Successful at School, Failing in Life

Successful at School, Failing in Life


A friend of mine complained the other day that his son was top of his class all his life. Everybody expected him to be successful at work, but disappointingly he fell miserably. This isn’t a rare incident and happens frequently. We all need to understand why. This buzz is an attempt to answer the why.

Our live a rhythm. This rhythmΒ  I believe it is analogous to the rhythm of our hearts. We can detect the rhythm of our hearts. When our varying heart rate is plotted over time, the overall shape of the waveform produced is called the heart rhythm pattern. This rhythm changes with our feelings. This becomes chaotic if we experience strong feelings and emotions and notably negative feelings such as anger. The rhythm is almost regular when at peace.

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The successful student had a life of regular rhythm. Doing great at school, getting compliments and rewards for his achievements and being listed on the honor list. Easy life his was till he graduated. Life exposed him to its chaos. Demands at work, gossiping from jealous and less-qualified employees and frustration resulting from not being able to resolve life problems as he used at school. The poor student was prepared for success within limited boundaries. Once he was thrown outside them he failed to comply with its requirements. He became fragile like glass.

Success in life has different parameters and especially during our turbulent times. Like a plant used to grow well in fresh water, but once you add little salty water the plant dies. Likewise; the student had a sweet life, but all of a sudden he was exposed to the salty experiences at work. Why then some plants can get away with living in salty waters? How can we do the same? Or, why would a plant survive nearby the salty Dead Sea? These plants managed to develop deep roots so as to reach even traces of sweet water in the depth. Over time, plants developed multi-pronged strategies to cope with the salty environment. One strategy is having special salt-excreting glands on leaves. Another is the exclusion of salt from entering roots with water uptake (avoidance strategy).

Life is like an experimental pot. You have your plant of success growing, but you never know who would change the ingredients of the pot or the surrounding conditions. A little boy may add salt to it, a sudden exposure to burning sunlight, or whatever. Sudden exposures might kill. The only way to make the plant build resilience first to expose we need to expose it gradually to conditions outside its comfort zone. By adding a little salt first and probe what happens. This way the rhythm of life becomes less regular to which it may adapt and learn.

We need to expose people to the chaotic rhythm of life. Successful people may need this more than the unsuccessful ones.

Expose people gradually to conditions that they don’t favor. We can’t lead a normal life in conditions that aren’t normal. It is as simple as that. If not, our hearts’ rhythm will stay chaotic because we didn’t prepare to meet chaos with a smaller dose of chaos. This is the antidote.


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Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#88
You moved me with this line in your comment Sara Jacobovici. It is " In a way, we do a disservice to the successful student to have him or her assume that things can be the same once they complete their academic education. I appreciate your analogy". This is a great point. I believe the root cause to it is our tendency to think linearly and extrapolate the past to the future. We extend success at school to success in life. The students are not to blame for they are still inexperienced. We are the ones responsible to expose them to "real life" so that they may realize the non-linearity of life. Thank you again dear Sara for your comment is concise and to the point.

Sara Jacobovici

Sara Jacobovici

3 years ago #71

Agreed Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. This is why many education programs have an internship component. The student is still within the safe boundaries of the education environment but is exposed to "real life". In a way, we do a deservice to the successful student to have him or her assume that things can be the same once they complete their academic education. I appreciate your analogy, "Our live a rhythm. This rhythm I believe it is analogous to the rhythm of our hearts. We can detect the rhythm of our hearts." Maybe if academic education and life education were more in synch, then there would be more successful outcomes. Thanks again for an insightful buzz Dr. Ali.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#86
thank you Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

Lada 🏑 Prkic

3 years ago #69

#85
You don't need to thank me, Ali. :-) Your posts are more than worth sharing. I'm sorry for not commenting lately, but I always try to read those I see on my wall. There's always something to learn from your posts. Regards.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Very special thanks to Lada \ud83c\udfe1 Prkic for sharring this buzz. And I mean it to say thank you Lada.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#82
thank you Yolanda \u00c1vila M\u00e1rquez and I am checking on the book as soon as I post this comment. I loved your comment. You are very correct "Many people achieve success in life after overcoming very adverse circumstances but after having lived deep life experiences". I agree with you all the way

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#81
if I have a wish then it is that you made this comment earlier . It would have attracted the attention of other commentors. It is deep. If I have another wish it is that you expand your comment into a buzz. And I truly hope you do.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#78
basically I am interested my friend Vincenzo De Florio. I shall message you tomorrow with my thoughts. It is always an honor to gain your confidence.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#77
Vincenzo De Florio ny dear friend you are spot on. I am relieved that you find the buzz interesting. I fully agree with every word in your subtle comment.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#75
My reply is short and I hope to the point dear Tausif Mundrawala. It is you would have never been where you are now as a respected thinker without the experience that you had as a child.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#72
I wish if I could answer your question CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit. Sometimes I feel logical thinking is not.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#71
If I had the power to distribute your comment worldwide CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit I wouldn't hesitate for a moment. Just at least to absorb your line "...his expectations feel more like an added weight to his son". Why put heavy loads on our kids and then expect them to move fast or freely? How often we tend to forget the basics of life is an issue that amazes me.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

3 years ago #60

A irregular heartbeat is a sign of a healthy heart, that is what makes life fractal. A regular heartbeat is the stuff of personal brand. http://reylab.bidmc.harvard.edu/tutorial/DFA/node7.html We have become really good at painting whitewash on existence and as we smoke the dope of painting life as success, we join in a collective failure to create unnecessary expectation and listen to the ownership society portray its view of life on the "have nots". Why should we expect anything different if the mentality promotes a certain view of life as being better than a more realistic appraisal of reality.

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

3 years ago #59

I wonder what the friend of yours would complain after the suicide of his son. Then he would yearn for him to be failure but a failure who is still alive especially those fathers who have talked to an overwhelmed son who is further condemned by the weight of expectations that the word "failure" brings and now live with a memory. Shit happens to people and sometimes a tonne of shit, and this is another example of why the polished shine of personal branding is so personally offensive to me. Just because life is kind to a person and they sit in the privilege of what life has given, does not mean that life is shit-proof. Maybe the father who complained about his son needs another look in the mirror because his expectations feel more like an added weight to his son, especially if his son happened to read this online and that became the straw that broke the camels back. It is called be on the receiving end of life and also a receiving end where shit happens. This shit can take many forms and in some cases people recover but in a few cases they do not. We tend to ignore this abject reality and socially we have got good at brushing "real life" under the carpet. That is until some poor soul writes something that opens up reality window and then for a moment we all rush in and applaud that truth - but we also go straight back into the language of success we use to cover this abject reality, because there is a reason we put this out of mind and out of sight in our own lives when we "can't handle the truth". That is a great movie line and when we preach success, we preach the movie of life, not actually live the reality of life.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Lisa Vanderburg would comment today

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#62
Brian McKenzie sometime the noise is the sokution. It is our assumption it is a noise before having the proof.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#61
thank you Jerry Fletcher for your analytical approach. You wrote "Those that are creative are denied the right to grow and develop way too often". You remind me of a real story. A student asked the teacher about a step in a chemical reaction and its driving force. The response was "it is like that. All you need to do is memorizing the steps". No wonder students quite often hate chemistry even though it is a highly interesting science. Not only we tend to block creativity, but also stop students from logical thinking.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#60
great comment Franci\ud83d\udc1dEugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador. The students who failed to turn their output of acsdemic input to input at work. This is a grest way of describing the dilemma.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#59
Paul Walters grest comment in the reverse direction. I believe in it. In my teaching experience my best classes were those night hours students. They worked during the day. Even though they were tired from work they were keen to study. They wanted to couple work experience with academic qualification.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#58
CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit look forward to your engaging comments

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven- sad story, butprovides a real story. Tha nk you for sharing it. Chaos is turning success into failure.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#57
Preston \ud83d\udc1d Vander Ven- sad story, butprovides a real story. Tha nk you for sharing kit.

Jerry Fletcher

Jerry Fletcher

3 years ago #50

Ali, my take on this is that people must do in order to learn to think. What our schools are turning out is people who can regurgitate in order to pass. Those that are creative are denied the right to grow and develop way too often. A local high school as late as the 1950's did not teach college prep. it had for most young men (and a very few women) a course that began with learning how to do engineering drawing. That was just the first piece of a four year project that required the students to design and build an aircraft literally from the ground up. That included building the engine and all other parts. The final test was if the plane flew. Part of the problem with the education model is that little or no teachers with the knowledge to do it themselves that are capable of that kind of teaching over an extended time are available.

Franci 🐝Eugenia Hoffman, beBee Brand Ambassador

It seems those that do well in school yet fail at work lose their crutch. School can provide a comfort zone because you're there for input. Your job wants your output if you plan on staying in the workforce. Plus some have the ability to slide through school, which doesn't always work while in a job.

Paul Walters

Paul Walters

3 years ago #48

Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee For me it was the reverse, good at games not so good in the classroom! It was a break after school and only then to the university that changed the way I thought. Take the competition out of the group for a while ...I soared. I applied the same methods in business and viola ! things simply sailed along!

CityVP Manjit

CityVP Manjit

3 years ago #47

#51
Ironically I am getting ready to go to college for my club meeting. I am free from work and study tomorrow and will join in the conversation at that time.

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #46

#55
Me too Harvey....you done right by your kids by keeping vile words like 'winner' and 'loser' out of it!

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

3 years ago #45

#52
Everyone is a winner. Unfortunately we as a society have decided that in our social aspirations we need to define winning and losing. Winning and losing is a personal concept that has made its way into social engineering. We taught our children very early on that if you want to be average then be average. Greatness is a choice and is defined by the individual. Amazingly one daughter came to us in 11th grade and stated she wished we had pushed her harder as college was looming and her grade point average was average. She raised it and went to the college of here choice. But she did it from her motivation not ours. This was her transition to adulthood. At 14 we began the journey of separation. My wife didn't feel the need nor enjoyed the process. My greatest fear has always been the co-dependency that children can develop with parents. We share a great friendship with our children and grandchildren. But i am relieved to say they both can manage life without me or my wife. Ironically as we age i want to rejoin them in a co-dependency just to be a part of what's going on. But we manage ourselves when to and when not to join. There is a big difference from transitioning children from the nest and kicking them into the world with knowledge from education. I will take savy over smarts anyday.

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #44

#25
Harvey Lloyd, you are one of the most successfully-equipped people one could ever have the fortune to meet! Education is a word that should be separated from schooling, as you have taught me so very much!

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #43

#21
Absolutely Cyndi wilkins comments are bang on: gimme a grafter any day! As a parent, I encouraged my kids to work part-time in holidays from about age 14. They learned the value of money and better social skills than mere 'education' could teach them. They also did Tae Kwon Do from age 8 (got to 2nd dan BB) to help their confidence and control their emotions to serve them, not work against them!

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #42

#30
Couldn't agree more Proma \ud83d\udc1d Nautiyal! Our kids were 6 & 7 when we moved to the US, and we were aghast by the educational 'everyone's a winner' mentality, which may be nice and upbeat but damaging in the long run. This over-effuse approach inevitably leads to splits as kids age, so they came up with answers for that too - kids that weren't 'winning' were labeled with ADD and medicated. So stupid. The American state-school system is pretty damn appalling!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

Dear CityVP \ud83d\udc1d Manjit- you are rooted in educational experiences. Your thoughts here shall be greatly appreciated.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#49
Not a buzz is surely worthy without a comment from you my dear Lisa Vanderburg. Your readiness to share your life experiences is amazing. Now, I know what is the theme of my next post. It is about having contradicting feelings. Feelings that are not in harmony with each other (ambivalence). I feel joyful to read your comment with the simultaneity of feelings sad for your endeavored and labored in your childhood as well as now. Will sure reflect on this comment in my next buzz.

Lisa Vanderburg L

Lisa Vanderburg

3 years ago #39

Not a thorough read as I'm up to my eye-balls in duct tape & boxes! I offer an extreme example Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee that I hope may be helpful. My father kept his children so confounded and isolated that, for the most part, we were ill prepared for outside living. This is going to sound really dumb, but for me it meant things like making money, paying bills; the normal stuff that kids pick up from their parents wasn't even on the radar. He was all-consuming and life was all about him, as he perpetually compounded the concept that we could not even breathe without his say-so as we were worthless. The concept of happiness was a lie, for we would just fail and die; that's what he taught us. I made sure my kids knew about the world and were loved unconditionally. More important, I knew that boundaries we what made for a happy child to be free with - not chains and terror.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#47
great dad you have as he is still living in your memory and in experiencing life. Yes reading books on different subjects enriches our minds. When reading becomes a habit we keep in the flow because we are not stressed by exams. We read to discover and later on we cross pollinate ideas that we stored in our minds. Relaxation in reading is surely a great way to develop and succeed.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#45
thank yoou Puneet Srivastava. Sounds an interesting idea

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#43
ok three weeks dear Irene \ud83d\udc1d Rodriguez Escolar. Still a great accomplishment

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #35

#31
three weeks, mister Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee almost 3000 pages between the three books, the last of them has more than 900

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#40
Prior to reading your comment I addressed my previous comment to my friend Vincenzo De Florio. If his answer is yes then surely I shall write at more depth on this topic. I salute you and your very friendly and words thst are real boosters for me.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

A question to dear Vincenzo De Florio- do you think this buzz on antifragility of education would be suitsble for your forthcoing symposium? Please let me know.

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

3 years ago #32

#39
Dear Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee you know how much I love your writing. Your writing is education to me. The ideas from your treasured mind will/should be shelved in libraries and e-books for generations to come. I would be very happy if you write a buzz with this message as the purpose of your buzz. Our purpose on education shall then find us.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#37
dear Milos Djukic- if I wanted to write the purpose of this buzz I surely would steal your writing "The day schools equip children to draw education from everything they see, hear, their activity, interactions, friendships, failures, success etc etc is the day when true education dawns"! Thank you for drawing my attention to the post of Vincenzo De Florio. He is a great thinker. More than resilience we need antifragile educational systems. Antifragility means ckoming out better than we started when exposed to stress. Who else but dear would reflect on this?

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

3 years ago #30

Education is to bring progress. To help us evolve in better version of ourselves. To train our minds. To prep us to be equipped for the future. Sadly today's education fails to equip the younger generation. Education should teach us resilience, kindness, generosity and courage to face our fears. Education doesn't end after high school. This post by Prof. Milos is education (https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6325405137745645568) This article by Dr Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee is Education. The day schools equip children to draw education from everything they see, hear, their activity, interactions, friendships, failures, success etc etc is the day when true education dawns!

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

🐝 Fatima G. Williams

3 years ago #29

Education is to bring progress. To help us evolve in better version of ourselves. To train our minds. To prep us to be equipped for the future. Sadly today's education fails to equip the younger generation. Education should teach us resilience, kindness, generosity and courage to face our fears. Education doesn't end after high school. This post by Prof. Milos is education (https://www.linkedin.com/feed/update/urn:li:activity:6325405137745645568) This article by Dr Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee The day schools equip children to draw education from everything they see, hear, their activity, interactions, friendships, failures, success etc etc is the day when true education dawns! This comment was posted on Prof Mikos post as well.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#35
yes and I agree fully. Your comments and the rest of comments here make me wonder if we need disruptive thinking in education. I wonder what you think Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

3 years ago #27

#29
There truly isn't a universal fit of education. My thoughts would be to assist our children in exploration, they can find their fit. Great focus and understanding.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#30
Yes, and I truly enjoyed your comment Proma \ud83d\udc1d Nautiyal. You wrote "Which in turn causes them to be negative, depressed, and perpetually upset/complaining". I could not agree more. One of my closest friends who was an A student committed suicide. He left a message that he did so because he felt so depressed that his performancce at work sluggished behind his academic achievements. He could not contain his frustration.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#29
thank you Aaron \ud83d\udc1d Skogen. Success in education is linked to grades but grades failure to be matched with work performance is still way behind.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#27
yes, but to varying degrees. The rate of schools drop out is the proof

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#24
in three days only. Amazing

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal

Proma 🐝 Nautiyal

3 years ago #22

One thing that I feel is occuring frequently in the current day/generation is appreciating children to much for their achievements. And the manner of appreciation, too is focused on how smart they are, how intelligent they are , so on and so forth. Soon, when they are exposed to the larger world, they start feeling inadequate and not in sync with what they believed themselves to be. Which in turn causes them to be negative, depressed, and perpetually upset/complaining. One way of handling this issue, is starting at a young age and appreciating the child for things which are truly an achievement, truly being key here. Also the words that's should be used should be such as, "you put in a lot of hard work to this test so you got good grades." In this case, the child is not led into believing how smart they are but that it was their hard work that brought them their success. Excellent buzz, Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! This is something that should be brought to notice of more and more people. Sharing. Thank you!

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#25
I don't think you are biased in your perspective Harvey Lloyd. This is well reflected in your writing "Unfortunately the scores do not reflect generalization of the material. They explain knowledge and my ability to memorize certain areas that will be tested". The other day I met with a graduate in electrical engineering and he didn't know Ohn's Law. Yes education should improve the quality of learning as well as qualification for understanding life and its challenges.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

3 years ago #20

A discussion surrounding the institutional learner as they transition into the world of employment.

Harvey Lloyd

Harvey Lloyd

3 years ago #19

I am somewhat skewed when it comes to education so please accept my bias. Within education there are books, people and schedules. Books age, the education of teachers gets old and the schedules are always under pressure to deal with swelling classrooms. The most important aspect of education is accountability. We must have scores of knowledge learned to prove we have learned the material. Unfortunately the scores do not reflect generalization of the material. They explain knowledge and my ability to memorize certain areas that will be tested. This creates an environment whereby i can learn the system and be successful within the grade and institution. Does this translate into the real world. I believe for most it does, eventually. But some require that professor, books-student relationship in order to feel confident in their efforts. This is a real challenge as we have inner office professors and customer professors who now give us grades. Quite nebulous also, when seeking a syllabus. I have experienced this with fresh from college employees who eventually ask, Just tell me what you want me to do. In the end our education no matter how labeled should help us succeed at life. The only grade for this, is the one you give yourself. The education system would have you scored differently.

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #18

#20
https://www.lauragallego.com/libros/sagas/memorias-de-idhun/ my oldest son and I read the triology in 3 weeks. housework felt slightly πŸ˜…

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #17

#19
I remember that my mother scolded me for reading until dawn, tomorrow you have class, told me. I have to control myself, if a book falls into my hands until I do not finish it, I'm not comfortable. BeBee happens to me, I forget to eat, there are so many interesting articles to learn, and to be inspired...πŸ˜€

Cyndi wilkins

Cyndi wilkins

3 years ago #16

This comment by gets my vote... ".Parenting skills - Much more difficult for materially spoilt kids who don't know the value of money to achieve success versus those who learn the value of hard work in life." Being successful in life is not measured by how much money you make...It is rather the 'measure of a man/ or woman'...and how much integrity you have...

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #15

#14
dear Ali anani, I do not judge πŸ˜…. I love reading, you learn a lot by reading. with my maor daughter was an ordeal until he discovered the manga (Japanese comics) from there debora, but he does it through the internet, now it is the little one who offers resistance. I read that you do not have to force them in due time they will, I read a lot, now articles written in beBee, like yours.

Zacharias 🐝 Voulgaris

Very educational article. Indeed, success in life differs greatly from success in an academic environment, due to the high levels of chaos in the former.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#13
for me rewards were incentive to read. Inlessthan two years I developed the ha bit of reading. The effect of rewards became nill.

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #12

#11
#12 also families must educate in resilience. They do not get an idea of ​​what the previous school year of my children has been like for me, because the educational system does not work for everyone, it standardizes the contents and stigmatizes who is different. and families or let themselves be carried away by that collective mass ... or decide to fight against the current, with the stigma that it entails. I never reward the good grades of my sons and daughters, they must learn that it is a good thing, that gives them knowledge. https://www.bebee.com/producer/@mariamerino/mentalidad-colectiva

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#11
Homogenized students is unlike make using of their different talents. I agree with you David Navarro L\u00f3pez. Schools are teaching according to the books and are not preparing students for life. I used to think this is only in developing countries, but seems the issue is global. We need to teach students for life and not only limit them to books that most of them become redundant in few years time.

David Navarro LΓ³pez

David Navarro LΓ³pez

3 years ago #10

First of all, I need to show my complete disagreement with the actual school system, as it is based on a wrong concept on which there are no individuals, with singular talents, but a "mass" that needs to be "homogenized". Therefore, being successful at school, I am sorry, means not much to me in terms of becoming a real human being who could probably have a meaningful life, but instead, being a "mechanical part" of the system, so, no wonder a good student can have problems when going out to the real world, because at school they do not prepare our children to be resilient human beings who can further develop themselves.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#8
You remind me of turbulence we created for the bees. Some researches agree that bees are dying because they lost communication because of the interference of the mobile lines with the electromagnetic lines that bees use to navigate and communicate. I hope we aren't ;losing ours as well.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#7
Thank you Irene \ud83d\udc1d Rodriguez Escolar. Your question is challenging. The rhythm of change during my childhood was far less than today. WE only had a black and white TV, and few cinemas. Our time was mostly on playing simple games and reading books. My father used to reward each book we read AND summarized or for each math problems we solved with tickets to the movies. That was our dream. But later, he didn't object to us trying to sell goods to students to get refusals, mocking at us or selling the undesired products. These life lessons taught us a lot. There are experiences in life that unless we practice we shall never appreciate.

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

3 years ago #7

#6
migration is truly intriguing, i guess sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee and even in present case of biological clock, which has made huge turbulent in science, ignoring that clock also changed it design and along with the plenty of lives forms which have extincted from this planet, failing to adapt or rather in built clock may not warn them of the untoward incident they are suppose to confront with. i wonder, how people failed to fathom that even we possess atomic clock now, what about so many organisms, who are extincts. is failing of migration is synonymous to extinction?

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

Irene 🐝 Rodriesco

3 years ago #6

#1
great points 2,3 that would drink to be emphasized and valued by the society. Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee. As a mother I have reached a point where far from following norms and general guidelines, I listen to adults, talk about the behavior of my sons and daughters, I listen to my sons and daughters their opinion, and told the adult population, I make the feelings of my sons and daughters before the ideas of adults. That unfortunately makes you go against the current. Most adult population, not listening and not put in place, feel like the child population or less. In the case you describe I would love to know the ideas of when you were a boy, your concerns, that would have helped him in his adult life. Of course we must educate our sons and daughters in the value of the effort that comes with getting things. And learn that failures are part of life and we must learn from them.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#5
But we migrated away from this thinking cycle dear Debasish Majumder. Do you agree?

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

3 years ago #4

#4
i guess, sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee, reflections of nature used to play major role in our faculty, whether we may throw fish or stone, surely intending to have different results, and from external world our sensation developed, followed by conception. then logic trigger, inducing them to garner raw knowledge, which by virtue of exercise and experiment evolved into more developed form of knowledge, a changing phenomena thus proceeds.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#2
Absolutely dear Debasish Majumder below. You know that before we throw a fish in a fish pond we first throw it in a tank of water. Once the fish adapts we take the risk of throwing it in the fish pond. Change is there, but being prepared to face it is another issue.

Ali 🐝 Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee

#1
I was hoping that comments would broaden the scope of this buzz dear . Your comment is exactly what I hoped for. All three factors you highlight are significant in my opinion. You know we are like passengers on a plane and flying in turbulent weather. You know when the plane suddenly descends and how we feel. We tend to wait to experience this suddenly. Pilots don't feel the same as passengers do because they have been exposed gradually to these circumstances. It is our tendency to allow our kids to be exposed to sudden changes that they have never anticipated or experienced that put them off-balance. I concur entirely with your comment.

Debasish Majumder

Debasish Majumder

3 years ago #1

lovely buzz sir Ali \ud83d\udc1d Anani, Brand Ambassador @beBee! i wonder, how our brain works in order to assimilate the external frequencies or rhythm being played by the nature. for example, when we hear the sound of thunderbolt or fire crackers, we being engrossed in our work, can comfortably discriminate the sound and accordingly remain unperturbed. now, i guess, it is the ability of adaptation with the frequencies of external world may eventually enable one to achieve success. many fail to adapt, resulting to act hyper with the external stimuli and appeared to be weird in our social milieu. however, wonderful buzz sir. enjoyed read and shared. thank you for the share.

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