Is beBee Becoming a Habit Fractal?
I enjoy reading and the exchange of ideas with interested readers. I used to spend good times reading posts on other platforms and posting on them as well. All of a sudden I found myself much more immersed in beBee and almost solely publishing posts on its site.
Changing habits is not easy. Changing life style and the way we choose to live is even more difficult. I believe lifestyle is the aggregation of our habits and this determines our lifestyles. For example, if I have the habit of eating healthy food combined with the habit of taking my weight regularly to keep a good health then I have an emerging lifestyle based on how my habits interact.
A habit might develop into a series of cascaded habits to form a fractal of habits. To explain, when I am on bee daily then this behavior turns into a habit. If I see selected posts by few bees then I read them right away. If I comment on those buzzes repeatedly then I am building a habit. If I also share the same buzzes then again I am developing a habit. Those habits result in my lifestyle.
The question that I haven't yet answered is pertaining to why did I almost substitute one lifestyle with another in a short time span? Habits hate vacuum and if one habit disappears another habit forms to fill the vacuum. Why did I make the change and leave behind me a fractal of habits? Surely, money is not an issue, but then why?
I believe that we change when two forces act simultaneously. One force is feeling restless where you are because of feeling the injustice. If a platform highlights always the same authors, the majority of authors shall feel ignored. Bad feelings may accumulate to reach a high level of dissatisfaction. In the absence of a suitable substitute the "disheartened authors" shall become prisoners of complaining-based habits. And those habits could lead to bad lifestyles. This may reflect in the negativity with which they comment on.
The other supporting factor is when substitute and powerful publishing platforms comes to life and live to its potential. The complaining authors and readers shall travel to the new platform without hesitation. It is creating a strong internal motivation that made the migration easier
Birds migrate when the weather becomes or close to become harsh and when food is of short supply. It is survival at risk. We humans migrate not only from one country to the other, but also from one platform to another. It seems when we have developed strong motivation that we migrate.
Why then the migration from a bad habit to a good one is difficult? My view is the lack of internal motivation. Like we migrated to beBee with strong motivation from within, we need same motivation to quit smoking cigarettes, as an example.
beBee realizes a great fact that to connect you have to be in the right place, with the right orientation and with no hindrances to accessibility to where you are. It is the same with chemical reactions. No reaction shall happen if molecules (bees) are distant, with the wrong orientation and with hindrances for molecules to interact. Those bees may choose their hives (right location) with clear purposes and with no restrictions allow for bees to connect and react. This is a formula for success.
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Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #57
Your very intuitive Ali Anani. I worry about others to the point that it's not healthy for me. I will always worry and think of others first, it's just my nature. But, I need to find balance. :))
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #56
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #55
It's very busy. The bees that buzz in my head need to rest in their honeycomb at night ;-) I actually went to the Dr about it today. He told me we still need to work on some other pressing issues and I need to put my guilt about not being able to sleep (and getting up later than I prefer) on the back burner. He said once I heal the sleep issue will begin to heal on it's own. I think he's right. He gave me a lot of hope today. The cool thing, he's a DOCTOR and suggested a certain therapy over meds!! It's a therapy I've mentioned and we haven't quite used it yet. It's a slow process but getting closer to beginning that process.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #54
You keep your mind too busy to sleep Lisa Gallagher
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #53
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #52
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #51
I couldn't agree more with you Deb Helfrich and I have the habit to read beBee at 4 dawn time.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #50
If I get one quality comment like this one dear Aurorasa Sima than it shall keep me going for a while. Some comments are filling wth their depth and so I am truly satisfied that you find the time to comment on one of my buzzes, Aurorasa. Big Thank You
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #49
Glad you like this segment of the post Javier beBee. Thank You
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
منذ 7 سنوات #48
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #47
Where the bees blush, there blush I Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #46
As the beautifying comment of yours Margaret Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD shall stay sterile for long times
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #45
I appreciate what you are saying Ali Anani. We have a mutual respect that allows for the exchange of critical thinking; "the objective analysis and evaluation of an issue", idea or opinion.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #44
If Sara Jacobovici makes a critical comment I have to listen because of my awareness of her unique contributions. The source of comment is important in this case. Would you agree?
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #43
I don't know and don't need to know the exact comment Ali Anani. All I can say is that in any community and social engagement, there is a minimum of expectation regarding exchange of opinions. At the same time, we don't have control over others' personalities and so it is important to remember that a negative behavior reflects on the person it's coming from, not at who it was directed.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #42
The enter send the message directly and this is annoying as enter naturally means starting a new line. I started a new line because of you Lisa Gallagher and all my friends here. I love comments, but also I like explanations. If you tell me my writing is bad that is OK. But at least give me one reason so that I may improve. This is the real issue. I make a habit even of extracting the main points or highlighting the part that I liked most so that my feedback may be of benefit and not a comment that is like shooting darts in the darkness..
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #41
: Healthy discussions without pointing fingers, yes, harsh criticism, No".
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #40
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #39
Thank you Anees Zaidi, thinking like this gets me through many tough times. :)) Find a beautiful garden and take that walk. My senses open up literally when I'm surrounded by all the free beauty mother nature shares on planet earth.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #38
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #37
I agree with you dear Anees Zaidi fully. We are where we find more nectar and better environment.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #36
Sara Jacobovici- I am truly honored by your kind words and appreciation. I have not been less influenced by you either. Let us form an idea brush. Yes, I mean it.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #35
Lisa Gallagher- I am publishing in twenty minutes. I shall send you the link. Mind you I changed the title of the buzz to "The Ideas Brush".
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #34
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #33
Ali Anani, well I feel very honored!! Please, if I miss it- will you send me a link? I'm running a hive and I've noticed I missed a few articles contained within my hive too. Thanks for the congrats, we are SO excited. After losing mom, I keep reminding myself if I become sad that we are gaining a new life- that gives me happy chills. When we have grandchildren we can live vicariously through them and with them! The new little one will be loved by so many. He/she also will have loving grandparents on my daughter's husband's side of the family too. My daughter's mother in law is from Okinawa and she's so much fun. We get along like sisters and I've learned so much from her and about her culture.
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #32
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #31
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #30
Sara Jacobovici
منذ 7 سنوات #29
"...we establish our perspective and then foster purpose" Great line CityVP Manjit. As a process oriented person I suggest that this is not linear and that we experience one moving in, through, merging and so on with the other; sometimes purpose comes before perspective, sometimes the 2 come together and form one, and so on. An important insight and provocative thought Mangit. Thank you.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #28
Dears Lisa Gallagher- I am writing a buzz today and your comments have been inspirational. Congrats in advance Lisa and I understand how you feel now with a new baby arriving. 1000 mabrook (1000 congrats)..
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #27
CityVP Manjit, beautiful words and beautiful mantra you live by out of love for your children. We are currently awaiting the arrival of our 3rd grandbaby (we have 2 out in Colorado) and don't get to see them nearly enough. My grandson loves to tell jokes and he told me one last week (he's 5 yrs old), anyhow- he had me laughing so hard he yelled, "Hey dad, Nana can't stop laughing." I think he felt proud that his joke was so funny. My daughter and her husband will be bringing a new life into this world in less than 7 weeks. They live in the same town, so I can't wait to spoil him or her, in a good way!
CityVP Manjit
منذ 7 سنوات #26
nearly 17 years ago I thought the most defining moment in my life, and nothing I have thought before or since has been personally as defining, as my mind 1999 that said......."I don't care if they call me papa or dada, but they are the centre of my universe...not work...them".......I have utterly lived that because it was not simply an passing thought at one point of my life, it was a salute of intent and what has followed I can only call as "BLESSINGS". As I write this now I move into June 1st 2016 - by the time the month finally ends, I will prepare to give away my third daughter and witness the 2nd arrival of the next generation. That thought on 4th December 1999 is firm in my mind because I have always kept that as my compass and I still do. How you Lisa Gallagher or Margaret or Ali Anani et al find your True North is your compass, for the best I can really say here is, keep your compass pointing to the way your heart points. Such a compass is the most supreme of all our habit fractals.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #25
Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD- you are my new discovery here on BeBee. I love your thought and very gladly I shall pass the crayons to you. As you wrote "... in wait to draw us in to rigidity and obligations that are not self-pleasing or self-serving in any way", I am sure you shall not draw rigidity. Your comment is the proof.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #24
I simply and proudly add my voice to yours Lisa Gallagher
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #23
Nature systems grow and emerge following simple rules. I, like you, CityVP Manjit, prefer emergence over control. Even if we control, we change the interaction rules and them something else might emerge. I always wonder if we can design creation, but innovation I believe we can
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #22
All this lovey exchange of comments went on while asleep. Yes, Milos Djukic I love your comment with its fullness that stirred the lovely discussions that followed. You know I agree. The important point for me here was the small changes in policies that led to hugely negative differences by LI. I just wonder why LI made it so easy for us to depart and get out of our "habit attractor" to be on the "ground of LI". Milos, you explain it so well and I second your thoughts.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #21
Margaret Aranda, MD, PhD, I will gladly pass the crayons and even the finger paints! ;-)
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #20
I spent so much time trying to be a serious role model for my children (even though I did teach them through imagination) how to play creatively without toys and use their imaginations. I am just now finding it's OK to be the silly (in a good way) person I've always been, and not to be afraid to share it with others, as long as it's all in good humor and hurts no one, like the video I posted the other day- that WAS the type of person I used to be, carefree. I'm trying to find her again. Just wandering in flower gardens brings back many childhood fantasies for me. Glad you are able to enjoy your child within Milos Djukic, and good point about the beginning of stagnation, could not agree more!
Milos Djukic
منذ 7 سنوات #19
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #18
Milos Djukic
منذ 7 سنوات #17
CityVP Manjit
منذ 7 سنوات #16
Milos Djukic
منذ 7 سنوات #15
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #14
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #13
Javier C\u00e1mara Rica as much as I am. Yes, feelings are excellent on beBee and they promote great exchanges of ideas and their pollination and metamorphosis. We are living this experience.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 7 سنوات #12
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #11
The same minute I was commenting on your buzz CityVP Manjit you were commenting on mine. Your habits are scaling up and the fractal of your habits is shining with authenticity my friend.
CityVP Manjit
منذ 7 سنوات #10
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #9
Great comprehension of the buzz as your grand comment reflects Irene Hackett. I share too your wonderful experience in loving the buzz here.
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #8
That is a genius question debasish majumder would say. A new discussion is emerging from this comment. Thanks Debasish
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #7
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #6
Lisa Gallagher would surely extract something from your comment to describe beBee. I am dedicating my next buzz to you Lisa on "Lubrication of Minds". I shall refer to this comment in the buzz as well.
Lisa Gallagher
منذ 7 سنوات #5
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #4
Thank you Karen Hall. To make beBee more successful we need to highlight good things and to continue making it better. This is an endless journey. With people of your spirit around this is made possible. Big thank you
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #3
So, I got he idea right, Javier C\u00e1mara Rica. This is comforting
Javier Cámara-Rica 🐝🇪🇸
منذ 7 سنوات #2
Ali Anani
منذ 7 سنوات #1
Yes, Michael Jones. There is a critical mass involved. You just notice two neighboring shops selling same items. If one has more shoppers than the other people tend to walk in it. It is the feeling of belonging and that the masses can't be wrong thinking (though it can be wrong). I expect beBee soon to have exponential growth in numbers.