Soapy Human Behaviors

Soapy Human Behaviors

The exchange of comments with @Sara Jacobovici is always interesting and challenging. Sara commented on my last post on "Pungent, but Real Stories" by writing" Forgive me @Ali Anani but I say this with serious intent, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet". The reason I say that is that everything has to exist; the (sweet) smell of a rose as well as the (pungent) smell of the corpse flower. What is pungent to us is fragrant to the fly. Now we look at how that transfers to behaviours and I can only refer to @CityVP Manjit's comment. Thank you Dr. Ali for pointing out the diversity of nature and our human nature.

I responded by writing "With seriousness I say @Sara Jacobovici yes, pairing is there. WE can't have one without the other. However; we have reference- that is our favoritism. In stories for example, they are only interesting if they have a conflict. We are biased to the hero and hate the antagonist. The hero has people who hate him and likewise the antagonist has people who stand by him. There is a porous dividing line. In solutions we have unsaturated one, saturated one and oversaturated one. If we change the temperature a shift takes and the saturated one may move this direction or the other. I wonder what you think"!

Sara responded by saying" I think that you present a very wise perspective @Ali Anani. And you provoked me to think about the distinction between "attraction" and "identification"; in nature we are predisposed to be attracted to those things in our internal and external environments which will be of benefit to us. Yet our human nature is drawn to aspects (such as heroes and antagonists) that we connect with through identification. Would you say that this distinction falls along that porous dividing line"?

We humans are mostly human bodies and metaphors based on water resonate with me accordingly. I am therefore using a water metaphor in my attempt to answer Sara's question.

Water molecules have a natural tendency to bond to each other through hydrogen bonding. This is a built-in tendency and so water molecules attract each other. Attraction is one part of Sara's comment and the remaining part is identification. Water molecules form spheres because this is the lowest surface area possible and may be affected by gravity so that spheres may not be perfect. Like we are prone to be attracted to things that benefit us so are water molecules. These attractions dictate our shape and how we look and the effect of external factors that may distort our "spherical" shape, but without changing it completely.

Soapy Human Behaviors
Now, introduce an external factor. Imagine having a fatty surface such as leaves instead of neutral ones and spray the leaves with water. The fat on the leaves weakens the bonding or the cohesion of water molecules. No more the water molecules are able to bond like before. They lose their acquired identity and almost revert to type. We have almost free water molecules that form sheets instead of droplets. The sheet of water runs off the leaves. This explains why having fog of water on the mirrors of car makes driving difficult. The water drops act as minor mirrors that reflect light in many directions. To get rid of these problems just try adding soap to the mirror. The soap forces water drops to form a water sheet and drop off.

The water identity is affected by the bonding (attraction) by the water molecules. Reducing the attraction of water molecules gives a new identity for water. Identity and attraction fall on the porous dotted line.
When we change shape we change our attractions by strengthening them or weakening them. Attraction and identification are not working in isolation.

What do you think?


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#28
Nice and great to read your comment dear brother Anees Zaidi. You are correct and the buzz I posted next to this one was inspired by comments on this one. My next buzz is also based on the comments on my last buzz "The Curly Hair of Change". SO many inspiring comments and this one by yours has sent new ideas floating in front of my eyes. Yes, without ideas pollination we lose a lot.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#26
Thanks @Nicholas Frester. Wikipedia defines relativism as the concept that points of view have no absolute truth or validity within themselves, but rather only relative, subjective value according to differences in perception and consideration. I tend t say yes.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #17

#23
You've given me more important questions to think about Ali Anani. Thank you.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#20
Like transformation of energy we may be in need of parallel transformations such as in behavior dear Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD. I don't have a ready answer, but I do have a breathing space to think about what you suggested "Is it possible to have a spiral growth of loops? Do we have choices? So many intriguing issues to think about".Again, you make me think and I am truly provoked dear Margaret.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
Sara Jacobovici would read it. Sometimes, we get stuck in a loop (whether positive or negative (stabilizing one). The question is if we do then how to move out of the loop? When we have nested loops the issue becomes complex and difficult to handle. Is it possible to have a spiral growth of loops? Do we have choices? So many intriguing issues to think about.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#18
We are chemical reactions- enzymes react and change conformations to efficate reactions. Proteins react. Amino acids react. Pumps in our bodies need energy to pump blood and potassium. Water dances as its bond stretches, folds, bend and so on. Reactions and pumping as well physical actions all require energy. Yes, where will this energy end up? Energy is not lost, but may transform to other forms of energy. SPiritual energy is not different. Well-said Deb Lange

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #13

#10
I appreciate you introducing the element of time in this discussion CityVP Manjit. The cycle of attraction and identification is not redundant, it takes place at different times. We are not stuck in a loop, we are in movement. As long as there is growth, there is maturity. If there is no movement, there is no growth and we cannot mature. I also appreciate your discussion of transformation versus renewal. There is an important distinction between the two in as much as transformation is a process of changing something which already exists and renewal is stopping the process of transformation and returning to the "original" state. If what I have written does not make any sense it's your fault Manjit because you push my mind into areas that are not clearly formed.....yet.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
Love your positive spirit Narveen Aryaputri

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Thank you for your great comment dear Deb Lange. I am so happy the buzz resonates with you. As for your suggestion on using energy as a metaphor it made me smile. Only two weeks ago I published a buzz on RACE as the New Strategic Model. The metaphor is coal a a source of energy. However; I plan to cover your ideas in my next buzz and I find it very practical. I assure you as I am equally attracted to your buzzes for they expand on my revelation.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#10
I was hoping that you would comment on this buzz CityVP Manjit and I am glad you did. You added new and terrific perspectives. First, the time dimension- our attractions change across a lifetime at various stages of our life. You linked time-based changes with identification- and yes this change corresponds to identification. Your quote of Muhammad Ali is timely and relevant. You identified different types of growth that may be either slow, but consistent or sharp . This leads to micro and macro transformations and accordingly our identification> SHeer brilliance and I look forward to what Sara Jacobovici will say.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#9
Thank you and this comments from you has its assuring value Joanna Hofman

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

5 years ago #8

Notice how our attractions change across a lifetime at various stages of our life and yes this change corresponds to identification. That is a natural part of growth as Muhammad Ali so nicely said in this quote http://www.azquotes.com/picture-quotes/quote-if-you-look-at-the-world-the-same-way-when-you-re-50-that-you-did-when-you-were-20-then-muhammad-ali-93-85-90.jpg Not all our growth is a natural progression of maturity and phases of life. We discover aspects of our existence which we realize we would like to change. Here soapy behaviours for me are different time elements of transformation. The soapy behaviour of washing away behaviours that hurt us or others is the macro challenge. Yet there is the world of tiny differences where engage in little washes of our spirit until the net effect is noticed over time. That form of soapy behaviour is called renewal.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#6
Many times as I say to myself enough writing- only for such an example of sweet comments that urge me to continue. Thank God for having so sweet readers like you Fatima Williams which is like a fuel for me. I thank you beyonds what words can say.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

You Ali Anani. As I learn each day I Thank God for this blessing.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #5

#5
More than flattered to agree Ali Anani.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#4
Thank you dear Sara Jacobovici and mine because I felt together they weave a nice story. I am very happy that your comment led to the writing of this buzz. We are bonded through our thinking and this is a strong bond that is truly affecting our identity and shaping it.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #3

I think you are brilliant Ali Anani. "The water identity is affected by the bonding (attraction) by the water molecules. Reducing the attraction of water molecules gives a new identity for water. Identity and attraction fall on the porous dotted line. When we change shape we change our attractions by strengthening them or weakening them. Attraction and identification are not working in isolation." A great integration of the process you describe. You have also opened a whole new area in the discussion of the nature of human relations as manifested in your concluding statements. I am grateful to be mentioned in your work. Thank you Dr. Ali.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
debasish majumder- I forgot to mention that this part of your comment makes a great theme for a poem by you " where one resonates with other. so hero or anti-hero having alignment to two separate ideology, making a polarized existence".

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
This is an intriguing comment dear debasish majumder. Yes, your thoughts are very deep and the social fabric does affect our attractions and identity. We may see them deceptively separated; in reality they are not. Very deep thinking yours is dear Debasish

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