Converting Pain to Delight

Converting Pain to Delight

In my buzz titled “The Dilution of Pain” I wrote:

The antidote for personal pain is finding a way to release the personal pain and then finding a grand goal bigger than oneself to work on.
Ali Anani

It was a great coincidence that few days ago I watched an Egyptian TV program presented by a well-reputed lady called Mona el-Shazly. In her program, she invited a family who lost their young girl who passed away. I wish the interview was in English, but the grieved family were all in smiles. The mother was well-composed and spoke proudly of her memories and how she managed to turn her grief into an experience to remember. For those who understand Arabic this is the video link for the interview:


The mother spoke of how her daughter asked her frequently why can she have toys to play girls when many other young girls were denied these toys. Her mother explained to her that they lacked money to buy toys. The girl never accepted that she could enjoy having many toys when many others are denied to own even one toy.

When the girl passed away her mother wanted to find a way for the family to remember her. Suddenly, the mother remembered that her deceased young daughter wished that every girl would own a doll. The mother started a campaign urging people to donate toys to distribute them to the poor. The family endorsed the mothers’ idea and volunteered to support her campaign.

The video shows the joy the kids received from having toys of their own. The pleasure in their eyes was much greater than the sorrow the family had for the deceased girl. In the interview the mother spoke proudly of her daughter and how happy she will be because even though her life ended, her dream came into life.

I don’t know the girl. But the joy her sad death caused her family turned into great joy that surpassed their sorrow and filled them with pride. We all shall die one day, but what remains behind is the joy we create for the deprived people to own something.

Yes, we may convert sorrow into joy if we have bigger hearts than ourselves.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#22
This is the concept of the buzz. Thanks for your reflection Marisa Fonseca Diniz

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

Marisa Fonseca Diniz

1 year ago #20

Death in the case of the little girl showed everyone that it is possible to revert sadness into love, to share joy comforts the pain of loss!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#20
Thank you Paul Walters. I am grateful for your very kind and encouraging comment. You know it is a fact that I equally appreciate your buzzes as as they are journeys of discoveries.

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

1 year ago #18

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee I often don't comment on your posts as I often feel that a random comment written on the spur of the moment could be perceived as trite. However, I DO read most of your posts that come your way and find them , like this one most profound. Thank you

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#17
Yes, dear friend and I share your delightful memories of your memorable daughter. Her character spread its seeds all over the places. Always, a new seed flourishes to grow a flower that we all enjoy its smell.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

I am pleasantly shocked to read your beautiful comment dear . Just few minutes ago and prior to reading your comment I uploaded a new buzz "The Healing of Love". Its theme is exactly the last line of your comment. What a coincidence! So, my response to your comment is embedded in my new buzz.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

1 year ago #15

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee Haima has spread her good intention and brought it to life. We all have good intentions bu working on them is a challenge everyone faces. We need to be able to transform our noble ideas into action and bring life to it as the little girl did. Death does not have to be a driving factor to do good, we must be able to do it as a part of our day to day life!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Edward Lewellen- you lost a daughter and this buzz is for you my friend. That loss led you to write your memorable book "The 90-seconds Mind Manager"

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#12
Thank you dear Cyndi wilkins; You rich feelings led you to use appropriately the word heartwarming. This is a real reflection on the story. I wish the video had English subtitles to see how the family endured the loss of their beloved daughter for they fulfilled her her short-life wish. The daughter even though passed away, but her vivid love for other kids is still living.

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

1 year ago #12

Very heartwarming post Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee...Losing a child is the nightmare all parents hope to never experience...However, sharing their grief in this way by making real a daughters wish that all children have toys to play with has given their daughters life deeper meaning within the psyche of all those left behind...It is her legacy of divine love...

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Thank you dear Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador for sharing the buzz. Greatly appreciated

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#9
Thank you dear Debasish Majumder for sharing and commenting. Children can move hearts. It all started with the heart of deceased girl mother who decided to fulfill the wish of her daughter and keep her alive in the hearts and minds. Children can move us to act in unimaginable ways.

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

1 year ago #9

"children are the highest manifestation of divinity". children are always honest. but, i wonder what about the matured's reaction with children? how far they offer respect to children's reflection? do they deserve only matured's gratification? however, great buzz sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! obviously deserves attention to ponder about. enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the buzz sir.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
Exactly as your comment is may be gone, but not forgotten dear John Rylance

John Rylance

John Rylance

1 year ago #7

#6
Possibly like a Phoenix rising from her ashes to be the focus of good works. As is often said Gone but not Forgotten and in this case it is so true. 

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
Thank you dear Fay Vietmeier. Your last line in particular spoke to my heart and captures my attention. I wish I thought of the title "beauty from ashes".

Fay Vietmeier

Fay Vietmeier

1 year ago #5

@AliAnani Ali~ thanks for sharing a story aimed at the heart. Haima Fansa was just a child ... yet she recognized that there were many children who lack ... for even a doll ... this reflects the tender heart of a child. Indeed beautiful that her family turned their grief to joy be honoring their daughter with the small acts of giving dolls in remembrance of her In Scripture this is "beauty from ashes"

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#3
Even if they stay with us for a short while, I hope Jerry that two many similar stories would reach a tipping point to transform us.

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

1 year ago #3

Dr. Ali, Thank you for sharing this story. This like many others from around the world suggest that empathy can be extended after death for a short while. And so it goes.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
Thank you CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit for your comprehensive comment. I don't have a FB account and I am glad you added the link. I tried to find out why the girl passed away, but couldn't find a resource. She comes from a rich family because she lived in a modern district. That is a conclusion. Yes, even though she was well off, still she thought of the poor. Like you said, this story and many others mostly go unnoticed and this is true chaos. We need our world to self-organize and yet we hardly mention such great stories.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

1 year ago #1

Heartwarming story that seems to have its traction in 2018 and the family continue to maintain the legacy of their daughter, though the scale seems to be back to the family and friends level. It is difficult to sustain viral interest in an age where their are a million stories competing for attention, but as far as the family are concerned, they have done what is best for the memory of Haima Fansa https://www.facebook.com/dollforeverygirl/ keeping alive a wish that she made. The Facebook page is focused on the happiness of all the children receiving gifts but there was only the focal point of the original letter but not any back story about Haima herself, her life and how she passed from this world. The legacy and branding of "A doll for every girl" is very good, but i would like to see the actual story of her life beyond the letter that evokes the wish that created the campaigns.

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