Why I Prefer to Look Smaller?

Why I Prefer to Look Smaller?

The story of this very rich man puzzled me. He suddenly had a PhD even though his mental capabilities were quite limited. He got his degree six months after failing miserably his master degree qualification exams from another university. One day he was invited to lecture in a symposium. It was obvious that somebody wrote the lecture for him. In the discussion session that followed his lecture he made a fool of himself not even understanding the questions related to his PhD work. People started mocking him. Since then he disappeared. Why this man wanted a PhD degree? Just to look bigger?

The issue of looking bigger has occupied our minds. Ladies make their eyes look bigger with shadows. Minimarkets or a small shop are given the names supermarkets. The decoration of small rooms to look bigger is just another example of making things look bigger than what really they are. Not only humans do that, but also animals. There are reasons for animals to do that. One reason is to scare predators with their size. The bubblefish or pufferfish is known to fill its stomach with water to increase its actual size three times its original size. Frilled lizards do the same as they look big with the head frills and waiving tails.

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Β The siamang can expand its throat sac to the size of its head. Other male animals make themselves look better by increasing their size so that they may attract females.

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Humans have the right to look bigger, but could find better ways than getting faked PhDs or misnaming a small shop as a supermarket. I have a friend of mine who associates himself with people or are lower than him on the social hierarchy. He has many small shops surrounded by smaller ones. He will not open a branch shop neighboring bigger businesses. He is using this strategy being aware of the"Ebbinghaus illusion". If you surround a ball in the center with smaller ball then the central ball looks bigger. The reverse is true

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I am surrounding myself with great minds on beBee. I look smaller. I would rather be seen smaller among big minds rather than bigger among smaller minds.


What do you think? If you see me smaller you make me happy.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
You are correct Edward Lewellen. You highlighted he core values in your excellent book (The 90 Seconds Mind Manager". I invite readers to read your thorough boo.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#45
I echo the advice of your senior Director Asesh Datta. The other dayI was invited to the wedding of a man in his mid sixties (his wife passed away a year ago). The bride was in her thirties. The man died his her and had a haircut of young people. He danced like a young man. He wanted to look young. I leave it to your imagination what comments I heard.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#43
One think is inescapable is that that your denominator gives you a high value f self-respect Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic. I love your comment and the ration you give between what we w are and what we think of ourselves. Very-well said "No matter how much we want to look bigger, we can't escape of what we really are". In life unfortunately people tend to forget the obvious.

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

4 years ago #36

#35
Ali, I am not surprised at all. People do many things in order to gain prestige and look bigger in other's eyes. Furthermore, how many people we know who are doing a job they are not capable of, not in terms of academic degrees but in terms of their abilities. Many of them sit in various steering committees or, even worse, they are part of the government. They don't understand that this is not the way to look big, it's a lack of self-respect. β€œA man is like a fraction whose numerator is what he is and whose denominator is what he thinks of himself. The larger the denominator, the smaller the fraction.” No matter how much we want to look bigger, we can't escape of what we really are.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#38
The beauty of your comments is that we don't need to comment much on them dear CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit because they are crystal clear. You wrote a great point which merits our attention and is a worthy buzz on its own. I mean " When thoughts about humility become a groupthink, it is not humility but a categorization to good and bad". Great thinking here

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#34
Thank you SANDRA CORREA VASQUEZ

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#33
Dear friend Aaron Skogen- you have the right mentality and that is why you learn. Yes, we should seek self-respect and with it comes good work. If I have self-respect I don't behave badly. What a self-respect does a person have with a faked PhD have? This person will spend his life doubting himself and others for fear of being found out. If he had self-respect and a PhD degree is his ambition he should work hard to achieve his goal. Living a life based on lies shall only make things worse.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#32
Dear friend Edward Lewellen- you are a wise man. "Because many don't give value to their worth, they find their importance in titles and degrees". Yes, you are correct and these are the people like your singer example get their worth from people. Is it because of self-doubt? Why a good singer would think he isn't if some people told him so? Is it lack of self-confidence? You raise an important issue- what are the root causes of such behaviors? This would be interesting to explore. What do you think?

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

4 years ago #31

Sometimes life becomes like Donald Trump talking about his hands, and at that point if we are devoid of reality big and small become mere illusion. When thoughts about humility become a groupthink, it is not humility but a categorization to good and bad. Possessing humility is more good or bad than possessing ego. When Marianne Williamson says "Your playing small does not serve the world." http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/928-our-deepest-fear-is-not-that-we-are-inadequate-our it brings balance to the frame we may have set about identifying with small vs. big. Context then becomes relevant for the healthy of big is a different context to the unhealthy of small. If the context is health then the sizing is healthy and sizing of humility becomes a contextual intelligence.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#31
ANd noble and grand goals mohammed khalaf

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
I feel bigger and truly bigger not because I stretch my arms dear Alan Culler, but because I am connected with people with your caliber. My understanding in life is that we grow in value and not in cosmetics and appearances. A person with a fake degree lacks self-respect and spends life in doing the wrong things. If I put a doctorate degree on a donkey it shall remain a donkey. I wish those people would learn your wisdom.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#29
Thank you Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic. Youu wrote "For some people getting a doctoral degree is a means of elevating themselves over others". I wonder how people with this mentality ever got their doctorate degree.

mohammed khalaf

mohammed khalaf

4 years ago #27

Never underestimate the possibilities that come from setting goals

Alan Culler

Alan Culler

4 years ago #26

Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Very engaging insights, Ali, as always. I do so look forward to your posts. When faced with a grizzly bear on a hiking trail -the usual park ranger advice is to spread your arms wide to appear bigger and shake your body so all the hanging paraphernalia on your pack makes noise to make you sound bigger. I've not met a grizzly yet -but it seems a good strategy is such circumstances. However, most of life is unlike meeting a grizzly bear on a hiking trail. I find that I am attracted more to those who are humble, i.e. not so blinded by their puffed up size that they will not be able to empathize with "'l'il' ol' me" :-) I experience you through your writing as a humble man -but certainly not small in any sense -big ideas -highly visible on social media -a giant, but. . . open - -receptive -definitely NOT a puffer fish. Please keep sharing your insights - they make me think BIGGER.

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

4 years ago #25

Whether we admit it or not, we all tend to look bigger because we live in a competitive world. This is particularly evident in the world of science. For some people getting a doctoral degree is a means of elevating themselves over others. The rich man you mentioned in the buzz is not the only example. Indeed, a very relevant topic to discuss, Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
Absolutely Phil Friedman as the certificate doesn't make the human- it what h/s does with it. I am glad that your first name is only having the two letters of PhD. More, knowledge advances rapidly not only in the field of speciality, but also its interconnections with other branches of knowledge.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman- your quotes are always spot on. Some animals elongate their tail to look bigger and make it create a more powerful wavy motion to scare predators; yet sometimes they get eaten.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
Brian McKenzieI- agree with you as a PhD even is only a certificate of advanced training. Experience in life matures us more if the this experience is versatile and lived.

Phil Friedman

Phil Friedman

4 years ago #21

In the days when I taught at university, it was rare, almost nonexistent for someone to use the letters "PhD" after one's name. Since at the time there were many great minds and scholars who at most had Masters degrees, to use the letters "PhD" was considered a preening affectation. And that had to do with "real" degrees from major schools. Never mind the paper-mill variety of degrees.somewhere along the line, the world became certificate-obsessed. Personally, I couldn't care less about letters and instead look to a man or woman's published work and reputation as indicators of expertise. Just sayin'

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

"It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog." – Mark Twain

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
.Gert Scholtz- you add another gem of a comment. "...and in so doing becomes unaware of relative size". I have just mentioned in a comment that size is relative and is dependent on height. When we see problems or any issue from high distances they look smaller. Nw, I have a new idea to share with you soon.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#14
I am dancing at this late hour with your words Joanne Gardocki. You wrote "When others are shouting, a whisper is often heard". I can hear your "whispers of wisdom" while dancing to the beauty of your comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
Your comment has an embedded jewel Lisa Vanderburg "Humility is the first word that comes to mind. It is but far the greatest strength above endurance or perseverance". This is a hugely interesting idea and you "rocketed" me with its depth and meaning.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#12
debasish majumder- you trigger a wonderful idea in my mind. It is the small that may cause a butterfly effect. I refer to this part of your comment "an abstract affair and whether smaller or bigger is utterly a relative issue. a small issue being pondered with mind can make huge impact and that also an abstract impact". This idea is worthy of further exploration.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
What a lovely way to express a lovely thought Sara Jacobovici. "is that the larger a person is, the smaller they see themselves". Yes, I go back to the concentric circles forming in water as we throw a stone in it. The circle at the center is the smallest. How right and eloquent you are!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#10
Tausif Mundrawala- great comment and I love your comment "or the sake of achieving would not serve the purpose of achieving knowledge and translating it into wisdom". You are a wise man.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#9
You are very appreciative. You make me think differently with your comment @Julio Angel \ud83d\udc1dLopez Lopez. Small is also related to height. What appears large at ground level looks small from heights.

Gert Scholtz

Gert Scholtz

4 years ago #12

Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I would like to take what Sara said one step further and say a wise person is one who learns from everyone and in so doing becomes unaware of relative size. Thank you for a thought provoking and well illustrated post Ali.

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

4 years ago #11

Before I even READ the other comments (because my mind will wander), yes - read you load and clear Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! Humility is the first word that comes to mind. It is but far the greatest strength above endurance or perseverance. It's what enables us to love unconditionally - even our own selves. You may be tiny, sweet man, but there is an undeniable desire to see what you see - I think it's consistency in your messages. I, on the other hand, am dragon, guardian, trouble-maker, haus-frau, and an 'unguided missile' (as my father used to say! Dammit....no stillness in me!

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

4 years ago #10

My experience Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee is that the larger a person is, the smaller they see themselves. The most modest individuals are the ones who are truly great. I would like to offer the following perspective: I have just read that a wise person is one who learns from everyone. So as long as we continue to learn from each other, we are not smaller or larger than, but we grow in our understanding and knowledge. Thank you Dr. Ali, for being a great teacher.

Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez

If in the example of the pond, you are a small circle, then you are closer to where the stone has fallen. From the essence of the example. I'm sorry do I not look you small, Sr Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
As much there is strength in your comment Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

Pascal Derrien

4 years ago #7

there is too much strength in humility for the neon lights lovers :-)

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#4
The Observer effect is in operation in your comment dear Harvey Lloyd. I am absorbed by your response. Your comment reminds me of throwing a pebble in a pond and noticing the concentric circles. The circles in the middle are unique. Each one is smaller than one neighboring circle, and larger than the one before it. I remind myself always hat I might be larger than somebody in certain areas, but the same person is larger than me in other areas. I am proud to be connected with great minds like yours. To write " We can all be large within what we choose to be large in, we will always be small if we are trying to mimic someone else's success". I might be an explorer as you said, but one of my most rewarding experiences in connecting with you.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Dear Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt- you are a big man with a big heart. That is why I am happy to connect with you. This is what I meant my friend. In no way I felt otherwise.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

4 years ago #4

Your concept of smaller brings forward the question,"When i look up at something larger what do i see?" From my small position i can only take in available information from the larger person from my own small perspective. So i take note of differences between small and large. Keep in mind i am taking in only highlights of the larger person. I begin to mimic things from my observation. What i have observed in differences must be the areas i need to grow in to be successful, Right? Strange thing about observation, folks show you what they want you to see. I can learn from the experience but i can't be somebody i am not. This begs the larger question what milestones are we observing to even determine large and small in the human condition? I certainly want my doctor to be larger than me. I am not a doctor. We can all be large within what we choose to be large in, we will always be small if we are trying to mimic someone else's success. You are not small or large Ali Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. You are a seeker of life and its many variations, you tackle large questions with the heart of a explorer.

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

4 years ago #3

#2
you are too kind. I tend to push a bit with spontaneous responses, cant help it though.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Thank you Devesh \ud83d\udc1d Bhatt. I am surrounded by bigger hearts and minds such as yours my friend.

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

Devesh 🐝 Bhatt

4 years ago #1

Oh but you are big in our minds and even bigger in our hearts :)

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