … I added it to one of those famous β€œDRAFTS”

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#52
Fay Vietmeier "How often does a most unexpected hero arise from the most unexpected people". Is this great thought being listed as a DRAFT? It is worthy as much as the definition of fear that you quote.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#51
Knowing a story is one thing; using it properly within the right context is another. You remind me of the student who concluded that if you cut the wings of a bird it can't walk. Your strength my friend s selecting the right story to foster a thought.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #47

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee FEAR: F false E evidence A appearing R real Not sure who to attribute this to but it always stuck with me Fear is a thief ... it distorts reality ... it's like a fog (another use for the "F") people have a hard time seeing through what it is Like what you said Laura: "Our greatest fear is our heart's fondest desire. Often we fear our weaknesses - fearing that we will make mistakes from our weaknesses - but as others have said, the areas of our weaknesses are the places we have the most possibility for change and creativity." We can be fooled by what we think our "strengths and-or weaknesses" are How often does a most unexpected hero arise from the most unexpected people It's not what you think you are ... it's what you have in you to be (about this I am writing)

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #46

#50
It is the story of the master leaving three with money and what each did. An ancient story

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#49
Interesting comment Harvey Lloyd. Very true is what you said that we tend to rally our strength to cover up for our weaknesses leaving some good traits exposed to unaware of attacks. It is the story of your ten dollars

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #44

#47
Enjoyed the comment. Anything that we hold sacred is always at risk. Be it a weakness or other material things. Our strengths will rally to close ranks to protect what is sacred in our own minds. Unfortunately, within the defense it may hold back aggressive attacks on your sacred item, but it also holds back any blessings, wisdom or opportunities. I fought hard for my 10 dollar piggy bank and saved it, while the 100 dollar deal was given to someone else.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
Laura Donnelly- I believe this is the first comment by you on my posts and what a great one it is. Yes, fear freezes our creativity if it goes beyond the "tolerable level". I loved this thought of the embedded strength in fear "Since we aren't as attached to our weaknesses, the perceived risk in making changes in this area is much less". This is a very subtle thought. As for your writing " but as others have said, the areas of our weaknesses are the places we have the most possibility for change and creativity". This was precisely my motivation for writing this post. I believe Fay Vietmeier will enjoy your comment as I did.

John Rylance

John Rylance

1 year ago #42

#43
I have to "sit on the fence", on right and left handedness. Why? Tests show I have no dominant hand, right down the middle 50/50. Let's hear it for being ambidextrous.  I once tried a Badminton Course at my local Sports Centre. drove the coach "mad", when trying to fore/back hand shots out of a group of 10 I was left handed

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#42
It is great to read your comments again my dear friend. When we perceive a weakness as a weakness then it gets hold of us and we become its prisoners. It is when we see the weakness as a strength disguised in weakness that we may be creative enough to turn this weakness around. Your great personal achievement story testifies with my perception.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

#21
Kevin Baker a blessing for me would be to meet you in person soon.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#40
Very-well formulated comment and to the point.You are not Pollyanna. To the contrast, you are very realistic. Opportunities don't only come from our strengths. There could be more opportunities in our weaknesses than we may imagine.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

Well, I don't want to sound like a Pollyanna, but I feel there is an opportunity in every weakness. Weaknesses give us something to work on; strive for; room for self-improvement; mindset adjustments, etc. With that said, we have to have an open mind to see our weaknesses and the will to take action. β€œCreativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes.” Scott Adams

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
Fay Vietmeier- you made me smile my "spiritual leader with first tagging me right this time. I scribbled the letters because of smiling in my previous comment. Sorry.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador- maybe you find this post of interest to you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
Fay Vietmeier "This "Smiling Well-Spring Spirit" loves the 2nd: "See Miracles In Life Everyday" Please find a way to use this and I don't know what juice shall flow. All I am sure about is that it shall be tasty.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
Fay Vietmeier- youmafe me smile my "spiritual leader with first tagging me right this time. Second- your first paragraph is a post with expansion. Weaknesses means challenges, which means opportunities.Put the three in a circle and they feedback to each other meaning that the greater the weaknesses are, the greater the opportunities are. One shared example is the extract from the comments of Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee and my own experience with poor handwriting. I even wrote the story of my experience with poor handwriting and how it led me to develop computer skills. Merge to Emerge was the post on beBee https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/merge-to-emerge It is interesting that the three of us had this positive attitude to turn weakness to opportunities and skills.

Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee

Kevin Baker Your answer made me chuckle--the handwriting comment. Reminded me of when I could touch-type as fast as I thought--dancing on the keyboard I called it. The time came when my hands started crippling up. For the longest time, I could not convince myself that it was all of me that had skill--not just my dancing hands.

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #32

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee So well said my dearest Professor: β€œThere is an opportunity in every weakness. It is our attitude that may allow us to see these opportunities” A β€œweakness” could be considered a challenge It has been said that challenges are often brilliantly disguised opportunities A bad attitude can blind one to opportunities A good attitude can provide vision Vision is the ability to see what others do not see 2) Ali~ you some how always make this "bee" SMILE ... and even with this laugh Truly you are an energizing, edifying "thought wind-mill" SMILE: Special Magic In Loving Everyone See Miracles In Life Everyday Shine, Motivate, Inspire, Lead, Excel Showing Miracle In Every Effort This "Smiling Well-Spring Spirit" loves the 2nd: "See Miracles In Life Everyday" I'm going to find a way to use that

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Paul Walters- your comments are "dozes of encouragement". Thank you

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

1 year ago #30

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee As always, much food for thought. Thank you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
I shall try this tonight and see where the wrestling of mind shall take me.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #28

#26
A thought to consider is the last 15 minutes of the day. Whats on your mind? Are you thinking i can serve better or are you thinking how you can get even? Given these polar opposites your mind will wrestle with either. The last 15 minutes is the USB chip to the subconscious.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

I thank you also Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee for sharing the post.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#27
Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee- what you rightly called the grey zone is the the sweet spot of the branches of thinking. Or, it is the zone on the edge that lead to generating new ideas. As long as one is alert and agile your way of thinking is nimble. Thank you for branching the discussion.

Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee

I'm finding that many of us have been weaned into dichotomous thinking. People no longer see the greys. I do tend to plan 10 steps ahead, but I am able to swerve my course should an unknown happen. It's a curious thing--this thing called life.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
You know that since I commented on sleeping on idea I have been busy collecting my mind to draft a post. I must say that I didn't think of the possibility of sleeping on an idea in all positions, However; I find myself involved in many positions including the use of neuroscience in understanding how we sleep on ideas and become creative. I shall share the post soon. I almost finished drafting a post on fast growth and slow growth with some new perspectives. I am lost now which one to publish next week. I try to publish one post per week.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #23

#23
I would say any idea would require sleeping in all four positions. Giving full weight to as many perspectives within an idea as we can.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Another idea that popped up in my mind is an inspiration from the comments of Fay Vietmeier. Fay uses the word smile a lot in her exchange of comments with me. I decided to Google for SMILE acronyms. Here are few interesting ones: Special Magic In Loving Everyone See Miracles In Life Everyday Shine, Motivate, Inspire, Lead, Excel Showing Miracle In Every Effort I have the right to call you The Smiling Well-Spring Spirit

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Harvey Lloyd- an analogy that crossed my mind is the best sleeping position. There are studies that reveal the pros and cons of sleeping in different positions: on the back, on the stomach, on the right and the left side. Of all positions sleeping on the back is the best because it is balanced. So, when we sleep on an idea do we sleep healthily? Sleeping on the side is like going to the extreme from right to left. The balancing state is sleeping on the back. Are opposites the same and the best sleeping position for them is not tilting them right or left; it is on "their back".

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#21
Thank you Kevin Baker for relaxing my mind about my poor handwriting. This is relieving. I enjoyed your emphasis on perceiving strength as weakness. At least, this way we remove the possibility of becoming inflated by our strength and we may attempt to strengthen what is already a strength.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #19

#18
Thanks Jerry for your words. It means alot coming from you. It was a hard fought lesson i had to learn.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
Thank you Jerry for stopping by and not only commenting, but also mining out some gems of the previous comments by Harvey Lloyd. I wish both of them would respond to your comments and expand on their comments. You make the idea of drawing the swot analysis of personality types worthy of further exploration. I wonder if Harvey intends to do so. Yes, Fatima was an active participant in framing the WPD Factor. This is Wonderment, Passion, Drive. So, no wonder Fatima brings wonderment in her subtle comment.

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

1 year ago #17

Dr. Ali, Once again you suggest a topic that toggles the thinkers that visit here. I was particularly taken by Harvey's "analysis would bring to light the need for a leader that helps at the bounding sites of each personality." that may be one of the best descriptions of a leader I have ever seen. Fatima gave a visual to the wondrous reality of yin/yang. Thank you all for thinking out loud. It makes a difference. And so it goes.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#16
Soon,I am writing a post on the three Indian ladies by the names of Proma \ud83d\udc1d Nautiyal who have such great minds and spirits. Thank you Fatima for stopping by and writing such a thoughtful comment. Yes, we may be also creative in the way we learn. This is a great topic for a post titled "Creative Learning".

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

Very well said Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee every weakness is an opportunity to learn something new And creativity comes in if we are ready to learn. When we begin to learn we get creative with the way we want to learn. Converting our weakness to opportunities as you beautifully portrayed in this buzz. It’s like a 360 loop and compliments each other.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
At least you put a smile on my face dear Debasish Majumder. Thank you for your trust and sharing the post.πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

1 year ago #13

you might have poor handwriting, but surely possess unique capacity of thought reading which alone navigate you to become creative sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! lovely buzz! enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #12

#12
Can a virtual friend truly know you. We all offer our best online and post things that contain our bias. Local, real friends know when your face doesn't match your words.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
Thank you for the clarification. I like also your last point. Watching people surfing the internet with their mobile phone makes me realize how strong the individuals getting. People who surf sometimes rarely talk with each other. Is this subverting the physical friends and strengthening the bonds with the virtual ones?

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #10

#9
Alpha meaning dominant within the group. Technology although great in some instances, it does subvert the weakness tying to a strength within a group. This interface is where bonds of humanity form and we grow our weaknesses through others. Technology seems to be promoting individualism rather than community.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
Like plants and humans one releases oxygen (the plants) and humans consume it. Introverts are oxygen-releasing.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
Harvey Lloyd- your wisdom spreads like seed in wind. I did draw the swot analysis of extrovert.I didn't publish it because I expected a reader to suggest this. You did. Yes, it is fitting the jigsaw puzzle. This way we fill the "voids" and natures hates voids. I wanted to highlight how we may do the same when when aren't gifted with a given skill such as poor handwriting. This "deficiency" could couple with a new technology.Because we feel the want to fill such deficiencies we become eager to learn. I don't know if the sixteen types of personalities have been discussed. It is a great idea for we may see visually the holes and the needed strengths to fill them. Have you done so? To my best knowledge the alpha syndrome has to do with mental retardation. Is this what you meant? I thank you for always expanding my mind with your thorough comments.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #7

#4
To add some complexity to the thought, introverts consider what they are saying before saying, extroverts say it and then think about it. A generalization as each type has its acute stages. This is why introverts exert energy in communication where extraverts are energized by the same.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#4
Yes, it is a balance and your example is spot on John Rylance. Balancing the opposites is a skill that we are in much need of.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Very true and your cooking example is quite fit dear Tausif Mundrawala stated in his comment #5 skills are assumed. Your example states clearly that we need to build skill to couple it with creativity. Thank you for reminding me of what I wrote before, your linking and sharing the post.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

1 year ago #4

If you took the SWOT analysis of the Introvert and created the same analysis of an Extravert, you would see where the jigsaw puzzle fits for a team to form. Taking all 16 personality types and performing this in jigsaw puzzle SWOT analysis would bring to light the need for a leader that helps at the bounding sites of each personality. It is difficult to look at a personality type in a vacuum. One can not be introverted if a room of extraverts don't exist. The same holds true for the opposite view. This derivative of Jung's work tells of a puzzle of communities. Folks weaknesses bond at the site of others strengths. Two strengths or weaknesses bond well together. You either get the alpha syndrome or the victim hole. Cultures today tend to judge weaknesses so it is difficult to get folks weaknesses to bond with others strengths. Leaders know how to help graph these sites together and encourage it. (Skills are assumed.)

John Rylance

John Rylance

1 year ago #3

#3
In very simplistic terms the blend/balance between introvert and extrovert is knowing when to speak and when to keep quiet to achieve the outcomes you seek.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
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Lyon Brave

1 year ago #1

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