Choices of no return point
In analogy with points of no return, I titled this post choices of no return. Wikipedia defines points of no return as “is the point beyond which one must continue on one's current course of action because turning back is dangerous”. I find that finding creative ideas that put the intended people in a place where they have no choice, but to accept the” offer” presented to them.
I heard a real story last night that prompted me with the idea of this buzz. It is a real story. A wife her husband fully. She never doubted his actions or intentions. One night the husband returned home very tired and fell asleep like a log. His mobile kept making noises alerting for new messages. She decided to mute the phone. Upon reaching the phone her eyes met a new message with a huge kiss from a lady to her husband. She knew the lady and, sadly, was one of her closest friends. Now, curiosity started to act. The wife screened the messages and to her dismay her husband was tired because of the “effort” he did with the betraying friend.
The wife kept her nerves and decided to take revenge. For few days she kept silent and acted as normal. She came up with a creative idea to revenge. Her family with many other families formed a participation group. Each family will deposit one hundred dollars monthly. The collected amount will go for one of the participating families in turn. The wife was charged to collect the money and keep at home for distribution to the assigned family. On that day she invited all the participating families for dinner and including her betraying friend. Upon finishing the dinner, it was time to give the collected money to the assigned family. The host wife went in and then started screaming that the purse with the money disappeared. She insisted that the purse was lost only few minutes ago. One of the guests said that they had no option but to search each person. They all agreed. The surprise was that the purse was found in the handbag of the betraying friend. She started screaming. The wife then whispered to her “either you shut up or I shall show everybody your messages to my husband. I put the purse in your handbag. Who would believe you that you aren’t a thief when you tried stealing my husband? The betraying lady was silenced as she reached her choice of no return point.
The story above reminds me of Michael Crichton using the Small Penis Rule. This writer Crichton decided to revenge a critic by creating an appalling character in his next novel that is very similar to the critic, but with one claim that the character had a small penis. By doing that the author put his critique in a corner. The character resembled him, but differed in having a small penis. The critic preferred to keep silent rather than saying he has a small penis. One way ahead, accept to swallow the pain.
I know of a lady who revenged by retrieving files from the broken and discarded computer of her husband. She started publishing his files from his repaired computer using his name in revenge for cheating her with his secretary. The husband had no choice but to divorce the wife and pay her a handsome amount of money to stop publishing the files.
Beware- new technologies have opened many doors to creative revenge. Small mistakes could have a butterfly effect in a creative person’s mind that cost the victim very little, but very costly to the predator.
I am sure you have a story to share if you wish.
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Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #100
😆😀 I am glad you enjoy the "painting" dear Fay Vietmeier
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #99
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #98
Fay Vietmeier Fay- told you you have a vivid imagination and I feel myself floating in a ship with schools of fish surrounding me peacefully. I look forward to reading your poem. The sea water would be sweetened by your gratitude and appreciation for others. Keep sailing
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #97
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #96
Fay Vietmeier Hi Fay- do you have a needle so that I may puncture the balloon? I wish I had your level of fate. The more I read your comments, the more i feel the peace you have in your heart.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #95
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #94
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #93
Interesting search John Rylance. I believe attitude and character have a role here to determine our acceptance of the sweet facts even though they may taste bitter.Which is a better choice sweet lie or a bitter fact? Hood question and is worthy of searching.
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #92
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #91
Just a thought that popped up, Pascal. Do we consider bitter choices the same way we consider sweet ones? We may go for a bitter choice, but is this really a choice? Like a sick person taking a bitter bill. Are forced choices teal choices?
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #90
Yes, I agree and the question how many people have this "will of iron? Great ideas this one and thanks Pascal for your illumination.
Pascal Derrien
منذ 4 سنوات #89
there is always a choice I read a few powerful books about Auschwitz this year some “victims “ made the choice not to be victims despite the grim outcome we got to remember that the finality does not define the intent ...
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #88
Sure, and that is a possibility among others. However'in the revenge story in the post the wife left no choices and this is the effect of revenge rather than offering turning points; it offered no choice other than accept the retaliation.
Pascal Derrien
منذ 4 سنوات #87
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #86
Fay Vietmeier Hi Fay, You always write challenges comments such as "My word would be “over-whelmed” (rather than "frustrated")". I am amazed because in spite of many people wrote about frustration only few saw it as overwhelming. The point is too much of anything is simply too much and may lead to frustration. I discussed thid this over=flow in few of my buzzes.For example, being overwhelmed by love may cause me to feel ownership of the beloved one leading to jealousy and/or control. This shall lead to the frustration of the beloved one and s/h might walk away. I smiled reading "we truly are that “jar of clay”. You know I wrote a presentation on same idea. I asked in it if humans who are essentially formed clay may behave like diamond. You enriched my day with your comment and compliment. I am "inflated" like a small balloon.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #85
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #84
Fay Vietmeier Fay, you returned my smile with a bigger smile. I am currently drafting the post on crowded ideas that keep piling up in our minds. I wonder what you feel when you keep adding ideas? Do you feel frustrated sometimes? I do, but this frustration is a great source of creativity. I shall explain by examples in my next post. You are a great reader as evidenced by your great quotes. One day I hope to have a cup of coffee with you. Yes, you mentioned challenges. Difficult challenges may take time to resolve leading to frustration. This is why I asked you if you feel frustrated sometimes. I feel the challenge now trying to respond to your quality comment with a sensible one. keep your hopes.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #83
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #82
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #81
I just remembered my earlier post on "Our choices capacity" https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/our-choices-capacity I thank Fay Vietmeier- I explained in this buzz myself better.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #80
Fay Vietmeier I am glad I made myself clear dear Fay. You are the queen of the colony. Being a "well=spring spirit" your fountain of ideas flows. The more ideas, the greater the challenge and need to be creative to put them in order. But genuine characters as your grow with challenges. There is a law called the law of large numbers. You are in the domain of this law my friend.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #79
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #78
+Complexity leading to putting a person,organization or any other system results from having too many interacting ideas that relate to each other.We call this sometimes tension creativity. I didn't mean any bad thing dear Fay Vietmeier and in fact I meant complimenting you and your rave mind. Being a "well-spring spirit" you may create many ideas and that putting in order is the complexity that I meant. You know very well of my deep respect to your mind and heart. You are an exceptional human being.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #77
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #76
Dear Fay Vietmeier- I am sure out of the chaos of many ideas "playing soccer and chaos" in your head great ideas shall emerge. Yes, you are on the edge of creativity and I am sure you shall baffle us soon with some great posts. Harvey Lloyd will surely appreciate your synopsis of their gem comments. I published today a new buzz. I gave an old Arab story and I think the story shall enlighten you with more ideas. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/the-global-warming-of-self#c10
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #75
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #74
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #73
David Navarro L\u00f3pez Thanks David for sharing that well-inserted post on "forging" ... I am reading & will respond there
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #72
Very-well expressed comment Marisa Fonseca Diniz. I do like your short, but very accurate and reflective comments.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #71
Do we need either?
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #70
Superb comment Ren\u00e9e \ud83d\udc1d Cormier and revenge is poison. This is very true. It poisons our feelings, our thoughts and our actions. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your wisdom. I encourage readers of this post to read yours as well. What you commented here is the core thesis of your buzz with great explanations.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #69
Just to highlight the name of Fay Vietmeier.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #68
I recall this post and it is spectacular.
David Navarro López
منذ 4 سنوات #67
Dear Fay, concerning to this point of "heaping coals", I wrote some time ago something quite similar, using the same principle. Enjoy it https://www.bebee.com/producer/@david-navarro-lopez/melting-hostility-an-ancient-forging-procedure
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #66
The problem I experienced last week is that I bought an item after asking few questions and the seller responded by demonstrating the product. He did to my satisfaction. Three days later the item stopped functioning properly and it turned out that the durability of the product is a very short-term one. Yes, it functioned well upon buying it, but it proved its real value only after using it.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #65
When you are of the thought that my purchase did not meet the expectation of money paid.....We see this is marketing overan engineering. Marketing can not ever market that which does not exist. When being marketed to, just ask a few questions that would define the engineering of what is being marketed. The response should be as great in detail as the marketing. Never buy a product/service from someone who cant explain it to "your" satisfaction.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #64
Just smiling😄 reading this "I see money as emergent. It emerges from a set of values between product/service, customers, employees and vendors. If you see money as fundamental then we will always have conflict", What if I find that the money I paid is well-above the real value of my purchase. Cheating is one example for "distorting" the value of money.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #63
After addressing the question to you Harvey Lloyd I Googled for the differences between tolerance and forgiveness. I must say none of the many references I read was close to your in its clarity and comprehension. I truly believe that you may consider publishing your comment in an expanded post because literature is obscure on this topic. I also believe your response ties up well with the the notation tolerance level. Once we step out of this level we are back to where we started. I am writing this before reading your following comment just to make sure that I am not influenced by your response. I thoroughly enjoyed reading "Forgiveness on the other hand is a shared value that we want to keep true in our actions, but we fall short. When we fall short the way back is forgiveness. But we must have a shared place of value to get back too". You said that I asked you a great question; greater is your educated response.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #62
From a result perspective i agree. But when we look at forgiveness it is the recognition of a shared value that has been transgressed. Accepting someone's request for forgiveness is the recognition that next time it will be me that transgresses the shared value. Amazingly tolerance is generally what you wrote. But tolerance also includes the absurd notion that we can work together under this banner and not share virtues or values. In the extreme i would be able to state that i could tolerate Hitler and work with him, even though we don't share virtues or values. Sounds extreme, but when we have tolerated unequally with people or groups and lost, it's how we feel, betrayed. Tolerance is good in the front end as we attempt to find common values that we can agree on. But if we can't find this, then i must move on. This doesn't mean that who i left is bad. It only means that while i fight for one virtue within our goals you seek another. This will only lead to conflict. I see money as emergent. It emerges from a set of values between product/service, customers, employees and vendors. If you see money as fundamental then we will always have conflict.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #61
I have been giving some thought to the two very different thoughts, but i can certainly see how we have tied the two together. From my perspective and understanding the two are quite different. They both emanate from virtue or values one holds. When we share a value and i have stepped "out of line" i seek forgiveness for the transgression of the value. Tolerance is when we don't share virtue or values, they may be similar but opposite in action, i give you a pass and you give me one. We don't forgive each other for having different values we tolerate each other. Tolerance though has a way of being executed only when it benifits one or both parties. We can share a winning outcome even though we don't share the same values. Eventually one of the parties who have agreed to tolerance becomes a loser. Tolerance is quickly thrown out the door and the loser wants to talk about values. Tolerance is the acceptance of being unequally yoked. Forgiveness on the other hand is a shared value that we want to keep true in our actions, but we fall short. When we fall short the way back is forgiveness. But we must have a shared place of value to get back too. Great question in today's discussion of tolerance. Tolerance has been weaponized to thrash those who have a different set of values, than the person wanting something from them. It is difficult to weaponize forgiveness. It requires humility and an understanding of shared values.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #60
This is an interesting comment John Rylance, In my next post i shall give a story that explains your comment very well. Two points remain. First, tolerate and keep the pain. This is harmful and overtime may hurt more than the action that caused the pain. Second, we talk in environmental science and statistics, among others, about the tolerance limit defining the upper and lower limits for tolerating a factor such as the upper limit of a pollutant. Maybe we may extend the same to human tolerance. Forgiveness may not need such definition as "the forgiveness level because it is an extreme of forgiving. Harvey Lloyd- I draw your attention to these comments.
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #59
Forgiveness is voicing your displeasure, and bringing the matter to a close Tolerance is saying nothing, grinning and bearing it, and quietly letting it fester away and letting the "hurt" continue.
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #58
I suggest that forgiveness is voicing your displeasure, saying why you are annoyed, and applying the like you, but not what you have just done/
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #57
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #56
Wow! A tough question for my Monday drive to work. If time permits this morning i want to reply. I will give careful thought to your deep question. Thanks for the food of thought.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #55
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #54
🤣😂😨
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #53
Insomnia 🤪
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #52
#53 As the prevailing wisdom says "Forgive,but don't forget". Is this paradoxical? Thanks for your sharing the post Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #51
This is a good example of that the reverse isn't always true or equal. Thanks for it, John.
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #50
I agree. I've always tried with the people I care about to show by my words/actions that I like them but I don't always like what they say/do.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #49
You can "love the doer and hate the deed"- I love this hating the deed and not the doer. Thank you Fay Vietmeier will enjoy your response as well. It is the best of the two- loving the deed and the doer. What else could we ask for?
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #48
@AliAnani~ Ali~ thank you for sharing the story of the "two friends who were poor" and journeyed to another land They had each other ... friendship is its own wealth ... I'm glad that story ended well ;~) David Navarro L\u00f3pez Your words reveal your wisdom & character "Revenge is mine says the Lord" Even if "justified" ... acts of revenge create double prisons: one for the person who acted wrongly and one for the person acting in "revenge" Responding with kindness & forgiveness is like "heaping coals" on the head of the person who deserves to be punished This wisdom is in Scripture Not that our motive in kindness or forgiveness should be that of "heaping coals" on anyone's head ;~) By forgiving I set myself free ... "Forgiving" does not mean approving the wrong-doing it means releasing the debt of the wrong-doing You can "love the doer and hate the deed" That is why the grace of God is so lovely: he does not give us what we "deserve" ... rather Grace
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #47
So many ideas are pouring in my mind about this topic which I shall share in my next buzz Cyndi wilkins. Thank you for engaging my interest to write this post.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #46
That is excatly the topic of my next buzz as outlined by the exchange of comments between David Navarro L\u00f3pez
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #45
#44 I love the creative turn this post has taken...A perfect segway into your post Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee? 'The Art of Forgiveness'....How to take the painful events of our past and turn them into our greatest gifts for a healthier future;-)
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #44
While liking the concept I often wonder if saying excuse me taking revenge I'm only human what do you expect, while forgiveness is divine is saying I'm more than human because I forgive you. Remember when someone says that was divine, they mean it was wicked, self indulgent.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #43
The moment I finished writing my previous comment I started looking into creative forgiveness. Why? because it is divine.
David Navarro López
منذ 4 سنوات #42
revenge is human. Forgiveness is divine, they say
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #41
My dear and close friend David Navarro L\u00f3pez- it always means a lot to read a comment by you. This one is no exception. There are creative revenges, but I don't say they are approved by me. More, our human nature is biased to the negative. You know, David, you inspire me with an idea that is to write a buzz on "creative forgiveness". I shall give it a thought and I hope to find some examples and stories to clarify this thought. As for creative revenges I am sure their are so many examples. Yes, let us light a kindle of hope. Yes, revenge is chaotic; forgiveness is orderly. The Law of Entropy says it is easy and sometimes spontaneous to go from order to chaos; unfortunately the opposite is untrue. On another front I hope your life plans are going smooth. You deserve to have the greatest times my friend.
David Navarro López
منذ 4 سنوات #40
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #39
I don't know if @Harvey Lloyd even sleeps
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #38
Fay Vietmeier Hi Fay, You wrote "Revenge ... Bitterness ... unforgiveness: all are thieves that rob life and harden the heart". This is the chaos we live in. Revenge instead of tolerance, Bitterness because we don't forgive. Unforgiveness- well, the dictionary doesn't list this word. So, i say we punish each other instead of forgiving each other. The Mouth Pond- I shall publish soon.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #37
You trap us in your "circles of creative imagination" Fay Vietmeier and now you say it is "...our sin always finds us out...". I say our sin is not finding you much earlier than we did. Your rich man-poor man story reminds me of two friend who were very poor. They decided one day to move abroad: they did and the two close friends migrated to foreign lands. Few years later one of them returned home with fortune. He was surrounded by many friends (or fake ones) because wealth attracts. The other man wasn't fortunate and returned home long after the first one. The poor gut noticed people circling a gentleman. He was curious to find out who he was. To his surprise he was his old friend. He rushed to him and hugged him. The rich friend asked him (but who are you). The poor friend replied in poetry (and the translation from Arabic will take the fragrance away): Do you recall our desperate days when you used to say "isn't their death I could buy"? The rich friend identified him immediately and took care of him. So, please my "rich in heart" friend take care of us.
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #36
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #35
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 4 سنوات #34
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #33
Your comment Roberto De la Cruz Utria send whirls in my mind. In particular and to the point your writing "We are always prone to fall into a point of no return". This is an idea for a TV episode. I am thinking of companies and their climates. Are they different from natural climate? They aren't. Both have many tipping points that are followed by tipping points. If not, then how come that most of the companies listed in the Top 599 disappeared not only from the list, as for some of they them disappeared and are no more in the market. Also, what applies to leaders applies to us as individuals. We lead our lives and we repeat the same mistakes leaders of companies commit. It is not enough to lead- as leaders could drive organizations and selves to success or to extinction. Sadly, both are cols leaders. So much to ponder on your comment.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #32
Hi Jerry, this is on the spot quote "French saying that best reflects the reality of revenge", This is a subtle quote. And as things change this quote remains as is solid and true.
Jerry Fletcher
منذ 4 سنوات #31
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #30
yes, I am in accordance with your comment.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 4 سنوات #29
We are all technically bacteria based but we value ourselves as humanity without actually living up to the word and we should value ourselves by the measure of humility, at least bacteria are already designed that way, to be humble until our own habits inject bad bacteria into our living system, to interfere or even destroy the good bacteria that is a part of our being that keeps us healthy and alive.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #28
Great link and a great comment. SO much wisdom in your quote "we look down on bad breath but not on voice terror".Just an idea struck my mind- we talk about information bias. Is it possible that we are now bacteria-biased? This thought just emerged while reading your comment and I don't know if it makes any sense. Just reviewing the New York Times article I am interested more in this topic and I am going to explore it.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 4 سنوات #27
The sad part is that beyond knowing our society is totally out of whack, that our society does not know what the whacking is. If SMART and DUMB were metaphors for the spread of bacteria, how did we create technologies that allow us access to so much information and basically remain dumber than were in pre-internet times? At least the bacteria that helps us does not function on the psychology of embarrassment. The bad breath that is caused by bacteria is nothing compared to the terrible voices that flood our social systems, we look down on bad breath but not on voice terror. Our media informs us about terrorists while it terrorizes us and we terrorize each other. We have already determined the relationship between our human being and our bacteria being https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/07/14/we-are-our-bacteria/ but we are far removed from understanding the wisdom of it, social media is one thing, but so more apt to call the emerging and downward spiral into infantile dialogue a case of social bad breath.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #26
Great comment and I realize that it is useful bacteria that help us do many things in life. However; i see the trend now is that we develop our life style to encourage the growth of harmful bacteria, Yes, we all need bacteria, bur for what use and purpose.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 4 سنوات #25
Interesting that the word Pond Scum means the green-blue algae on ponds, but also has become a slang term for despicable people. We should note that bacteria is also our friend, a friend without whom we as human beings would not exist. Even ponds need good bacteria : https://www.aquascapeinc.com/product-category/water-treatments/beneficial-bacteria-for-ponds
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #24
In a post that I published on LI and titled "The Ponds in our Mouths". In this post I wrote that our mouths are in fact a pond of bacteria. Your comment reinforces this idea and that the world's mouth is like a vicious bacteria pond. This is globalization. I thank you CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit and I decided to rewrite the post and publish it on beBee soon.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 4 سنوات #23
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #22
I meant point of no return for the betraying friend. She had two choices both of which were bitter. Either she denies the the theft or face the exposure of her messages to the world. The wife didn't harm her husband, bit who knows what happened behind the closed doors.
John Rylance
منذ 4 سنوات #21
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #20
Hell hath no fury like that of a woman scorned! Oh yeah, and happy Halloween Harvey;-)
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #19
Sharp knives, betrayed women, with a plan that includes "unwavering resolve". These are the things of nightmares:) I have enjoyed the light hearted banter.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #18
This is a testing time Harvey for the challenge isn't to have a nightmare.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #17
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #16
You realise you are announcing your belief in the freudian concepts. OK i give up, i will have nightmares now.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #15
Indeed it does. Normally, women boil in anger in such situations and their decisions become chaotic and disruptive even to self. It is a hard situation to deal with Cyndi wilkins
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #14
The dichotomy of such situations as described here in Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee;-)
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #13
This s agility. I am rubbing my head how to respond.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #12
I fear you may watch the HSN channel and wait for the Gensui knives to roll up! LOL You make me want to sleep with one eye open.
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #11
Ha! Not a chance...especially with a sneak attack! Lorena's rule...Wait until it's sleeping;-)
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #10
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #9
What i find so amazing is the ease which creativity flows within revenge. But ask how you follow the golden rule in such cases and its like the brain becomes a vacuum of space time with no stars. I blame it on the teenage years. That time where the frontal lobes are watching the rest of the brain form itself. Revenge and other reactions without executive functions are securely planted then we get reasoning. But those teenage thoughts lay dormant until the next time we need them.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #8
Be careful Cyndi wilkins should the aggressor have a sharper knife in the pocket!!!
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #7
Familiarity killed the cat, but now I am afraid it is reflecting on us.
Cyndi wilkins
منذ 4 سنوات #6
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #5
Familiarity breeds contempt. I am bending the definition of the phrase a bit, but it applies. When we become familiar with a certain way of living that includes escalating revenge and defensive tactics, contempt builds. We begin to see everyone as friend or foe. Before you know it folks with red shoes on are all foes. Those with blue shoes must be friends. Allowing folks to present themselves through fellowship then deciding is gone. This is foxhole that depression, anxiety and many other emotional chaos cycles grow.
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #4
Very-well stated comment Harvey Lloyd. One aim of publishing the post is beautifully conveyed in your comment "Aggressive for ourselves and defensive towards others", The trouble is that with technology opening doors to increase this paradigm is continuing and it is causing chaos. Revenge is becoming easy and on many fronts. Your comment with that of Cyndi wilkins on LinkedIn on this buzz shall be the topic of a forthcoming post. Thank you both for the inspiration.
Harvey Lloyd
منذ 4 سنوات #3
Ali Anani
منذ 4 سنوات #2
What amazes me is that new technologies have opened the door for creative ideas that are SMART and almost free of charge for the nimble minds. I think this phenomenon has not been addressed in depth. Thank you dear Debasish Majumder for commenting, liking and sharing the post. O call you from now "The wonderful Poet".
Debasish Majumder
منذ 4 سنوات #1