A Wrong Question to Ask- Which is greater fear or love?
Three events urged me to write this post. The first one triggered me to write the draft. The second added to the urged me to complete the draft. The third sparked me to finish the editing of the draft.
I remembered an Arabic wisdom (most references attributes it to Prophet Mohammed, but there are few references that attribute it to other sources).
اعمل لدنياك كأنك تعيش أبدا واعمل لآخرتك كأنك تموت غدا
Work for your world as if you shall never die and work for the afterlife as if you were to die tomorrow.
Fay Vietmeier asked me if I quitted my recent habit of publishing one post each week. Why I publish posts sometimes sooner than what I planned for? I thought first it was my wish to keep the integrity of the related posts. Probing more the real reason emerged; fear of losing the integrity of posts wasn’t the root fear. It was leaving this world tomorrow without revealing my thoughts being an old man was the prime reason.
One fear masks another and bigger hidden fear. Don’t assume your fears. Find their root causes.
Soon later, Franci commented on my post as follows. "You've got to believe in the possibilities. You've got to believe that tomorrow can be better than today. And here's the big one. Believe in yourself." - Jim Rohn
Franci wrote on to write the quote below:
Each and every act from each one of us is a piece of the puzzle. Whether big or small, we must be sure our piece of the puzzle is a fit for betterment of others, as well as ourselves. Franci Eugenia Hoffman
Now is not the time to ignore nor is it the time to make hasty decisions.
Taken by amazement, I responded to Franci’s comment in part “I just don't believe my eyes @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador.
You quoted Jim Rohn "You've got to believe in the possibilities". In the draft I am writing now I have written the following:
Create possibilities by asking questions like those in the next image- you noticed the word I used possibilities.
Below is the image that summarizes the “possibility-Opening Questions”. Dissipate your focus on negative feelings by creating greater new possibilities. If you don’t have possibilities create them.
The final trigger came from Harvey Lloyd , who in a private message rebuffed the idea of focusing on anger and fear and the associated risks.
My emotions mandated the world to be according to my needs. My anger was motivated because no one else saw my needs.
Harvey Lloyd
This coincided with me writing in the draft of this post the image below. I used the photographer approach as to when to focus on a camera shot as a metaphor to as when we should focus on an image of fear, anger or any negative feeling. I find this camera metaphor quite telling.
Assumptions are snaky and misleading. They freeze us. Assumptions on negative feelings are even worse. Explore your assumptions. Dilute them, or better remove them and get engaged with the horizons the questions open for you.
We experience the corona nightmare these days. If we ask pessimistic questions such as “what will happen to me if I am attacked by the virus” I become more liable to fall prey to it. Worry stresses and weakens the body. However; If I ask positive questions such as “How I can avoid infection by the virus” I open possibilities for real choices.
Don’t close doors; at least leave a crack open.
I hope by now that the reader discovered the wrongness of the title of this post. It is not who is stronger fear or love; more it is how to make feelings of love stronger and more possible.
I dedicate this post to @Franci Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador for her spirit opens possibilities for her readers. She echoes with her euphonious voice the song of possibilities.
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Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #61
Greatly appreciate your feedback David Shorenstein
David Shorenstein
منذ 3 سنوات #60
Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
منذ 3 سنوات #59
hahaha
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #58
Great idea
Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
منذ 3 سنوات #57
How about you write it and I'll take the credit? *smirk*
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #56
How we chose to deal with emotion can define us. By Joyce \ud83d\udc1d Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee. This is a great idea. You are right as I did the same with my anger to tame it.
Joyce 🐝 Bowen Brand Ambassador @ beBee
منذ 3 سنوات #55
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #54
Brian McKenzie Your comment merits a post on its own. You highlight a hugely-important issue- that is conflict of values. Obviously, your value of freedom is greater than love. For Romeo and Juliet "love is greater than death". I shall ponder more and more on your comment. It makes me think. So, I shall be attentive to it soon with my reflections.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #53
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #52
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee At times something can be said ... written ... numerous, repeated times ... and then one day: received ;~) understood ;~) ... New ... Fresh "God can only do for me what I allow Him to do in me" This truth I have written into many post ... many comments ... since I've been writing on beBee ... it is skimmed over ... perhaps not seen ;~) and them in a moment ;~) grasped ;~)
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #51
Fay Vietmeier WOW thousand times "God can only do for me what I allow Him to do in me". This is a post for you to write. Fantastic!
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #50
Fay Vietmeier Yes mentor- you do shine by saying this "Discovery is its own reward ;~) There is a new cluster "Discovery Ideas".
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #49
Fay Vietmeier Dear Mentor- Please add your name to the list. You are honey-producer. I thank you for your compliment and it shines like an original and natural well-crystallised pearl.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #48
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee My focus is on pleasing my Father in heaven and Jesus my Savior ... to see what he will make of me ;~) as I follow Him ;~) ... and to whole-heartedly to cooperate with His Holy Spirit For I have learned that God can only do for me what I allow Him to do in me ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #47
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Learning is said to be the "master skill" We share this gift That is why God, the Master-Weaver crossed our paths Pearl seekers are pearl finders Discovery is its own reward ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #46
Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I'm not sure if you know that our dearest Professor is how I found my way to beBee I know you are both "Ambassadors" ... not sure how that status is earned (?) But having the attitude & attributes of being an ambassador SHINES in you both ;~) both offer engagement and ... inspiration as honey ;~)
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #45
Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I am a learner - a lifelong learner. I spent most of today writing the draft of my post for next Monday. It is titled "The Fractal Wheel of Design Thinking ". As much as exhausted myself writing the first draft as much as I enjoyed it. Spicy pain that generated joyful cry (thanks to Fay Vietmeier who coined this term). I learnt while writing this post of my being far from knowing and that a new fractal emerged from the fact that the more I know, the lesser I know. Add knowledge, but you also add much more of what in unknown and unknowable. It is an endless fractal.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #44
Fay Vietmeier Your comment explains the nickname you have "The spiritual spring of spirituality". It is not the sender only and not the receiver only- it is both. So, as much as you think of me, I think of you. I am glad you mentioned the word euphonious. Yes, your words too are sweet-singing.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #43
Fay Vietmeier So, where is your focus these days? Is it on exploring assumptions? On writing poetry? On visiting your famous draft folder? Is it on spiritual quotes? Or, all of them? Maybe even others
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #42
Franci🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee ... I do not the history with beBee that many do but I so echo our dear Professor ... your contribution is rich and worthy of recognition ;~) loved the word that was chosen euphonious "sweet-sounding" ... your words have blessed so many bees ;~) ... including me ;~) Beautiful that you be the one honored here ... very deserved ;~)
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #41
Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador We picked up on the same word Franci "assumptions" ... ... from a part of my comments below #20 5) “collect information ... ask as many questions as possible” = gain understanding (this may reveal “fears” ... “pain”) “embedded assumptions” are like embedded bias’s ... we all have them ;~) Very insightful: “Explore your assumptions” ... it has been said: that to assume is to make an “ass of U-me” ... explore your assumptions” ... To me this requires: awareness to know you are “assuming” ... and the ability to question: what am I assuming & why Our focus is going to take us to a destination: right or wrong ... good or bad One should question: “Where is my focus”
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #40
Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador I am truly speechless for your comments says all what I wished to communicate. WE are stressed and worrying adds to our stress. This way we weaken our immunity at times we need it to be at its peak. This is an attempt to open possibilities and new paths for thinking. I am glad the post appeals to you for I dedicated it for you.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #39
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee "A am close ... even far away" ... now ponder where you would like to go ;~) When in quiet time ... Try to add another line But take it slow ... you never know how the words might flow ;~)
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #38
Dear Fay Vietmeier The proof is that I have just dared to send you my first ever lyrics. I am close even far away
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #37
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee "I am building a castle near you " ... I hope that is true ;~) If you keep hanging out with me my dear Professor ... you'll hear about "mansions being prepared for us" ... "In my Fathers house are many mansions"
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #36
Dear Fay Vietmeier I write short posts for LinkedIn because I want to keep at least a shadow of me there. I am building a castle near you to learn more about spirituality. my mentor.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #35
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee 1) Cudos to you for LinkedIn engagement ;~) “Walk as if your feet are kissing the earth.” ... to me this conveys a lightness of spirit ;~) ... Presence of Peace If your feet are in sand ... I hope you're building castles by the seashore ;~)
Bill Stankiewicz
منذ 3 سنوات #34
YOUR THE Kindest man I know :~))
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #33
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #32
Fay Vietmeier Dear mentor- I feel now that my feet are sinking in the sand.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #31
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Honesty should not be afraid ... although it is at times hard to be honest "Speak the truth in love" ... even hard truth can be delivered with love ;~) “Walk as if your feet are kissing the earth.” ... what a beautiful way to be grateful ;~)
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #30
Fay Vietmeier You are an example of a mentor who is brutally honest. I am so when I say this. And this is why you keep your feet are kissing the earth.
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #29
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee “We need ... wonderment to see with appreciation and love” Now here is another “pearl” my dear Professor ... I shall add this to my “full-cup syndrome” post ‘~) Cynicism is the enemy of BELIEF … hope, joy, dreams ... and wonder “I dwell in possibility” ~ Emily Dickenson “Walk as if your feet are kissing the earth.” “We need ... wonderment to see with appreciation and love” ~ Ali Anani "There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is." – Albert Einstein 2) “Can we uncover our assumptions without asking questions?” ... NO ! ... Most important: we need to ask ourselves ... and be brutally honest ;~)
Ali Anani
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Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #27
Part 2 addressed to Fay Vietmeier ... it has been said: that to assume is to make an “ass of U-me” ... explore your assumptions” ... To me this requires: awareness to know you are “assuming” ... and the ability to question: what am I assuming & why My dear Fay- can we uncover our assumptions without asking questions? It is limiting our boundary within a limited space that confine us to where we are. To ask is to see the wrongness of assumptions and the emergence of even better assumptions that are less restricting. One should question: “Where is my focus” Again my dear mentor- we try different directions to find the one to focus on. See ants and bees search for food in different places before focusing on the best alternative. Questions are aimed to send us flying to different places and then we decide which one is best for us to focus on. Thank you dear for your inspiration.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #26
Dear Fay Vietmeier Your comments are posts with each comment standing as a post on its own. This comment of yours testifies to what I am saying (not assuming). ... “find the root cause” this is the pearl to so much in life ... this will determine one’s ability to grow personally & spiritually Yes dear Fay- you know where the pearl is. I said that the journey is full of pearls for us to find. This is a pearl that you found and I love it. Possibility is like opportunity ... it is everywhere The question is can we see? This is a great question my spiritual mentor. If we aren't blinded by assumptions them we may see. We need the wonderment to see with appreciation and love. I would add: it is our unmet expectations ... often unexpressed expectations that produce disappointment ... anger & upset Quite right what you add. You remind me (and often you do) with my own posts. I discussed this issue in my presentation: Below the Expectations Line https://www.slideshare.net/hudali15/bel-46134924
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #25
Fay Vietmeier I am still rocking my dear friend
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #24
Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Enjoyable post my dear Professor Rich insight: “One fear masks another and bigger hidden fear. Don’t assume your fears. Find their root causes.” ... “find the root cause” this is the pearl to so much in life ... this will determine one’s ability to grow personally & spiritually 2) “You've got to believe in the possibilities. You've got to believe that tomorrow can be better than today. And here's the big one. Believe in yourself." - Jim Rohn "If you don’t have possibilities create them." Possibility is like opportunity ... it is everywhere The question is can we see? 3) “Wisdom is not hasty” 4) “My emotions mandated the world to be according to my needs. My anger was motivated because no one else saw my needs.” ~ Harvey Lloyd I would add: it is our unmet expectations ... often unexpressed expectations that produce disappointment ... anger & upset 5) “collect information ... ask as many questions as possible” = gain understanding (this may reveal “fears” ... “pain”) “embedded assumptions” are like embedded bias’s ... we all have them ;~) Very insightful: “Explore your assumptions” ... it has been said: that to assume is to make an “ass of U-me” ... explore your assumptions” ... To me this requires: awareness to know you are “assuming” ... and the ability to question: what am I assuming & why Our focus is going to take us to a destination: right or wrong ... good or bad One should question: “Where is my focus”
Fay Vietmeier
منذ 3 سنوات #23
Bill Stankiewicz, \ud83d\udc1d Brand Ambassador Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee It occurs to me that you guys may have started a music movement "rock & roll" '~)
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #22
I am truly humbled
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #21
Exactly what you made me feel reading your post of today dear Bill Stankiewicz, \ud83d\udc1d Brand Ambassador
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #20
Dear Bill Stankiewicz, \ud83d\udc1d Brand Ambassador Just to let you know of my love for you and your post of today you may check my comments om your great post of today and in my most recent post of today here https://www.bebee.com/producer/@ali-anani/new-metaphors-for-lifestyles More will come in my next post next week when I shall refer to your great post. So, your comment makes me feel joyful and proud. Thank you you Bill for being a planter of seeds of hope.
Bill Stankiewicz
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Bill Stankiewicz
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Bill Stankiewicz
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Ali Anani
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Ali Anani
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Jerry Fletcher Hi Jerry- there is an Arabic proverb that says "behind every great man there is a woman". I tweak this proverb to "behind every achieving son there is a mother". No wonder that your life is of of successes that resulted mostly after big falls. I know the secret now. It is ""Greet each day with love and live it because it may be the last. Make it a good day to die".
Jerry Fletcher
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Ali Anani
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I for got to say dear CityVP Manjit that I hope this will not be the last tango.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #12
WOW- that is interesting dear CityVP Manjit I am off to reading your post with curiosity
CityVP Manjit
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Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #10
Recently Zacharias \ud83d\udc1d Voulgaris published a post on antifragility. I am sure he shall find your comment, as ( do, excellent in defining antifrfragility Antifragility John Rylance. "Out of life's school of war: what doesn't kill me,makes me stronger.:- this is a spot on definition of this concept. If we learn from what doesn't kill us we become stronger. Like a minor shot of anti influenza. It makes us more competent and we build intrinsic resistance against it than ever before.
John Rylance
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Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #8
Ned McDonnell Well my friend, since she was our good friend who mentioned the Puzzled that I quoted from her comment in the post I believe she is the authority to respond to your comment. I wish you brighter days than have you ever experienced before in the very near future.
Ali Anani
منذ 3 سنوات #7
When business grows from simple to complicated, complex or chaotic depending among other factors on the growth rate, capacity of the business and the environmental changes surrounding the system then we experience different challenges that require different questions. Challenges of simple systems, for example, are different than those of complex systems in which a small nudge might have big effects. How could we meet challenges of exponentially-growing business with simple questions? You have answered in your comment Harvey Lloyd "The value of each question is exponential and builds in value with each choice". This is a great observation and I wonder if the question of exponential reward of exponential questions have been studied in depth. I do appreciate your comment my friend.
Harvey Lloyd
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Ali Anani
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Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris
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Your feelings are right!
Ali Anani
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Ali Anani
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Ali Anani
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