To be right you have to have someone to say you are wrong
If you wait to write a buzz that everybody would agree with you then you shall never write one. However; not all differing comments shall be of the same level or category. Some comments will invoke new ideas, expand on the original idea, offer new direction and possibilities and correct the author. Other comments are only like stains on a wedding grown- they make the bride (author) feel infuriated, embarrassed and shall only distract the readers from the focal points of discussions. These comments are also like walking in a garden of flowers that nourish us with its fragrance till and all of a sudden a pungent odor overwhelms the fragrance and all attention focuses now on escaping from this odor.
This issue isn't limited only to comments as much as it pertains to all negative actions as well. Do we run away from them? Or, is it better to confront them? Or, is it best to remove these stains as we remove stains of lipstick on a bride's gown? Or, is it better to "dilute" these stains? These questions are extensible to many real situations in life and answering them would be of help to all of us.
I need first to reemphasize that we need comments that are in disapproval of our own. ! According to Eckhart Tolle: "...for you to be right...you need someone else to be wrong in order to get a stronger sense of who you are".
My use of the word stains reminds me of stains on clothes. Not all stains are the same. It is central to ascertain what they consist of. Is it a wine spill, chocolate, blood or lipstick? Oily stains don't dissolve in water and using "watery words" to remove oily comments will make the stains worse. In these cases it is hugely important to know what not to do before knowing what to do. The last thing you want is to spread the oil. You need an oily detergent to remove the sticky oily stains. ! When you publish make sure you have a "buzz detergent" to remove dirty comments that spoils the "buzz pride (bride). The pride of the bride is in having a clean gown and free of any on stains on it.
In order to remove oily stains you need a towel to move the stain towards it. After you apply a drop of the detergent to the stain you need to move a damp towel in an upward and downward motion and away from the stain. This is to prevent the formation of a ring from setting. Your wrong movement to face stained actions may form a "ring" around you. You don't want this to happen.
You know the "fabric" of your buzz or whatever action you do. Like polyester is easy to wash and remove stains. It is better to clean it with hand-washing rather than in the laundry. The solvents used in laundry are not good in removing food stains. If you don't know your fabric then you may fail in washing away the stains from some authors who give you "food for thought" only to find out that others can't remove them for you. You need to do it with your "own hands" sometimes.
Some comments are like a bride wounding her and a drop of blood spilling on her gown. Do you know what is the best way o removing the blood spot? Some people cover the wound by a layer of toothpaste to stop the bleeding. But there is a better way to do this. The optimal way is to apply saliva on it with a dampened tip. The enzymes in the spit will break down the stain and then just to dry it. If you feel "wounded" by an arrogant action then simply "spit" on the wound and leave it to decompose on its own.
Some people are deeply immersed in their negativity such that they lost their sense to smell their produced pungent smells. Even when they walk in a fragrant field of flowers they fail to smell its fragrance. Their avoidance and negligence may be the best way to deal with them.
Ali Anani, PhD
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Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #81
this is exactly my position NOW Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. We are better spend our energies on construtive interactions.
Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
منذ 6 سنوات #80
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #79
I matured more to your comment . My response to a buzz agsinst me was pairing the negativity with positivity. Therefore I shared the buzz and liked it as well.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #78
As much as I agree with you Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher I am glad that I did. This experience uncovered the great passion of other bees to stand against ill-behaviors. Besides, it lead me to write my last three buzzes that attracted more than 300 comments. I wrote a presentation on Stupidity Spawns Creativity and this was the case. However; I don't belive I would do the same again and just ignore and keep on my way should this happen again.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 6 سنوات #77
First, Im sorry that happened. It has happened to me before and I responded politely because I was bewildered. I then became defensive and that just causes more internal frustration. Ive learened that some people enjoy picking others apart, does it make them feel superior, I dont know. I try my best to ignore people who are intentionality cruel now. They are not worth your precious time, not deserving of a response. No response in cases like that are best.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #76
Exclusion is better than feeling inside as a sheep. If we don't stand by our believes we become sheep and cheap. I agree all the way with you Lisa \ud83d\udc1d Gallagher. If you know that I read only one of your buzzes and I write a comment stating "Your posts are vacuous and empty of any meaning, what would you do? This is exactly what I experienced and I meant my question to address this issue. To ignore, to respond or what?
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 6 سنوات #75
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #74
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #73
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #72
As I let your words absorb CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit, I cannot help but juxtapose those images I've been tied to far too long of Hurricane Irma. I totally understand when you say 'we are immersed in information 24/7'; both the healthy and the unhealthy aspects of how live live now in the first world. You bring us a reminder of our frailty amongst all the 'trophies' we think we have, but we are mere flesh; we wound, we hurt. That's what I understand from you and I am humbled. Thank you!
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #71
You always add a new layer to the discussion. Yes., your reference to stain s in our behaviors that resulted in repeating dark ages. If we aspire to reach he golden age we must clean our staining beliefs, thoughts, actions and intentions. We must be clean of internal stains that make us see the world as dark and deprive us from enjoying nature and its miracles to learn from and advance. I wish you CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit a safe journey to the golden age. I know that obstacles shall not deter you.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 6 سنوات #70
CityVP Manjit
منذ 6 سنوات #69
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #68
Oh, forgive my comment then Ian Weinberg; as you will know of the content, I'm confused at your question? That said, I do not include myself with those here that are working towards fruitful resolution - I'm far too distracted today because my family is in the way of Irma. But I do want to be clear to you, with the greatest respect, that there is no advantage in reopening wounds. As an eminent Neurosurgeon, I'm sure you understand. Kind regards
Ian Weinberg
منذ 6 سنوات #67
Apologies Lisa Vanderburg I would not wish to intrude upon or retard the great progress being made in this regard by 'clear thinking minds'. Of relevance is the fact that I have indeed read the articles in question and all related comments.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #66
I opted not to respond to the question about grievance because I am more interested in the ideas those discussion have generated. I want to be proactive as Harvey Lloyd for give me the space to explain and to keep moving forward.
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #65
Ian Weinberg last two posts here, if you want the answer to 'But for my clarification I wish to ask what the specific grievance is?' It would not serve to re-hash that here and now, where great progress is being made by clear-thinking minds. Many thanks...just IMHO! :)
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #64
To all you wisdom Harvey Lloyd, I tip my hat, Sir! Still trying to work out your XY grid thing #66, but that just shows the limit of my intelligence :) I am remiss and distracted with a million messages to my son & family & extended in FLA (that you for your good wishes Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee & anyone else I missed). Seems to me you are all evolving a better was of practice to this platform....you should get a bleedin' knight-hood as far as I'm concerned! :)
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #63
My response to the comment of Ian Weinberg. Do you agree?
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #62
You are a wise man Ian Weinberg to write "I take issue with your content and approach. I perceive no value contribution from you in this context and respectfully request that you disengage". I applied almost the same approach. I don't dispute it in any way. You add in your comment "But we cannot change others or their values - we engage, attempt non judgemental dialogue in order to gain value from the interaction and contribute our value-add". Again, I don't dispute this either and I am in deep appreciation of it. This is exactly what we are experiencing here with so many new ideas emerging. I assure you I can write a book on those new ideas and shall soon review them in a buzz. The positivity with which commentors tackled the initial issue made all of us better and enriched with new ideas as are exemplified in the last few comments on this buzz. Sometimes the topic might be of little importance for some readers, but the comments branch out into new thinking. Creativity after all is to create a butterfly effects from small issues and create significant new possibilities.
Ian Weinberg
منذ 6 سنوات #61
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #60
I add my wishes to yours Lisa Vanderburg. I would really appreciate your response to the comment of Harvey Lloyd #66
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #59
"Being a bit of a bull-dog myself" i have all to often woke up with the wrong derriere within my bite. Didn't stop me from being a bulldog but did help assign appropriate targeting data prior to the bite. I have enjoyed the discussion immensely.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #58
Harvey Lloyd- your comment brings another idea for me to ponder on. It is combining the DISC Profile with the Risk Profile or the purpose -risk profile as you suggested. Here I can see new possibilities in front of my eyes. Again, finding a way to relate to the Blue Ocean Strategy four blocks new possibilities emerge. I welcome these discussions because they went up the expectation line of these discussions. The discussions are helping us to form new ideas, concepts, approaches and even theories. I am still brewing on your idea and I am sure more ideas shall emerge. Merging of ideas = Emergence of new life
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #57
We are on the same wavelength Lisa Vanderburg. I am again contemplating on the power of good intentions and great purposes acting together.
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #56
#42 #44 Sara Jacobovici quotes, "those who keep silent and not defend rights are silent devils". And I'm no where near caught up.... I confess to being a bit of a pitbull when it comes to bullies, and I will defend those in the right (in this case, the buzz-ee). I acknowledge that can be a good or bad thing; knowing when to stop is key. That said, I agree that we've identified through your comments and others that 'fence-sitting' is not the same as passivity; it's just not wanting to get involved. IMHO, the upshot of fence-sitting is at all our cost; a diminished product; this platform. As I said, I haven't caught up yet, but I want to end with a positive note; all the comments hear are adding to a real discussion on a positive way forward - that's so very encouraging - I'm grateful!
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #55
Accept your apology for what dear Harvey Lloyd? For being so constructive and thought- producing gentleman? You have been an active commentor and you enriched our discussions with great ideas. The proof is in your comment. This is a great idea and you bring the issue of "purpose-tolerance deviation". I am going to draw the graph and ponder on it. You have an authentic idea and this is again a point to highlight. If it wasn't for our purposeful discussions would this idea of yours have emerged? Purpose + good intentions open new doors for all of us. The discussions on this buzz have been so illuminating. The intent in all comments have been healthy and I can see now more than ever the synergism between purpose and intent and what they can produce.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #54
I agree and accept my apologies for i was not diminishing one conversation over another, but rather looking to broaden the discussion by exploring when is the right wrong discussion appropriate vs not loosing sight of the original purpose. My example was at the extreme other end. Could we possibly place a XY grid in play. The Y axis would be zero at the bottom one hundred at the top. The same would be for the X axis from left to right. The Y axis would be the risk assessed/influence required. The X axis would be communication/discernment. If we drew a perfect 45 degree line from the corner we would see the perfection of communications in the specified (weighted) risk environment. Nothing travels in a straight line. The goal would be to establish where our plots hit in comparison to the 45 degree line. Given this visual we would be able to delineate where purpose is more important than right and wrong. It would also allow us to visualize plots of various participants. Given this "plot of purpose" with several individuals we can now apply our DiSC profile and our understandings of other profiles to discern and communicate with more or less influence, depending on need. With this visual i would postulate, given the purpose and the assigned risk, we could then identify which of the blue wave principals to use. Including ignore. Great discussion as always. All discussions are fruitful and i enjoy ours as we look at humanity in an effort to strength the community we find ourselves.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #53
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #52
Fruitful discussions may lead to new opportunities that good leaders should be aware to them. I find the same happening more often than not Harvey Lloyd. Any purposeful meeting may produce offshoots that may warrant our attention. The timing is important here. We may not discuss in detail new ideas, but we must document them for a dedicated meeting. We never know what path discussions shall lead us, but we know constructive discussions shall exceed our expectations and give birth of new possibilities and ideas.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #51
I take this opportunity to wish your family safety dear Lisa Vanderburg. To participate and comment while going through difficult times is an undeniable proof of the seriousness of the issues here, Thank you
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #50
And therein lies the rub Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich: 'when someone is in the mode of repeatedly and belligerently seeking attention on social media, most people will then check out of the discussion.' These types poison the buzz, negating the essence and effectively blocking out other commenters. I have so much to say and so many to respond to...especially your points, that identify so very clearly that we need to use Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee buzz to resolve this, right here and now. Looks like everyone is in agreement to find a mode of conduct. Alas, I'm glued to CNN as my beloveds are all in danger. I'll pick this up later offer thanks to those commenters that have shown ration and courageous hearts to a pivotal point in Bebee's journey. Thanks Deb, you're a love!
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #49
Ia m still digesting the depth of your previous two comments Harvey Lloyd. I have no difference with you at all that to align people up you must have a purpose. I am a strong advocate of this principle. We may deviate from main purpose sometimes and I concur. The purpose for me in writing this buzz is how best to keep our discussions purposeful? The discussions led to some great ideas such as modified DISC Profiles, Risk Management on social platforms and more. These "off-shoots" are worthy and deserve our attention. But do they serve the purpose I intended? Surely they do because we are more alert to communication and its role in fostering our weakening our conduct and what we write. We are more alert on the different possibilities to mitigate risky behaviors or comments that may drift us away from our purpose. We need to understand the behavior profile deeper to better our communication. You have enriched yourself these discussions with some of the previous ideas. I can't be but extremely thankful to you my friend.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #48
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #47
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #46
I believe we have a apple or oranges thing happening. An egregious act must be dealt with and in dealing with it we have choices. A post, a wedding, a backyard social event never starts out with thoughts of the ketchuper. We don't invite this nor do we instigate its arrival. But yet here it is. Your example is somewhat extreme from the perspective in presenting my thoughts. I am focused on the subtle communications between humans where many communication barriers may exist that we don't understand. Specifically those subtle communications whereby lead to strong decisions. If is see a hamburger and a ketchuper shows up it appears natural. When i see peanut butter and jelly then ketchup looks out of place, or does it? I state that humans are mere explorers of an environment and "sum up", from their senses, potential intentions/outcomes. Our senses are subjective within our narrative. Philosophically we can discuss this from now till the cows come home. But in the end we as humans face daily subtle communications that we interpret and act. Choices that impact our lives and others. There are two styles of ketchupers. Intentional and misunderstood. How i choose to engage the ketchuper will influence outcomes. The misunderstood requires me to show humility and seek understanding, not agreement. The intentional is one that will reveal their selves without me engaging. You can see that if we flip flop our actions we can fuel the flames. All of this is only aligned with a purpose. In your example the purpose is the wedding. Without purpose then the actions and the ketchuper are mere folly. Thanks Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich and i agree that egregious acts these days must be met.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #45
I may add my voice to yours Sara Jacobovici. It is the impact part that is difficult to estimate because it can only be known to a higher level if someone raises his/her voice and then we observe the reactions. Abiding by the basic rules of relevant and constructive writing that is devoid of personal attacks is a great way to deal with an issue at an early phase.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #44
Great point and relevant to the risk of writing on social media. I thank you for your great elaboration Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee to implement it. This way also he relieves himself from being handicapped to manage all risks. Sometimes facts appear post to action. For example, the conflict that I faced turned out to be on a much greater magnitude than I ever expected because of the private messages that I received in support and in expressing personal experiences similar to mine as well. Therefore, the idea of risk mitigation is worthy and we may apply different "levels" of mitigation.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #43
Thank you for reminding us of the basics that some of us tend to forget. You are a wise man Glenn Melcher
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #42
Agreed . Responsible individuals form a responsible community.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #41
Appreciate you bringing me into this very important discussion . My gut says there are 2 issues being raised right now; risk and community. I'll start with community first. The mention of a "time-honored concept of a "council of elders" is one possibility (for elders in current context read "Bebee Ambassadors")" reflects that we are in a community which experiences all the dynamics of any community which is formed. Having an identified body that will ensure a minimum of safety can make the difference between a thriving community and one that will fall apart and fade away. With safety comes the discussion of risk. I would like to suggest that once we can identify what kind of infrastructure the community has, the onus is on each and everyone of us to determine whether or not we take the risks involved in engaging within this community. The engagement is subjective and how we measure the impact is based on our individual experiences. Having said that, when boundaries cross, as in any community, we have options at our disposal. If an individual's behavior has actually created a damage related to, for example, defamation of character, we can pursue the matter as we would in any community. I'm glad this discussion is happening openly and respectfully. In this way, we can actually hope to see a difference taking place.
Glenn Melcher
منذ 6 سنوات #40
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #39
Great link Yolanda \u00c1vila M\u00e1rquez. Thanks for sharing. Very relvant to this discussion.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #38
Yes I agree Zacharias \ud83d\udc1d Voulgaris Seeing only the "right" side isn't revealing the truth without seeing the "wrong" side of it. The light of "rightness" is more appreciated against a dark background.
Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
منذ 6 سنوات #37
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #36
This is a great link that we all should adhere by. I like also the consequence of questions as suggested in your link Yolanda \u00c1vila M\u00e1rquez. These are: Before you answer a question or voice your opinion, ask yourself: Is it true? Is it good? Is it kind? Is it useful? Is it necessary? Great and engaging idea
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #35
Part 2/ I wish to add a new dimension and may help in resolving the paradox I mentioned earlier. Repellent comments are a form of risk for all of us. As in risk charts we need to estimate the impact and frequency of a risk. The problem here with negative commentors is their frequency to injure" others. The frequency is high. Now, the impact as to the degree of damage they cause. What you are saying in your comment is that when the damage is high we shall always be harmed. What Sara Jacobovici and Harvey Lloyd are saying ignore it as long as the impact is low. So, you have a valid and important point that using the filter of ignoring them is not possible and I say if the impact is high. High impact x high frequency needs not a filter, but declaring a state of emergency. I hope I succeeded in finding a resolution to the paradox.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #34
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #33
I hope the two ladies in alphabetical order Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich would continue their dialogue. I know great ideas shall merge.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #32
I know that when you comment at some length isn't your habit (I hope I am right) Yolanda \u00c1vila M\u00e1rquez. That you did here means is the issue has some seriousness. You share a great point that in her comment #34. You wrote "Rather, stick to the facts and don't write anything that you wouldn't say to the person face to face. Just my humble opinion". I wish wwe all would stick to this simple rule. I agree completely with the rest of your comment. We need to abide by the "simple rules of the road". Interestingly, in one comment on my previous buzz I mentioned that there are no winners in road accidents. If we don't follow the simple rule of the road we are bound to have accidents. Why then we allow them on roads, but less so on social platforms. I appreciate your wisdom.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #31
Thank you dear Sara Jacobovici not only for your compliments, but also for introducing the idea of filter. Filtering is within our control. I fully endorse this idea. One reason that prompted me to write this buzz is the private messages that I received venting out their concern about distracting comments. I only realized the harm these comments do till I received these messages from notable authors. The issue started during your absence upon receiving a comment on LI that my buzzes are vacuous and are waste of time. The person who wrote this comment admitted that he read only this buzz of all my buzzes. I responded and then the discussion diverged and took different paths. I found it necessary to voice out my opinion. If somebody says that a buzz is devoid of any value then he must have an explanation. Throwing comments like this intoxicate the discussions. However; many people found a breathing space to vent out their bitterness with similar comments. I am willing to accept differences, but unwilling to accept offending ones. You and I are an example. We differed, but we never lost respect for each other. We influenced each other. We learnt and we appreciated our differences. Maturity is in expressing differences in a constructive way that serves. I appreciate greatly your kind words and I am not less than you in finding our exchange of comments as a learning experience. With all respect to you.
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #30
Darling and sage is Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich - I applaud your comment! Furthermore, I applaud your intuition and sheer 'stones' to dignify us with your comment! There has altogether been too much flagellation/self-impaling going on here of late; the peon that I am does not negate me from seeing that much. I am humbled to see you opine to that, because we NEED it! Funnily enough, I have been basically on CNN all day - my kids and other family are there; they moved, mercifully. But I agree with your view. We NEED the females NOT to back down; the difference in our sexes is for good purpose! We should rise above 'result' and stick to our guns (so to speak), but it MUST be done with etiquette! Thanks sweet friend, for your sage words...yet to read the rest...my mind is on Pete and on Irma....
David B. Grinberg
منذ 6 سنوات #29
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #28
Under th caps, some people hide their intentions. I agree with you entirely, Yolanda.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 6 سنوات #27
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #26
Selfishness is "I is a way of trying to assert the right for attention, no matter the destruction it causes". I believe you have introduced an eloquent definition of selfishness Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #25
I believe Harvey Lloyd is more concerned with responding to this super comment. However, @Deb 🐝 Helfrich- you remind me of a person who goes to any gathering nd addresses the group "only if you would understand". He is the only one who understands. In one gathering lately he had a discussion with a mechanical engineer about car maintenance. This man addressed him in a high voice "only if you would understand car mechanics". The engineer responded "I am a mechanical engineer- what do you mean"? I mean if you and he repeated the same words. So, the engineer asked him what did you study? the response was I have a bachelor degree in arts. This is another type of squirters who intentionally and selfishly take any discussion out of its track.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #24
I believe Harvey Lloydis more concerned with responding too this super comment. However, Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich- you remind me of a person who goes to any gathering nd addresses the group "only if you would understand". He is the only one who understands. In one gathering lately he had a discussion with a mechanical engineer about car maintenance. This man addressed him in a high voice "only if you would understand car mechanics". The engineer responded "I am a mechanical engineer- what do you mean"? I mean if you and he repeated the same words. So, the engineer asked him what did you study? the response was I have a bachelor degree in arts. This is another type of squirters who intentionally and selfishly take any discussion out of its track.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #23
Your story is clear and yes, we wish to have actionable comments Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt. We may differ on many issues, but we don't differ on the code of practice on how to express our differences. As simple these rules of conduct are; still some people violate them.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #22
Your English is as clear as the skies in a summer day Yolanda \u00c1vila M\u00e1rquez. I agree with you. Yes, as spong leaves voids to absorb we need also to have voids. We write to share our thoughts. e may differ, but for a reason and in a respectable way. When we differ constructively we learn. This is not the case with floating comments such as I find no value in your buzz without any explanation or by twisting facts.
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #21
Mothers are so very special, but it takes a son to see that - and that is you, my dear Tausif Mundrawala! As a mother myself, I also reserve the right to knock my sons heads when required (metaphorically speaking!) :)
Devesh 🐝 Bhatt
منذ 6 سنوات #20
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #19
It is the ability to adapt to the external forces dear Debasish Majumder. The more resilient we are, the more we may adapt. Antifragility may be introduced here. Let e think more for you invoked a new idea my friend
Debasish Majumder
منذ 6 سنوات #18
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #17
So right you are, my dear friend Tausif Mundrawala - jealousy is single most destructive characteristic we can ever be cursed with. Thank you for your wisdom and sharing in your grief, dear man.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #16
Exactly Lisa Vanderburg comment. Well-done
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #15
as Pascal Derrien wisely says: Be Prepared! Whatever comes, we have to stand by our commitment! Great words, Pascal!
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #14
Genius thinking Harvey Lloyd! You say '"Others" present or come with stains. Attempting to filter these folks can become an obsession and focus that is very reactive. The total basis for this obsession lies in the existence of right/wrong thinking. When we consider Win-Win then we can see the stain through a different lens and make room for others.' I couldn't have put it better: we are all stained, even when we think we're not - accepting that allows for that 5th pillar: forgiveness. That said, I still think we have to have 'rules of engagement' and not blindly rely on good nature! :)
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #13
I too am in awe of Harvey Lloyd!
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #12
In every comment you share Tausif Mundrawala you leave a trace behind. This time my choice is "tried reasoning with one of my idotic cousin who is filled with venom rather than blood but he didn't reciprocate". Apparently, even the water that runs in our bodies varies because of what we throw in these waters.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #11
You are the King of Quotes Chas \u270c\ufe0f Wyatt. You amaze me how you quickly find comments that spell out what is intended from a buzz and even what is unattended. Bravo
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #10
Lisa Vanderburg You wrote "We must disagree in a forward-facing manner; try another tack, but do it in civility and respect". Harvey wrote #4 "Conformity to a stained life (reactive) or a perspective where we can carry the picture of birth and remove stains easily (Proactive)". "Once that nasty thorn of pride or arrogance is raised, all hope is lost"- to reach a win:win situation (and again as Harvey has highlighted in his comment) an author should be willing to reach a new perspective. Like me add phosphate to nitrogen to make much better fire-extinguishing material that is superior to either of the two components so we should be. We need to find that synergism.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #9
Harvey Lloyd- if I am a "forest of wisdom" then you are the jungle. You have a beautiful attitude and therefore your comments are equally beautiful and packed with wisdom. You wrote "we choose to see the bride or the stain". You remind me of the Arab poet who wrote "they mock me because of the darkness of my skin. If it wasn't for the darkness of night, the dawn would never arrive". This is the highest rung on the ladder of wisdom. Yes, when two hearts melt together that is a great occasion. But isn't every bride proud of her gown? Isn't the white gown a symbol of starting a white life that is devoid of stains? I attended a wedding and some lady left her lipstick stain accidentally on the bride's gown. I don't need to tell you how the bride reacted and how furious she became. Sometimes stains get people imbalanced temporarily and in this short time span wisdom disappears. This is a forced case of a lose:lose situation and unlike the great picture by which you expressed how to arrive at a win:win situation. I wonder if any off our fellow female bees has experienced this in her wedding or one of her relatives and if she could share her story with us!
Lisa Vanderburg
منذ 6 سنوات #8
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #7
Ignoring stains was probably not mentioned because of the existence of right and wrong. If we eliminate right and wrong as we look at fellow humans we can share their perspective. Much like the bride with the stained gown, we choose to see the bride or the stain. I watched my two beautiful daughters get married and the gown is not what got married. Two hearts came together to form a bond like no other. Can 7 billion+ "individuals" form humanity? I would suggest that within our own paradigm we need to leave room for others. "Others" present or come with stains. Attempting to filter these folks can become an obsession and focus that is very reactive. The total basis for this obsession lies in the existence of right/wrong thinking. When we consider Win-Win then we can see the stain through a different lens and make room for others. I speak to these points not from perfection but rather from a work in progress. Like everyone else i have buttons, with the right combination, you can unlock Pandora's box. The only person that feels better is me when the lid comes off and the goal that gave me purpose is now that much further away. Win-Win thinking is a home position. A star on the map of where to come to when we are lost in the world of right and wrong. I try and live in the home position, but wander off the reservation frequently. From the home position we can launch anew and choose to which blue ocean course to take, including ignore. I tell staff frequently that i cant fix right and wrong, but we can move forward if we can articulate a win win goal. Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee you are wandering in the forest of great wisdom and i thank you for sharing with us all.
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #6
"There are merely perspectives that exist that, within my own perspective would be considered stains. I can learn from this perspective, disagree with it or ignore" This is a very wise perspective Harvey Lloyd. You remind me now of the Blue Ocean Strategy. The four pillars of it are eliminate, create, increase or decrease. I wonder why the ignore piar wasn't mentioned. If we can ignore it that is great. For a bride with a stain on her gown that could be difficult. Now, I have to digest your thinking and even suggest a modification to the blue ocean strategy. These are the comments that make me proactive- look for new thoughts and build on them. Now, I am thinking...
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #5
Thank you and I am happy you find the buzz useful
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 6 سنوات #4
(Nacho) Ignacio Orna
منذ 6 سنوات #3
Ali Anani
منذ 6 سنوات #2
Your brevity in writing comments that are meaningful is wonderful Pascal Derrien
Pascal Derrien
منذ 6 سنوات #1