Why I really didn't leave beBee?

Why I really didn't leave beBee?

My memory takes me back to the early seventies of the last century. That time I was a fresh PhD graduate. My first job was a lecturer at the chemistry department of the University of Petroleum and Minerals in Saudi Arabia. I had great times and profitable relationship with my peers. My relationship with the students was outstanding. Upon the completion of my two years contract I decided that I wanted to do more scientific research. I accepted an offer from the Kuwait Institute for Scientific Research and resigned from the university. The students tried their best to withdraw my resignation. One day I found an envelope on the doorstep of my apartment. I t turned out to be a heart-breaking call from the students urging me to stay. The letter was written in both languages in Arabic and English. The English translation read as follows:

"If somebody leaves some people when they could have him stay with them then shame on those people".
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No matter what I departed, but the touching emotions remained very positively engraved in my heart. Leaving a social platform is the same for me. You may stay or leave, but it is different if you leave to do so with a sweet smell in the heart. I left LinkedIn after almost three years having contributed more than 165 posts. I have some bitter tastes in my mouth, but I should never forget that LI gave me the exposure to thousand of readers. We tend to forget the good things and highlight the negative ones and I think this isn't very ethical. I enjoy being on beBee far greater than I was on LI, but still I had my share of joy and disappointments. I see it immoral to deny the good experiences and focus alone on the negative ones.

I have connections that left beBee. One example is Anees Zaidi. He is a prolific writer and a great human to deal with. I haven't read a comment or read a buzz by him for months now. He departed (and hopefully not for long) quietly and without noise. We can make our absence noisy, but this is a short-lived approach. It is like a kid swimming in water and splashing the water around to draw attention. Sooner, he shall annoy people and see him as noisy. People shall pay attention to noisy people, but soon the noise shall be ineffective. You decide in which color your leaves look like when you leave.

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Nobody will make me stay in a place unless I feel I am desired to. Upon leaving and if I do I shall carry with me my great memories and good times. If for any reason I decide to leave beBee (and surely not) I shall remember the great exchanges of comments, ideas, the challenges, the pumps, the sweet and the sour. If not, why the hell I accepted to publish on beBee platform to start with? The fact that I have been on beBee for more than a year means I at least experienced some great moments. If I leave and start cursing beBee this simply reflects on me. Nobody forced me to stay that long on a decaying platform unless I wanted to.

Remember to leave only when people want you to stay. This is the real test. To leave on your terms and then start cursing the place you "lived in" will surely question the quality of the person who is cursing more than the place being cursed.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Thank you dear Donna-Luisa Eversley. I have never cutoff my presence on LI for the same reasons you mentioned in your comment. However; I am not there s often as I used to be. I would say 10% of the time I used to allocate to LI.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#59
So there are three of us DILMA BALBI -\ud83d\udcc3 Engenharia&gest\u00e3o

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
The choice is up to us and that is why I care to give responses to any comment by the glorious lady engineer Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

4 years ago #46

#56
Always a genlemen! :-) Besides beBee I am active only on LI, but far less than I was before. Social networking takes too much time and it is important to spend that precious time engaging with people who enrich us personally and professionally, like you do. :-) As you said, the choice is up to us.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Closing doors leaves no choices. This is not a very wise thing to do. Pausing to clear the mind cache is welcome. So, not only I admire your sense Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic, but also I apply it. I am not nearly as active as I used to be on both LI and Twitter; yet I left the choice to visit them and participate occasionally. We have always to remember that we have a choice with whom to connect and what posts to read. So, why delete an account? I appreciate your good words about my writing style; but I am equally an admirer of yours.

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

4 years ago #44

I enjoyed reading your post, Ali Anani. I admire the ease with which you approach writing on all topics. It’s a pleasure for the eyes and mind. 😊 On social media, there is a difference between deleting the account and not being active for some time, but still be a member. I will always choose the latter, or stop using social media. But, that's me. From time to time I take a short break from almost all social media activities when they start to be a nuisance. This is the time to reset my mind and focus on other things. But sometimes I just need to shift away from accumulated negativity on the platform. When I come back, I look at the same stuff (and people) with fresh eyes. As in real life, sometimes it's really necessary to step back and look at the problems from a different angle. Perhaps, then they would not seem so dreadful and worthy to burn all bridges behind us. **As far as I can see, Anes is still a member of beBee, just like many others who are not active but not cancelled their membership.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#52
Thank you dear Luizia\ud83d\udc1d Patr\u00edcio for beautifying my day with your rose-like words. I am greatly indebted to you. I noticed that you shared this buzz in the Portuguese Hive. That is a new exposure for me. I have to admit that I have been to every single West European country except for Portugal (even my family did). Now, I want to visit Portugal.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#50
I place my confidence where it deserves to be Juan Imaz. beBee deserves more.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
You are most welcome on beBee friendly platform Ravi Ranjan. I hope you enjoy your extended stay here as much as I, even if not more.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#46
Thank you

Ravi Ranjan

Ravi Ranjan

4 years ago #39

I enjoyed reading this post. I'm lucky to get myself registered in beBee & connect with great enthusiast people. I am not sure if i am right or wrong to confess that LI seems boring for me after getting myself here. No doubt, People are addicted to Facebook, Twitter , Instagram but addicted to beBee is worth.

Prakashan B.V

Prakashan B.V

4 years ago #38

Good thoughts Ali Anani

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #37

#43
Ned McDonnell welcome to beBee ! Enjoy the hive !

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

My dear Friend, supporter and integrator You are most welcome on beBee. I feel a breeze in my heart to find you on this platform. You deserve a special welcome from all bees here. I am sure Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee shall be equally pleased. You are the example of give, give and give without taking or even bothering to take, You are an expert in linking different posts together. Your presence is hugely welcome. All those bees who interacted with you know I am speaking the truth and truth only. I am overly joyful to welcome you here. A standing ovation for you.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#41
Thank you my dear friend debasish majumder. I am reflecting on a buzz by a bee who departed beBee and then started attacking beBee. I am awfully happy here to have such great friend and thinkers as you are. I am not leaving.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #34

#39
Absolutely Ali Anani.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Yes, fragile as glass is dear Milos Djukic unless they are fractals forever and their resilience shoots up.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #32

#37
You are most welcome Ali Anani. Human beigins are fragile. Thank you my dear friend. We need each other...

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#36
My dear friend Milos Djukic- your emotional depth is fantastic. I do appreciate your warmth and great feelings. They are unimaginable. Thank you and your sharing the buzz means a lot to me. Happy birthday my friend.

Milos Djukic

Milos Djukic

4 years ago #30

A great person deserves no less: Anees Zaidi! Thank you Ali Anani. Tell people: You are great, while they are "alive". Then, before it is to late. You are great Ali, my friend. All of you are also great, my friends. Fractals forever.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich Here is the link to my new buzz: https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/a-give-on-a-give

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#33
The mentality of take and not give instead of give, give and give and then take may be the reason. I am posting my buzz in ten minutes Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich just because your comment urges me to do so. The title is A Give on a Give

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Yes, we need always to keep a crack in the door open dea Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman. You are a wise woman.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

I love the way your mind works, Ali Anani shows great minds think alike. I like the phrase "never burn your bridges". At least the option is there if one decides to go back. Power to the bees!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#29
Thank you Jan \ud83d\udc1d Barbosa (#23) reflects my motivation to write this buzz. Yes, I am staying and enjoying my stay.

Jan 🐝 Barbosa

Jan 🐝 Barbosa

4 years ago #24

Nevertheless hope you stay for a very.. very long time

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#27
Thank you Donna-Luisa Eversley and million rosy smiles to you

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #22

thanks Ali Anani ! I am learning daily. We have increible bees ! one better than the other !!

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #21

thanks Ali Anani ! I am leaning daily. We have increible bees ! one better than the other !!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#23
You read my mind and uncovered the purpose of me writing this buzz dear Deb \ud83d\udc1d Helfrich. I feel you were inside me when you wrote this comment. WE depart, but our reputation doesn't. WE depart, but the feelings of others stay. I may wish to leave, but I may leave with fragrance behind me or the smell of sprayed onion.It is our choice. Yes, beBee is an accepting community and even of differences. But we know how to build bridges. I can't thank you enough my friend. If I have a wish it is that Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee would read your comment because it is as if it were mine.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#21
I discovered something very important here on beBee. A bee needs nectar and flowers that allow bees to reach the nectar. The nectar in the minds of great mind such as yours dear siraj shaik is plentiful and reachable. So, what value without people like you I would have? Truly, you are the honey makers. Thank you for your sweet compliment and I do enjoy its nectar.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#19
Having read your sensible comment the first thing I decided to do is to follow you Asesh Datta. You seem to be new to beBee and I truly welcome you here. When we leave a platform or a place we may take our things back. However; no matter what we try we can't take the impressions are reputation that we created for others about us. Unfortunately, many people seem to forget this simple reality. Yes, it is the mixes of each pair of hope and despair, success and failure, encouragement and discouragement, and of love and hate that bring us to our maturity. If we only remember one side of the pair then simply we aren't honest to ourselves. I therefore agree entirely with your conclusion "But we should be thankful, that all these were necessary for our experiences and share with our next generation". We need brains of your quality here on beBee and I hope you stop by more often.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
Paul Walters- if I knew the swarms of bees would include people with such charisma I would leave. Your smart comment is a great way of addressing issues in a great manner and without any "side effects". Your sense is truly great, Paul.

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

4 years ago #16

Ali Anani Careful, you might not just get a letter on your doorstep , rather it might be a swarm of bees bringing you back!!!!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#15
Thank you for sharing a great thought and quote Joel Anderson

Joel Anderson

Joel Anderson

4 years ago #14

Thank you Ali Anani "I am a part of all that I have met." Alfred Lord Tennyson

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#10
Thank you Chas \u270c\ufe0f Wyatt. I share your wisdom and the wisdom of your two lovely quotes. I stayed and I am glad I did because of the connection I have with lovely bees as yourself. If I ever leave I should remember those active exchanges and the way they beautified my mind. At least to speak with some respect about the people with whom I exchanged minds. If I leave because of any reason this doesn't mean that beBee is bad. Unfortunately, some people tend to do this.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
Thank you dear - changing places or seats can enrich our experiences. There is nothing wrong with that. It is leaving and what peints we leave behind and what memories we carry with us. I have witnessed examples of people who when leave a jb or a social platform they start writing very negatively about them. They drop leaves of rusty memories. I remember I interviewed a candidate for a job. The candidate worked for my competitor. He kept saying negative things about his previous employer. Why then he worked for five years to the employer? Why also he couldn't remember one good thing about the previous job? The color of grudge colors the words and actions. I didn't employ him. We need people who at least are grateful to where they belonged before.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

4 years ago #11

#10
Beautiful quotes Chas \u270c\ufe0f Wyatt

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
Yes, I fully agree with you Javier \ud83d\udc1d beBee> It is leaving or coming back in pride and without grudge.

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #9

I share your vision. We can always say good bye to a few people who are not good for us and our well being but disrespecting the beliefs of a community just for the sake of few people leave us perplexed and unhappy and makes us lose our vision in the first place. We should never give up the struggle nor bowed our heads. Most of people finally give up ! I NEVER GIVE UP ! The best way to enjoy any network is ignoring those who you don't like. BEE HAPPY, BEE COOL, BE A BEE ! :-)

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

Well said. Even if there is one tiny good that comes out of us doing anything for sure it wouldn't be in vain. What I learnt from this is . People are always going to try to put us down just to show that they are better instead on focusing on how to show they are the best. Is better good or best good ? Example - Now lets say you and I run a company and we have 2 employees disregarding each other one performs better and the other excels in bringing in revenue. Good in their own ways. Considering the vision for our company to employ alot of people curb unemployment. You and me will try to focus on keeping the revenue coming and growing the company and therefore we may have to lose some employees. I've seen this happen in HCL where I worked The only reason being we dont want to let down all the other employees who trust us. What I'm saying is. We can always say good bye to a few people who are not good for us and our well being but disrespecting the beliefs of a community just for the sake of few people leave us perplexed and unhappy and makes us lose our vision in the first place. It all comes down to our purpose dear Ali Anani We have to decide in which color our leaves look like when we leave or we can choose to stay evergreen. To being evergreen always. Have a beautiful week everyone.

Javier 🐝 CR

Javier 🐝 CR

4 years ago #7

Ali Anani will come back to produce some honey ! Enjoy the hive !

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
"Among gentlemen there is never a problem"- an idea for a buzz here. Thanks for the inspiration @Julio Angel \ud83d\udc1dLopez Lopez

Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez

Do not worry. The intention was clear. Just had to put some good will, Thanks again. Among gentlemen there is never a problem Mr Ali Anani

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Thank you @Julio Angel \ud83d\udc1dLopez Lopez. Your kind words mean a lot to me. You are very correct- ethics should be same regardless of time or space. I am sorry my friend and I should have been more careful. May be this is an unintended invitation to Julio Jos\u00e9 Garc\u00eda S\u00e1nchez to read the buzz. Please both gentlemen accept my apology.

Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez

#2
Thank you, but I am not Julio Jose Garcia Sanchez, I am Julio Angel Lopez Lopez Do not worry we can all wrongly select wrongly.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Thank you Julio Jos\u00e9 Garc\u00eda S\u00e1nchez. Your kind words mean a lot t me. You are very correct- ethics should be same regardless of time or space.

Julio Angel 🐝Lopez Lopez

The same ethical reflection that we must have to take some responsibility, we must demonstrate them by leaving them. Always thoughtful and ethical Ali Anani Thanks

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