Suspended Doubts

 Intriguing questions cross my mind such as:

·When to suspend writing to beBee?

·When to suspend commenting?

·When to suspend negotiation?

·When to suspend dealings with a business partner?

·And many more

The "bee-flower" metaphor is of great help in answering these questions. I wrote here a post on "The Honey Paradoxes" in which I explained that suspended honey has a better value than pure honey because the suspended particles (pollens) are rich in proteins. We devalue honey if we remove the suspended pollen particles. However; the paradox is that people prefer transparent and clear product to a suspended one. Our senses deceive us. Sara Jacobovici responded with a beautiful buzz titled "When Turbulence Clearly Makes Sense". In the buzz, she elaborated on the idea by asking " Does clarity allow you to see better or are our senses being deprived of being able to experience the quality of turbulence? Are we a culture that defines “murkiness” or “opacity” as unclear or impure versus engaging in the challenge of extracting those valuable elements within the conflict"?

  We are seeking clarity from turbidity. Is this sensible? In fact, this is not only sensible, but is also much needed in business, life and even in drug administration. Suspicion is lack of trust, which leads to suspension. Yes, again suspension emerges in lack of trust. Suspension serves as an indicator whether to continue "swimming in the turbid waters", or suspend and eventually withdraw.

Let me show by example. You are negotiating a deal. At one point you become suspicious and suspend the negotiation. Why do you suspend? Are you leaving pollens in the honey of negotiation that makes it cosmetically unappealing?  May be the counter negotiator is making it turbid for you to quit and leave behind the goodies? Remember that suspensions, no matter how turbid the waters of negotiation are, are pausing periods and the suspended issues may settle on its own.

This brings another issue to the negotiation table. There is need to differentiate between trust and suspension. I like this quote from Marwan Sinaceur "While distrust (trust) involves having negative (positive) expectations about another’s motives, suspicion is defined as the state in which perceivers experience ambiguity about another’s motives". Suspicion creates suspension and turbidity. That is to say suspicion creates particles that suspend in the "water of negotiation".

The Suspended Doubts Metaphor

"Suspended Doubts" is the metaphor that I suggest here. Doubts are the particles that make our waters turbid and air cloudy. Beware of what particles you have. Remember that removing suspended materials may cause harm if dealt with improbably. Suspended flour in a flour mill may catch fire and cause huge harm. Wouldn't be better to suspend it in "waters"?



Do not burn your suspended flowers or pollen. They are inflammable. When I have suspicion people are no longer interested in my buzzes on beBee, for example, I know how to tame my suspicion so as to reduce the suspended doubts without losing trust in self. Suspensions are alarm lights to pause and think positively.

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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
No doubt you shall @namita sinha

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#27
@namita sinha- you cleared all doubts. You are the type of person who always writes clearly and therefore people trust your opinion. I live with you the value of trust and what it can do to relationships. Thank you for writing illuminating comments.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#26
@namita sinha- great feedback and lovely example. The cereal example is perfect. It enriched the buzz and consolidated its meaning. I am in full appreciation of your comment and its value. I hope soon all readers shall realize that beBee has acquired a great author and thinker. You are welcome.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Julie Hickman- I am moved by your sharing at it buzzes your own experiences. It is this sharing that removes doubts or lead to a green light to follow. You are more open to others than you think. I am truly happy with your comment

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
Julie Hickman- I am moved by your sgaring at it buzzes your own experiences. It is this sharing that removes doubts or lead to a green light to follow. You are more open to others than you think. I am truly happy with your comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
Your question is genius @CityVP Manjit. You know we may hold some types of bees in your hand safely. They shall not harm you unless you scare them. It is our fear that leads us to scare the bee and make it an antagonist.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

5 years ago #18

The question for me becomes whether there is prejudice in the paranoia or paranoia in our progress. Both of these conditions are problematic because prejudice equates with distrust and this is limiting, while paranoia in our progress causes us to only go as far as fear permits us to go, therefore leaving much undiscovered. Healthy paranoia however equates with emotional intelligence.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#21
I love and concur with your positive attitude to the problem William King. Knowing the problem is the first step to its solving.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Frankly speaking you dear Franci Eugenia Hoffman made my day beautiful. I am pausing just to find the right words to thank you.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

" Remember that suspensions, no matter how turbid the waters of negotiation are, are pausing periods and the suspended issues may settle on its own." This statement alone is excellent advice in everything we encounter in life. A very enjoyable article, Ali Anani, and one I can personally relate to.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
Thank you for your poetic comment dear poet debasish majumder

Qamar Ali Khan

Qamar Ali Khan

5 years ago #13

#15
Great words Anees Zaidi! A universal truth indeed. Thank you very much!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Qamar Ali Khan- the beauty is I understand it without knowing Persian. Your flowing honey makes it so easy to understand.

Qamar Ali Khan

Qamar Ali Khan

5 years ago #11

#11
This is so great of you sir Ali Anani! This is a great post and it opens multiple levels of perceptions of diverse nature. This is a post that is called "memorable". I'm really humbled and obliged for your encouraging words and compliments. If you could know Persian. They say "من آنم کہ من دانم. Thank you very much again sir!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

I am grateful to the very powerful comments this post received. I want to say thank you to every commenter for you enriched my knowledge and made me unlearn to learn, as Anees Zaidi expressed in his first comment. Thank you all

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#10
Qamar Ali Khan- you know Qamar means moon in Arabic and you deservedly are. The simplicity, but pwerfully, you expressed your opinion is overwhelmingly beautiful "The level of our suspension is directly related to the level of our suspicion". You vented out what I wanted to communicate. Thank you and happy to link with you and learn from you.

Qamar Ali Khan

Qamar Ali Khan

5 years ago #8

This is a highly intellectual and quality buzz sir Ali Anani! Suspicion is a state of mind and suspension is the reaction to that state. Suspicion emerges from the way a mind thinks and works. Our thoughts and perceptions depend how we used to look at things and how we normally take them. The level of our suspension is directly related to the level of our suspicion. I honestly agree with your message that being positive in thoughts reduces the level of suspicion and the level of suspension. A highly positive mind can even reduce the level of the direct relationship between suspicion and suspension. thank you very much sir!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
I remember beBee welcoming you as you first joined. Now, I know beBee was right in welcoming the sharp brain of Anees Zaidi. I fully concur with your comment. We need suspense and suspension. We need to be less clear to understand more. We need less comfort to gain more of it. I appreciate greatly your contribution.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#4
You are my partner Sara Jacobovici and what I write is the application of the honey metaphor that you mentioned in your last post. Yes, visualizing suspensions of intangibles such as negotiations as honey suspensions is useful; otherwise I wouldn't have dared to publish this buzz.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

It looks like I am going soon to engage with you in exchange of buzzes Javier C\u00e1mara Rica to even use it.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

5 years ago #4

Ali Anani your ability to see the complexity in what may be perceived as a simple observation, never ceases to amaze me. I think that your inclusion of perception (a concept which also appeared in your readers' comments) plays the key role here. As well, the unspoken factor of awareness is crucial in the decision making of what and when. I am honored to be mentioned in your Buzz Ali. As always, you have my gratitude.

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

Mohammed Abdul Jawad

5 years ago #3

Aha…Ali Anani so well you conceptualize, and put down your creativity tinctured with factual information to give us the sweetness of fresh precepts. :)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Javier C\u00e1mara Rica- I appreciate your unlimited courtesy

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

5 years ago #1

Your creativity don't have limits !! Thanks !!

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